achieve bloodshotglass Psychologically speaking, when an individual is living under the pressure to constantly achieve, a subtle message is communicated—that he or she is not enough, not loveable just as they are. Love and value must be earned. Of course, this is never experienced as love or true nourishment. No matter how much praise or love such an individual seems to receive, deep down they feel that it is only their achievements that are being cared for, not them. ah....too true. 021201 ... . . 050418 what's it to you? who go blather from