ask_dafremen Dafremen Last call. I won't be starting any other blathes along these lines. No reasonable question will be refused. (I'll even try to answer the unreasonable ones if that's ok.) I'm not sure how long I will be around, but I'm hoping until October..maybe later. Could be sooner. This is a continuation of ask_daf and dafremen_answers_five_questions 030823 ... ferret 1.does that mean you could be leaving? 2. if one wished to marry two where would they get hitched? 3. iggledy piggledy boo? 4. 2l3l23lk52jENG23523432, yes or no? 5. if yes then why? if no then why? 030823 ... blown cherry What do you do when you know that the person that you love has fallen out of love with you? 030909 ... Dafremen 1. Yes it does. 2. If by your question, you mean, where would one go if one wanted to become married to more than one PERSON. I might suggest: Uganda, Malaysia, Swaziland, Gambia, India, Pakistan, Iraq, Iran or, a bit closer to home..British Columbia in Canada, which hasn't legalized polygamy, but which has refused to enforce its laws against the practice. If by your question, you were asking where you might go if YOU wanted to preside over the ceremony as the officiate who joins two people in matrimony, I'm afraid that depends upon whether or not you are a notary public, a ship's captain, or a priest,minister, cleric or pastor. If you would like to marry two people, I would suggest buying a ship or becoming a notary public, because these are useful when you're NOT busying hitching people up.(If you go the ship route, remember: You must be 50 miles from the nearest national boundary in order for a marriage to be legally presided over by a ship's captain. Otherwise, I'd recommend becoming an ordained minister through the Universal Life Church at www.ulc.org. They will ordain you for no fee over the internet in a matter of minutes. If by your question you were asking where you might go to marry a human to a non-human, or two animals to one another, or yourself to an animal...I'm afraid there's just Montana, and then only if your beloved is a sheep or cow and you have a private ceremony. (Just ask her to cut her guest list down, I'm sure she'll understand.) 3. You bet your EenkA Bleenka! 4. No 5. That part number was discontinued by the U.S. Navy Central Supply Command in the 4th Quarter of 1983. It describes a Houghton Bearing assembly for use in dough kneading equipment. That particular model is no longer in use by the military and so all remaining spare parts where sold at auction some time ago. 030910 ... Dafremen 1. You must first determine what the cause of your beloved's loss of interest is. Is it something that you are doing? (Probably not so much as you might be inclined to think.) If it is, determine whether you are willing to give that particular behavior up for someone who apparently hasn't got the sort of "love staying power" that you had hoped for. If you are willing, try to change and see if they respond. Is your relationship physically intimate? 8 times out of 10, younger guys will stay with a relationship (many fully convinced that they are in love) for as long as the challenge of "getting some" is there and they feel that it is a reachable goal. Shortly after they either REACH the prize, or determine that they aren't going to GET the prize anytime soon, interest wanes and they move on. It is a cycle that has been repeated too often for us to exclude even the "special" "different" "sensitive" guys. Young men have a problem thinking "outside the box", if you understand what I mean. One of the major problems facing today's relationships is that we tend to meet under circumstances that DON'T help us get to know each other. We see only the social face, the personality that people wear on their way out the door. Later, as the realities and the boundaries of a relationship start to solidify and become more serious, we find ourselves drawn once again, to the fun, smiling, laughing, social people that think we are interesting because they don't know us. Our more familiar admirers often fall by the wayside. It's like when you were a kid and you saw the latest commercial for the coolest new toy or game or whatever. You just HAD to have it! When you got it home, you played with it and it wasn't everything that you thought it was going to be. The advertising misled you. You were soon looking for the next new latest, greatest thing. Maybe we should all stop advertising the best we have to offer and start advertising EVERYTHING that we have to offer. Less buyer's remorse that way. If his feelings have changed, I'm afraid that any compromises you might make would likely be at the expense of your dignity. The type of love you shared, if that is the case, is probably common enough to be discarded. Here today, gone tomorrow lovers are a dime-a-dozen and no real prize at anytime. 030910 ... oldephebe (relocated from ask_daf) what are the ramifications of a male cancer born on the 29th day of the month hooking up with a female libran also born on the 29th day of the month one year later? 030910 ... oldephebe wait a minute i didn't paste this here -I'm thinkin' daf must've pasted it here in the whole hierarchy of sundry things to sort out..or something - i was just going to type a reminder here or something but the prescient one whoever he or she is has beaten me to it.. yeah well, if anyone is interested read a blathe entitled revolting affections orsomething like that - there's this blathe from a 15year old young man who gushes so eloquently, with a capacity that far outpaces his years - really powerful stuff, sorry i can't be more specific - kind of going on fumes today what with the liquid diet and everything ... later ... 030910 ... oldephebe see: revolting adoration by pobodys nerfect - she pasted our young prodigies storm of aching harrow there like listening to a daniel bedingfield song - ?..( ) ... 030910 ... bc more specifically, he still loves me, still wants to be with me, still says I'm a very important and big part of his life (and the sex is fine), but he just isn't IN love with me anymore. And right now, the fear of being alone is just to big to let me leave. 030910 ... eyedream 1. Leaving?! Why?! 2. Why does everyone have an ask-me blathe except me? 3. Leaving?! 4. LEAVING?! screams like a girl 030910 ... Dafremen B.C. - 1.a. Sounds to me like either you or he or both are confusing initial passion, romance and the attraction of newness for "being in love". If he's in love still...that's love..the heroin rush at the beginning is to get girls to trust when they shouldn't and guys to spend money on things that they shouldn't. Love is the hangover of familiarness that's left after the "Hi! Nice to smell ya!" party starts to wind down. So here's where you guys get to decide. More new relationship smell? Or is the seat worn in and adjusted on this one just the way you like it? Relationships are WORK..on both sides. Now that the Novacaine of newness is starting to wear off, is it that he's having second thoughts about having committed for the maintenance required? 030911 ... blown cherry Thanks Daf, I needed to share and you've helped, really. There isn't a thing he wants to change about our relationship, I've asked, and I was happy the way things were too, I just don't know if I can be happy now knowing that he doesn't feel for me what I still feel for him. 030911 ... eyedream what about my questions dafremen 030912 ... Dafremen eyedream- 1. yes. 2. What do you mean? You DO have a blather. It's called ask_eyedream as per standard_blather_protocol. 3. Yes. 4. YES. 030912 ... Dafremen Phebe- I would really need more to go on to answer that question with any great amount of accuracy. However, I will tell you this. I am a Libran born on the 14th of the month and the missus a Cancer born on the 24th of the month. Most astrological texts call these two a mismatch. That's quite understandable. Librans are generally emotionally detached and logical. Cancerians are emotional basketcases that hide their feelings behind a mask and offer no logical clue as to their next mood. Needless to say, they both confuse one another a great deal. The Libran is emotionally cool, this leads the Cancerian to believe Libra doesn't care. The Cancerian is tenacious, but possessive, this confuses Libra who likes to move around and sees any restriction as an affront to freedom..Libra's most prized possession(besides their TRUE partner, of course.) Poor Crab! Crabs only hold on and smother when they CARE so deeply that they can't bear to let go. They are NURTURERS...which is something that they ALMOST have in common with Librans who are HELPERS. There are so many more ways in which these two differ. It's Air and Water trying to mix and it's just VERY, VERY difficult. Now for the good news. Neither the Cancerian of your query, nor the Libran of your query are Sun sign only. What I mean to say is that there are so many more influences to be taken into account. For instance: The Moon is paramount to any understanding of compatibility. The missus and I have been married for coming up on 14 years. See, I have a CANCER Moon. The Moon is Cancer's natural ruler, giving it GREAT strength in my chart. In addition, my Ascendant or Rising Sign is Scorpio...another Water sign. This adds Water to my Libra Sun..emotion. This makes me more LOYAL(Cancer & Scorpio) than most Librans. It makes me more JEALOUS(Scorpio and Cancer to a lesser degree) than most Librans. This makes me more EMOTIONALLY RECEPTIVE(Cancer & Scorpio) than most Librans. The missus? Her moon is in Pisces (more Water). There is a natural attraction between Librans and Pisceans that is hard to describe. I believe it's based on a mutual distate for anything unpleasant..particularly ugly scenes and screaming matches. With Venus(natural ruler of Librans) in her first house, her image of self is wrapped around beauty, art, romance and the asthetically pleasing. As you can see, there are many factors to be taken into consideration. If you are the Cancerian in this question, be patient even when your emotions scream to scream. She won't be able to handle that. Be her LOYAL PARTNER. Enjoy thing WITH her. Even risky, chancy things. Understand that, (depending, of course, upon other influences in her chart), she will NOT get the subtle little hints that you drop for her. She will not necessarily understand what looking at her THAT way means. She will NOT know what you meant when you asked her indirect questions in an attempt to avoid saying what you mean. You need to say what you mean with Librans. That's what they want...good information. Garbage in equals garbage out and most Librans CANNOT STAND garhage. If you wanter her to know what you need, you will have to hit her over the head with a big SIGN telling her what you are feeling or wanting. At LEAST you should be obvious about your wants...then she will take them into consideration with everything she decides. That's how Librans are. They want the best for everyone...including themselves..and they think about EVERYONE'S needs before reaching a decision. Try to resist the urge to change your mind so much about plans. Librans like time to change course, to factor new ideas and plans into the equation. If you SUDDENLY have the urge to streak down to the park and run around naked in the full moon light..let her know...then wait a half hour or an hour or two while her brain mulls it over. THAT is what it takes to "force" a Libran out the door. Time to prepare. Hell, if you ARE that Cancerian, chances are you HATE people forcing YOU out the door. In fact, you probably make them wait a good long time so as not to give the IMPRESSION that you are being forced out the door. (I'm also starting to believe that there is a Cancer mind delay. It's as if something said or done has to wait until it's in the past before it registers with most Cancer people. There seems to be a delay between word and action.) If you will email me birth dates, times and places, I have a program that can crank out compatibility charts which describe one's personality within the confines of a relationship with a particular person. (As for confidentiality..first I don't want to know your names. Secondly, to use, abuse, or otherwise mishandle ANYONE'S trust...PARTICULARLY in relation to astrology, would be unthinkable to me. To play goofy roles and parts on a site dedicated to free_expression is one thing. To betray a REAL trust given in confidence is quite another, and definitely not a part of my psychological, astrological or psychiatric profile.) 030912 ... Toxic_Kisses How do I make these feelings go away?!? (how_do_you_feel) Why is it so hard to be happy? What would you be