virginity Rainer Krauss If there's one thing in my life I'm absolutely sure about it's my virginity. 990208 ... deadpilot The gift that keeps on giving 990216 ... elsewhere I believe this is heavan to no one else but me......people think im gay because i wont fuck any guys....sorry not gay, just smart, why does no one respect virginty, do i think people would like me more if I got laid everyonce in a while? hell no, why do I nedd to worry about disease, pregnancy, and being used just for sexual pleasure, I dont think my self esteem could handle that...I would rather be who I am and focus my mind on more important things like building a life...Sex is an act of love...or so it goes, now it is an act of lust, i would rather wait all my life for the right man, than have the attention of fifty million people who only want to use me for my body, ye3ah ..its a real caring thing...I dont blame anyone for having sex...they know thier actions, and they know the reprocussiont s of thier actions, you know people get pregnat and say "oh how could this have happened?" well? what do you think sperm is for, its not put there just to be pretty it has a purpose, that is long forgotten, how many planned pregnancys have you seen? would you rather have a baby inside of mairrage, or outside when you know the father will leave you hanging....yeah I know sex is pleasurable, but it is a gift that you and youre spouse should share....why do we insist on taking the love out of every wonderfull thing god has given us....so just play your little game of russian roulllette but try to think, next time that gun goes off...it might just be loaded....as so I speak as a virgin of 21 years old...dont tell me i dont know what im talking about because I have seen it...had to watch it destroy lives, and seen the tears that it brings...you might find that youll learn alot more by observing than by doing........ 990410 ... drew i remember seeing this episode of 20/20 when i was (by mere coincidence) 20, and it was about "the new virginity movement" or some other equally cheesy name. it was about a buncha young teens who were making promises of celibacy to god and their parents, and to hear them talk about it, you knew they had know idea what was going on. as a virgin at the time, it really pissed me off that this was america's idea of what it means to be a virgin - to be a christian automaton that supresses thinking about being human out of fear of the flesh. a promise ring won't keep your body's hormones from flowing through your blood. don't deny your body... you're gonna be it in for your whole life, so you might as well learn how it works and how you can control it. 990411 ... James Am I a virgin because I am gay, or am I gay because I am a virgin? 990411 ... allie fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity 990411 ... constantly sometimes i wish i were as scared as i am supposed to be. 990414 ... emma way, way, way overrated. 990414 ... meg it doesn't seem so important anymore 990416 ... daxle what the hell is a spouse? someone you're with for tax purposes and can divorce at will. if you find someone you love in a deep and true way, have sex, keeping biology in mind. 990430 ... ceorl a treatable condition 990501 ... jason pro choice on that if u don't want to have sex, don't but don't let someone force you into doing it 990514 ... heidi amen, elsewhere. It may not be a big deal to everyone but it's a big deal to me, therefore I shall remain a v-dawg until i find someone worthy of me. 990517 ... me I don't like to think of it as a possession, but I am ready to let go of it. Only problem is, there's no one to share it with. 990527 ... Jeff @ Newdream Sometimes, I wish it still applied to me, if only I could let it go. There's nothing like it - esp. with the correct individual. 990528 ... emsie My virginity isn't THAT important to me, but it's important enough to me that I'm not gonna have sex just for the sake of losing my virginity. But sometimes, it feels like I'm the only one who is a virgin (I know how cliched that sounds, but it's true). I wish I had someone to share it with too. 990706 ... jules virginity is important, but it's not that big of a deal. for one, there is no point in having sex just to be like your friends. you may feel excluded, but how much worse would you feel if you never heard from that guy again, or didn't want to? secondly, it comes down to your relationship with the person. Will it enhance your relationship? Is it just another way of showing love to them? Sex is not so much a physical act as it is a mental one, and I think losing your virginity changes your mind state a bit. 990916 ... Dr_Quill the number 1 cause of divorce is virginity until the wedding night. 990917 ... OTK and 47% of statistics are made up on the spot. 990918 ... h8r (diggety dot com) if it's so damned cool, how come i can't find it. i mean, when i can't find my keys, and i look hard enough, i always find it somebody. 990920 ... David bastard child of Rod Serling and Salavador Dali, no hooplah, no fanfare, no joy. Everything is dismissed as an occurance that comes and goes in ones life...but it doesn't make me any less bitter 990920 ... jessica virginity is not taken away, and i can't be touched. i can't feel you. sex is wrong inside of me. virginity is my way of keeping the innocence he took from me. it's my way of saying no to him when i didn't know what it meant. 990920 ... tom the only people who make a big thing out of being a virgin are those that don't have it anymore why is that? 991027 ... elimeny purity. do you have it? I had it once. Then someone comes along and takes the only thing that mattered from me and says "it's okay. because I love you" and you know what? it's easy to say you arent nieve. but when you fall for the oldest line in the book, it makes you feel pretty jilted. The thing is, when it's gone, it's gone. It's something you can always lose, but never get back. I guarantee you there will always be a guy out there willing to get laid. But once your virginity disentegrates, your purity and innocence follow right after. Those are the things I miss the most. But you can't just forget you had sex-you can't just get back those attributes again. You have to rediscover what they mean, and reinvent them for yourself. But once the virginity is gone, it's gone. so there. 991207 ... SOCKS purity 991207 ... deb jessica is so so right: virginity is a choice not a thing to be lost at any moment some say that any sex means oops, not a virgin i say, if you didn't know what was FUCKING goin on, when you're too young to understand that is NOT losing anything -that is losing innocence and childhood and gaining fear of someone once trusted even if you aren't young, if you say no, you made a choice, but to keep what is yours you only lose your virginity if you agree they can take away everything else, but they can't change your mind- ~bottom line: you say no, you lost nothing~ 991219 ... deb (see rape ) 991219 ... paultopia good riddance 991223 ... purple tzar I read that in a Madeline L'engle book that after losing one's virginity, one can never touch a unicorn. Shit. Oh well. We'll always have dinosaurs. 000118 ... chloe A reality blown way out of porportion and completley exploited by our society. It is no longer the symbol of love conquered but what substantiates one's conquest.It is the perfume adorned by those in waiting...either considered sacred or seen as another one of the artificial flavors in our modern world,that masks the raw truth in everything.... 000119 ... ikon I lost my viginity once. But it was okay....I found it again. 000124 ... MollyGoLightly Southern Baptist girls at my high school held on to their technical virginity in odd ways. According to their logic, a penis in your butt is okay, but a penis in your vagina is not. A penis in your mouth: All clear in the eyes of god! A penis in your vagina: impure, damaged goods. WTF? 000322 ... girl my whole life is the avoidance of giving it up -- walking side by side with the uncontrollable desire to. 000322 ... vega yet another social contrivance cultivated by a partiachal society to shatter the sexual act and make it violent 000322 ... vega uhh..sorry, make that "patriarchal" or however the hell you spell it 000322 ... Brad Welcome to the south, Molly, land of behavior that is contrary to all reason. 000323 ... chicken pot pie sometimes, I look at her and wonder where in here body it is. I decided that it is a yellow ball of light in her stomach. that makes me wonder where it was when it was still in my body. regrets? none. never. i don't believe in them. And none otherwise, either. 000324 ... birdmad i remember that the evening i lost mine, all those years ago, if written down in exacting detail, would read like a cross between a letter to penthouse and the "electric kool-aid acid test" sometimes i actually do miss the eighties 000403 ... kt I remember that....that was along time ago. 000403 ... camille the innocence of childhood 000403 ... oodles My friends used to tell me that even though my wait was long, it was going to be worth it. They thought that once I finally found "that special someone" it was going to be the ideal love surpassing any of their experiences by far. Sometimes I believed them. My first time ended up being with this guy that I barely know while we were both drunk at a fraternity party. I'm now a statistic of college freshmen that lose their virginity when they're intoxicated. Yeah, real ideal, guys. I felt like a whore. But not because I had sex--because I do everything in the wrong order...always. 000429 ... sugarcake Lost mine last night, sex is over-rated. Enjoyed it but don't see what the fuss is all about. No regrets-when it feels right, do it. 000429 ... MollyGoLightly Lots of entries waxing wistful about the loss of "innocence" and "purity" that leaves one when the virginity goes. I take exception to that. 000429 ... birdmad i can't take any exception. it was fun, it was definitely what some might call "life-affirming" but there was nothing pure or innocent about the way i lost mine. and i wouldn't want to remember it any other way 000501 ... Silent Bob she said she lost it long ago when i asked her to who she said she did not know punk rock girl! lets go slam dance! punk rock girl! lets take a chance.. ok i made that up. 000606 ... Miniatus the taste of passion on the lips, the electric feel of flesh rolling over your senses, the indecision, the desision, the verdict-pleasure. Ah the pimeval pasion of letting yourself go down the path of self indulgence....yes self indulgence-the reason for losing your virginity. 000713 ... wonderous it's something that people carelessly throw around as if it's nothing but another that bites the dust. but when you have unwanted results 9 months later, never again in someone of the opposite sex will you trust. 000721 ... genericderek i lost mine in a trailer park over ten years ago. on a water bed. listening to madonna. twenty seconds of trash glory. wish it was different, but i wouldn't change it. there's something holy about loss. keep it too long it might never know how to fly. push out of the nest too soon, and it will meet with an ungraceful end. there's something beautiful in mistakes. 000914 ... moonshine Maybe it wasn't the liquor that made me vomit in the kitchen sink. Maybe it was you. 000923 ... Barrett Hey, I used to have one of those. 000924 ... somebody only in the privacy of blather can i yell a big 'piss off!' to all those annoying twits who believe i am one 001019 ... Centaur of Attraction Im still a virgin, and i feel that it makes me special because everyone around me finds out eventually and treats me like Im innocent. but eventhough I get horny as a dog sometimes, I just realize that a few seconds of pleasure will not make me feel any better. I want someone who I can trust, I have crushes but I won't trust them... theyr young like me. And if i were to make a mistake it would not be one that is impulsive. I like my innocense and purity, it makes me feel special. 001216 ... SilentBob my my my dear emma sour grapes? 001216 ... lovers lament remember the day with fondness and fear love in my bedroom slow as a summer afternoon an ache for the bathtub washing off the blood and tissue. .. 001216 ... silentbob i didnt write that i dont capatalize my name like that i was nowhere near a computer yesterday who did that? 001217 ... COLDandBLUEkitty how can a word define someone so much? although.. it shouldn't matter.. it does. and even if you deny it.. secretly you know it's true. you either regret being a virgin.. or you regret not being one.. it's such a strong word. but only because society has placed so many ties to it and made it so powerful. if you're not a virgin your a slut.. if you are your tight.. either way.. you are looked down apon. hunny.. let me open up my loving arms and spread my loving legs. drive right in the water is fine. [.b.e.t.t.e.] um.. or not. fuck it. 001222 ... acuhymen I hearby reclaim my virginity. but it wont last im sure. Nothing excites me anymore. I doubt this reclaimation will help that. I hearby reclaim My Virginity. Feels like Heroin 001225 ... Rhin (Rizzo's razor-sharp imitation of Sandy, from the film: Grease) "...Look at me, I'm Sandra Dee, Lousy with virginity. Won't go to bed, till I'm legally wed. I can't, I'm Sandra Dee. Watch it - Hey, I'm Doris Day. I was not brought up that way. Won't come across, even Rock Hudson lost - his heart to Doris Day. I don't drink, or swear. I don't rat my hair. I get ill from one cigarette. Keep your filthy paws off my silky drawers. Would you pull that crap with Annette? As for you, Troy Donahue, I know what you wanna' do. You got your crust, I'm no object of lust. I'm just plain Sandra Dee. Elvis, Elvis let me be, Keep that pelvis far from me. Just keep your cool, now you're starting to drool. Hey, Fongool! I'm Sandra Dee!" Sandra Dee- www.carpatho-rusyn.org/fame/dee.htm 001226 ... jennifer I was supposed to lose mine at age 19 in a hotel room... well... I have one month and ten days left 010112 ... beccers ::grins:: bye-bye~ 010112 ... silentbob jen my friend richard is staying in a hotel right now. if you get here really quick, i can fix everything. 010112 ... chanaka supposedly the treasure of millions of freshmen cheerleaders. is it really THAT important? more a mental state than a physical one....one can regain their virginity (if you go without for a long time), or so it seems. also less of an event than people might think. it's there. then it's not. is the breaking of hymen that important? 010113 ... sabbie i had a friend who decided that she was a virgin till she decided to change her status. this ment that she was still a virgin years, even though she had been boinking people occassionally for years. i thought that was pretty cool. 010116 ... Jeremiah Witte Actually, I believe it is a COOL thing to wait until marriage. In one of the posts, someone said that 47% of statistics are made up on the spot/ & I suppose he or she just went right into that 47% bracket. Look, I know women who personally have & have not given themselves away in the act of premarital sex. Those who have waited before they marry have a vibrant, radiant life. No, I ain't saying they don't have trials! But I have noticed that the husband/ wife unit is just much closer together. Those who threw it away, typically wind up regretting it for sometime. As for me, I'm a virgin & PROUD of it! As for another post, virginity- a curable condition. Let me put it to that person by simply stating, "STDs- a perfectly fatal condition" By treating the choice to remain pure like it's nothing more than measles or the flu, or bad breath is severe error. Truthfully, I am not ashamed of being a virgin. Not only does it honor God, not only does it show RESPECT to the women I hang out with, but it also shows that I'm willing to show common sense by not doing anything STUPID! (For example, so-called birth control methods are never 100% accurate. Would you take the same odds with russian roulette even if out of 9 or more bullet-holes, only ONE had a live bullet in it?) You may email me ONLY if you keep fowl language out of your replies. I love you all. 010120 ... god virginity doesn't do a thing for me. 010120 ... shiva bawk bawk. fowl language. get it? 010120 ... ... i seemed to have lost mine. could someone help me find it? missing since june 7 1999 REWARD IF FOUND. 010121 ... nocturnal I'm 18 and I still have mine. I can't figure out really whether I want to get rid of it. I say I do, but whenever someone actually gets close to attempting to help me lose it, I stop them in their tracks. I think I'm scared, but I'm not sure why. A couple of my friends say they don't ever want to sleep with a virgin because the girl would feel this huge attachment and they would feel bad about it. I don't think I would feel any kind of unbreakable bond or anything if it didn't mean anything and I'm not sure I feel the need for it to mean anything. I know everyone says your first should be special, but I almost just want to get it over with for the experience or whatever. Is that fucked up? I do know one thing: I do not want to wait till marriage. That would be a huge mistake. I'm pretty sure I don't want to lose it some weekend when I'm drunk at a party or anything, but then again I've also heard the argument that it's almost better that way because then you're not so nervous. And I know, I know, it's stupid because what if you forget to be responsible about it or whatever and your judgement's all fucked up when you're drunk so he could be some total sleaze and I wouldn't notice. But I don't think I want to be all worried and nervous the first time. I'm also pretty sure I don't want to graduate from college a virgin, it just doesn't seem right. There's a time and a place for everything and it's called college, I am doing my best to live up to that saying and I think saying adios to my virginity should be included in my endeavors. I think that sounds kind of trashy and whorish, but I'm really not like that at all. I guess I just don't understand the purpose of holding one's virginity so dear, it's gotta go sometime unless you intend to join the priesthood or become a nun or something, right? And practice makes perfect, so I think I need to start practicing. Oh, but with whom? Dammit, back to square one. 010214 ... kx21 ITs absolute, true and genuine value in the past is very much higher than the present and certainly much more than the future..., judging from the fact that the Standard of keeping IT is lowering And Demand for IT is decreasing over time... Is this the Mother Nature of our Universe? 010214 ... G_wiz13 something that i wish i had never done. Now that i have met the love of my life I wish that i would have saved myself for her. But still the first time that i have sex with her it will be just as special as if i was still a virgin. 010214 ... kx21 ***The Fate of VIRGIN & Human Beings In particular, the Human Beings in U:- The number or proportion of Virginity is dropping over the World and Time... Many virgins were somehow fell into (Evil or Good?) Hands of Non-virgin... and More virgins were destroyed and less virgins were produced... This is probably a major reason or factor for their destruction, or more precisely extinction, i,e, Zero Virgin in the Earth, with their own hands / SIN(s)... Can this fate be changed? The answer is certainly YES but somehow difficult to achieve... Copyright 2001. kx21.com 010214 ... kx21 It should be... More & More virgins were somehow fell into the (Evil or Good?) Hands of Non-virgin... and More virgins were destroyed and less virgins were produced... This is probably a major reason or factor for their destruction, or more precisely extinction, i,e, Zero Virgin in the Earth, with their own hands / SIN(s)... Can this fate be changed or prevented? The answer is certainly YES but somehow difficult to achieve... Copyright 2001. kx21.com 010214 ... kx21 Refer to The_Theory_of_Everything for a special relationship between Virginity / virgin and the Fate of the Universe... 010215 ... kx21 ... especially You... 010215 ... raechel I picked it up one night and threw it out the closest window when I was drunk. The guy that took my virginity was my best friend. We dont talk anymore.... 010215 ... silentbob Everything Must Go! Weakerthans reference 010215 ... Lady Morgaine no longer exists in my world. 010221 ... peyton before you knew what all the fuss was about.. where you wish you could go, once you found out.. i miss it 010226 ... Ali don't spread ya legs if u ain't ready for what just might pop ouuta there 010226 ... [R5]Syckle God she lost her virginity and she didn't mention it till tonight out of fear how would i react how can i like someone who fears me how can i love someone who fears me why didn't she just tell me why couldn't she have done it with me 010227 ... kx21 v1) There are infinite virginities resided in MEN / Women, from phisical to spiritural... Which Virginity are you referring to? v2) Change is the only constant in U and thus MAN / WOMAN, and the Virginities. v3) If HE and SHE don't Mind, it doesn't matter.... v4) Does SHE love him and Does HE love her? 010228 ... kx21 v5) Which is your preference, Physical Virginity or Spiritual Virginity? Copyright 2001. kx21.com 010228 ... the boy with the thorn in his side Don't worry...it's nothing you did. Time just writes on us. We'll never be virgin. We can never be virgin. We were born into this. 010307 ... Natori It means nothing to me. And yet, for some empty reason I want to hold onto it. It personifies the little innocence that I have left. And innocence is worth holding onto. 010307 ... unhinged sometimes i wish i still had it to give sometimes i think that i still do the only difference now is everytime i get close to you it makes me angry every cellular memory trigger the last thing that destroys you in me ....... people always have to take what isn't their's to give. 010307 ... kx21 v6) Varieties of Virginity Physical, Spiritual, Verbal, Visual, Relational,Mental, Chemical, Biological, Mathematical, Musical, Planetological, Extraterrestrial, Emotional, Sexual, etc.. ... 010308 ... kx21 A state of mind and heart... 010318 ... *Ziima* I miss it. 010401 ... phil one of those things I throw into the box of, nothing excists in the first place so let's throw this away. 010501 ... Persona ...only because i haven't found a yummy privileged enough, yet 010612 ... nemo mine went bye bye a while ago... 010612 ... kinkazoid i'd give alot to find it. and i wouldnt lose it again. 010612 ... black-dyed gel product Still have it... fuck I'm pathetic. 010612 ... The Truth Virginity is sacred purity. Innocence. I wish I would have waited until I was married, then sex would have so much more meaning to me. I sometimes try to imagine what it would be like if my wife and I had both had enough self control to wait for each other. It would be so beautiful, harmonious, special to us. 010804 ... kx21 Control is the no. 1 enermy of blossoming Virginity; and probable an evil act to kill and stop the growth of virginities... Just imagine Every man & woman want to keep & preserve their virginity for themselves... Q_As... 010804 ... kx21 Control is the no. 1 enemy of blossoming Virginity... And it's probably an evil act to kill and stop the growth of virginities... Just imagine Every man & woman want to keep & preserve their virginity for themselves... Q_As... 010804 ... Norm I'd say its just depressing... That is if all this is virginity. Reading all this... darn 010805 ... TaterHead ...is like a water balloon, one prick and its all gone... 010806 ... click a virtue until you are so sexually frustrated that it is a burden, and you give it up to some undeserving bastard just to get off for a few seconds of dirty, half-assed bliss in the back of your parents car. 010806 ... Juuitchan 250 bucks will fix it. 010830 ... Aimee I lost mine too young to the wrong person. In hindsight, I see that. but also, I know it could have been someone far worse. I still feel cheap about though.. one quick fumble and it was all over. I walked into that room a virgin and left it feeling giddy... I suppose that's an intial reaction or something, but lord. I wish I'd waited. I should have at least loved the guy. Or maybe I did, and I just don't remember it. *sighs* I miss it a lot, and I regret it. But hey what can you do? Wishing for it won't get it back.. 010830 ... chocolate bootay First, how he found her as a bloody baby, taught her as she grew, and cleaned her, clothed her in rich fabrics and put jewelry all over her. Then how she left that life to become a whore, and was actually paying men to sleep with her. Afterall, he, angry, said he was willing to take her, forgive her, and let her cry in sorrow on his shoulder. God used this to metaphorically speak of the nation of Israel concerning himself and idols. So, reasonably, we all lost our spiritual virginities to idols, and willingly continue to lay our naked souls down to be used, inspite of Gods love. So, reasonably, non-christians are whores. still tho, a whore God is willing to receive and love. just prove your sorrow by repenting. 010830 ... de corrector may I add that when he found her all bloody and with her umbilical cord still attached, noone else wanted her, people would pass by and let it die. He saved her. but she still left him. yet hed still take her back. 010830 ... TalviFatin I feel so much older now that I took someone's virginity. I mean ,losing it is one thing. A completely different feeling. But being the one to christen a young man's status as non-virgin is almost like...I dont know...I cant think...Someone help me out. Wait, I know...It's like training someone in for a big important job. Except this job...is life, and manhood. Big job there, I suppose. But anyway, I feel like I did a big favor...a good deed...but yet as if I stole candy from a baby...But it wasnt hard...and he practically gave it up...but..you know what I mean. 010903 ... dans not dance Don't know why I keep it around. Maybe I think it's accumulating interest, or something? Who can say. 011014 ... DanetteTN915 So many guys want me. I am "pure", "clean", "untainted", a "nice girl". Until they get me. Then I am "dirty", used up and cast aside. The virgin/whore dichotomy. Are they realizing the fact that when I give in to one of them, all the rest of them will no longer want me? When you "use" a girl, she was "nice" when you met her, and later, when you are finished, if you could go back and meet her again, you wouldn't want her anymore. Am I the only person who doesn't see the irony? 011014 ... mightbebipolar i lost mine in a tent. a tent. 011015 ... mourningstars i never wanted a virgin except when i was one, then i learned better 011015 ... DamianLust VIRGINS. Virgins, in my opinion. are like UNICORNS. You always Know someone who knows someone who has a friend who saw one once, but you can't EVER find one for yourself. At 21, they are a myth, something that only can be found in Junior High school, and thats just WRONG. PLEASE GOD, send me a woman of age who still has her hymen intact, I just want to see it for myself, I want to behold the glory, and bask in the glow, of the only real virgin, I know to exsist. 011017 ... mmm i lostit to the one i love. 011017 ... stars =) I lost it about 7 monthes ago.. to the only person I would ever even have thought about losing it to. He's the only one who would ever be worth it. 011018 ... jacksprat as if 011018 ... Sonya It's a plague and a blessing rolled into one for me at times. Society puts so much value on it but we all seem to want to get rid of it as fast as we can (or so it seems.) There are people out there who still respect their virginity, or want to retain it for whatever moment they're waiting around for. I don't think a girl turns into a whore when she loses her virginity. Maybe she gains some knowledge, but in the end the virginity isn't what makes her nice or not nice. In a time when people would easily fuck anything that comes their way, I have something other people will never have in their lives ever again. More over, I can actually say I have no regrets (something few people can say nowadays) and actually mean it. This makes me incredibly happy. So virginity is only negative if you see it that way. 011019 ... aeon flux am i the only one who has no regard for anything "pure" or "innocent"? 011020 ... psychobabe heh who even knows why i keep it. Maybe cuz i'm so fucking paranoid that when i do i'll get pregnant *cringes* damn that would sux. Definatly not ready for that yet. I keep it cuz i havent found anyone privelaged enough yet to have it. 011022 ... Casey I have it, but I don't hold any value of it, it's just there. My respect for my partner will be the thing that will be most revered. 011023 ... nocturnal I'm really sick of mine...so I've decided to put it up for grabs. who wants it? anyone? anyone? it's here for the taking. 011023 ... nocturnal wait, I forgot to mention no strings attached. no phone calls necessary, don't even have to buy me dinner. I'm just lookin to get rid of it. the only requirement is that you are a guy. 011023 ... Norm When you take someone's virginity you don't really take it because you don't get to keep it. What you really do is destroy it. There's really nothing I can do. It can't be fixed. Sorry I hope you didn't want it back. 011023 ... lost i dont like to take anyones virginity. i took one persons. i like to please not hurt. it's not my idea of a good time. i would much rather look at the pleasure on someones face that a look of extreme pain as if she is being ripped in half. 011023 ... Keemeers How come virginity is such a virtue in women? Does having a hymen make you a better person? Does it give you better morals? Can you sleep better at night? And men... they feel so inadequate when they're virgins. 21 and a virgin... you're a dork man... you're a boy... you're not even a real man. Didn't stick it anywhere? Dang that's a big problem you have to remedy... Go find yourself a virgin wife it doesn't matter if you're a virgin yourself because she's pure enough for the both of you. Nobody's laughing now. 011025 ... . : * p s y b o r g * : . Masturbation takes care of my horniness, so I don't know if I'll ever even lose my virginity. Masturbating isn't really gross, and you can do it with your underwear on. And call me immature, but I think sex is so gross. 011102 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE I kept it, didn't worry about it, until I didn't want it anymore. He asked are you sure? so many times I started to laugh. No problems. I guess I was lucky in that. 011203 ... ClairE Oh, my goodness, I hate iMacs. 011203 ... jestification the state that the state told me i should remain in until i give up my rights to a man so he can take mine...but i choose to share experiences and so..fuck it. 011204 ... marjorie i was wearing a "true love waits" ring when i lost my virginity. i found it ironic. virginity.... ah yes.. all good things must come to an end. even that! heavens! :P 011204 ... ClairE I wonder what it feels like to take someone else's. Damn. At least there's something to look forward to. 011206 ... jon I was offered and took a young woman's virginity. I was careful with her, so as not to cause any discomfort. She was appreciative and we had many more sexual encounters after that. I don't know where she is today, but I like to think she remembers her first time with fondness. She was my only virgin. I considered it a great honor to be given the opportunity to introduce someone into the beautiful arena of sex. It wasn't the best sex I've had, but it was memorable. The best has been with older, experienced women who knew what they wanted and knew how to get it from me. 011208 ... ClairE It's scary. But highly enjoyable. 011216 ... Annie111 I don't think I will have mine for that much longer. 020113 ... David Mitchell Virginity is not something I have to lose, it is something I have to give. 020216 ... .morgan. what a lovely thought, david. thank you. i can be like them whenever i please... but they can never again be like me. i'm proud to have such a gift to give to someone when our paths eventually cross. 020225 ... kx21 A physical, logical, emotional & spiritual signature of Soul... 020225 ... kx21 or A shadow of Soul? 020226 ... erin. if you have it, you're frigid. if you don't, you're a slut. but what does it mean when people assume that you aren't but you are? is there a point at which self-explanation becomes completely useless? is it fair to let the world assume what they will, even if it is the farthest from the truth? there is nothing wrong with virginity, and i'm glad. but i'm fucking sick of people looking at me like i have a third eye because i'm not fucking someone-- i have no problem with waiting, because i have enough regrets as it is--i don't want my own body to become a regret as well. 020310 ... good people i lost mine when i was 14. it was on memorial day of the year 2000. now, that girlfriend is gone, and i am dating someone else. she is still a virgin. 020310 ... 18--female Well, to everyone who thinks sex is "fun and something that should be taken lightly"...come talk to me...ill tell you a little story about losing a lot more than your virginity...having a baby at 17 is not fun...i placed my baby for adoption nov. 19, 2001 b/c i loved my son so much bc i wanted him to have everything-- and everything is what i couldnt give him-- bc i wasnt ready...if you choose to have sex--you better be able to parent--b/c parent is a VERB...not a noun! oh yeah and...daddy's long gone!!! 020411 ... plaid more than a physical state of being. but often one who loses physical virginity loses spiritual virginity, the latter having the potential to be renewed at any time, the former able to be renewed at the death of ones current form and the birth of the next. 020411 ... Sailor Jupiter I thought I lost mine at 13, but then made up my mind that rape doesn't count. My boyfriend and I traded virginities after 1 1/2 years together. Now we are broken up, but I have no regrets. We'llalways be connected b/c of it. =) 020411 ... Sailor Jupiter I thought I lost mine at 13, but then made up my mind that rape doesn't count. My boyfriend and I traded virginities after 1 1/2 years together at the age of 18. Now we are broken up, but I have no regrets. We'll always be connected b/c of it. =) 020411 ... Kate I remember the day that you told me that you had lost your virginity. I was hurt because you had keep that secret from me, as if my Christian values would suddenly implode on you. But I wasn't mad. I was sad for you. I didn't look down upon you. I hoped that it was nice, that the girl was special, that you loved her. I wouldn't be jealous if you did. But then weeks, months later, I was hasty with you and I messed up our friendship. I blurted out a thought, not thinking about the consquences. I hurt you and you had your best friend write me a hate letter. I wonder how you are doing, on your last few days before you graduate. I'll try to contact you sometime, and maybe we can restore that connect that we made in the late summer days... and we can talk about music and weddings and your band. 020515 ... kill rhythm i wanted him to be the one i gave it to. but now, im glad we didnt. because things would be way to weird. its hard enough to talk to him now as it is 020515 ... blamethesky i lost it in the photo room...never to be seen again. 020516 ... SpinSugar64 Lost it so slowly Pain on my lips coverd with saliva my lovers eyes I drown in each push a comming together peices of myself inching apart becomming something new never lose it if it's not love never a regret not even one 020517 ... optic discretion one of the only pure things left in the world 020518 ... jane i know what people mean when they say "lose" in terms of virginity. i didn't want to lose it. it was stolen 020607 ... kerry i don't really know overall how i feel about my virginity. i do know i don't want to just throw it away... and also, i know there's nobody now i'd like to lose it with. i think i'd be scared of regrets. i want it to be good... i don't want to be drunk. i don't want to wait till marriage but i don't want to do it too soon. dammit. it's all a tangled jumble of confusion in my head. 020608 ... MsChitChat ive been thinking about it lately. i never did regret losing mine, even when i thought i hated the guy i lost it to. i will always think of him differently than other guys i dated before him, because he has something that was very precious to me. if i wanted it back for any reason, it would only be to give it again, because that's the most wonderful feeling... 020608 ... Joana. I don't think virginity is lost, but life that is gained [depending on how it's lost, of course] Though I still find it all a completely overrated matter... Ah well. 020608 ... Lindsey "go slow, please. just go slow." 020705 ... Syrope i think a lot of females said that as they were losing their virginity. i did. to enjoy the pleasure and soften the pain... 020705 ... iq Well... it's something u owe to ur spouse.... (just imagine if everybody thought in this way)... we'd have a pure world... full of TRUST! 020713 ... Amalea It is a very well-argued topic - that is eminent - but I think one can only keep his/her if he/she believes in keeping it. You do not necessarily have to have a solid reason to keep it, there are so many because people are different. See it as a treasure u hold dear that you will one day share with the right person. If you are a Christian, don't just keep it because your priest/pastor says so. you will fail. Do it for you. 020918 ... ~gez~ i gave my virginity to you the other day. that was interesting, and you can know do with it what you want 020919 ... Jeca Innocence. Purity. Virginity. Such loaded words, so black and white they cannot possibly be true. People use words like those against each other, when they should use them to express their own minds. It's stupid also, though, to be careless with the place you're going to live for the rest of your life-- that's where the regret starts, when the little voice in the back of your head cries that you didn't care enough about her to do what you thought was right at the time. We have so much on us, too, as women, don't we? If I were to have a child, I would owe it love and my whole life, and was born to give it, as my mother gave me (and still shares) hers. For its sake I could wait, or if I couldn't give it what it deserved, never start something so painful. People pass on hurt to others-- it's a vicious cycle I would give up everything to not begin like that. Isn't it a little selfish to claim as the making of your life something that could hurt someone else so badly? And what of the father and how he feels? I don't think I could even get that close to a guy if I didn't think he was an absolutely wonderful little goof. I dunno. I don't ever want to hurt anybody. I guess no regrets as long as you listen to the little voice in the back of your head. 020930 ... gay gizmo How many people here think that I'm the only GAY virgin left in the world?? Cause I swear to god its true 021001 ... bethany chris you're not alone just think of all those straight boys with tight ends you just haven't laid their virgin eyes on you 021001 ... bethany young france beach sunrise i kept a bottle of sand 021006 ... ~gez~ cherry 021103 ... failing to make sense of it the thing you most want to get back and that you never can. 021104 ... hah uhhhhhhhhhh.......yea. I am proud to be called a virgin. I have my own personal reasons for staying one moment by moment. However, if i do have sex in a future moment, I want to make sure that its pleasure isn't like that of a rollercoaster, but more importantly is with someone that when looking back at memories w/... feels right w/out a doubt...still being with that same special person. seriously tho...i think you should just be honest with yourself...and your future. Whatever unfolds naturally from that, but given the proper thought- will be right for you. Take the good from everything...but don't take someones V or let them take yours if it feels like an issue of taking. It's about a beautiful surrenduring to eacothers souls through the body...a recieving process through a high developed love and true appreciation and trust of one another, which has worked up to that moment in creating a beautiful, strong security blanket (foundation) for your future together. Remember now: Birds never lay eggs without first working together in creating the beautiful, strong nest. Thank you. :) 021205 ... duh yeah but they sure fuck without building nests 021205 ... Kristopher This is my first blather, so please. . . . be gentle. 021213 ... Strideo "fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity" - allie absolutly not . 021213 ... sprhrgrl as a lesbian nearly irrelevent but the loss of it was nice 021216 ... eclecticsynesthesia much like drinking the first time this year didn't think didn't notice didn't choose but of course i chose i didn't fight i didn't say no again was beautiful was sad was scared of future reprisals and babies (still am) was more and less than i thought 021231 ... niska virginity doens't make you more noble than anyone who isn't a virgin. i think it's just fine that some of you are proud for being virgins, but it's not really something to be 'proud' of. being a virgin simply means you'll get to it whenever you're ready; and if you are ready and you have lost your virginity - great! welcome to your budding sexuality - it's an important factor in life. i remember losing my virginity - yeah it was nice... but it wasn't half as impactful as when i had sex for the first time with someone i was absolutely in love with. sharing that together was beautiful, and i'm glad it wasn't my first time. the comparison between love sex and attraction sex cartainly helps you recognize the differnce. similarily, they are both wonderful kinds of sex. 030308 ... it Anyone who says it's just a word, it's overrated or blown out of proportion, it doesn't matter, they don't care, et cetera is obviously a whore who has been fucked. Most likely by an idiot who ditched them soon after. Just a dumbass bitch in denial. It DOES in fact exist, and it CAN in fact be taken away. Worthless slut. It doesn't matter how old you are, you lose it, it's your fault. Yeah, I know some young children might have been raped by their father or other family member or family friend. Something like that can't be helped. But if you fuck/get fucked because you put yourself in the position, like getting drunk, smoking pot, riding in a car with someone at night, yes, that does count as you being fucked by choice, and you know it. You can't hide behind the "innocent and stupid" excuse. And sure, maybe some people actually plan on losing it early on and most likely move on to become a pornographic movie star. That's their fate, it's what they've chosen to do. And they don't mind being called sluts or whores, that's their destiny. It's one of two paths you can take. You can disregard virginity entirely, or you can cherish it until you feel the time is right. But you must decide when with extreme caution. You shouldn't do it if it's someone you weren't just friends with first. Either path is fine, but you can only choose one. Using a sex toy(dildo, vibrator)? That's up to you, but it's at your own risk. Because eventually somebody would find out, and it would ultimately decide your fate. Meaning, if it's someone you care about, they may not care about you any longer or at the very least not respect you as much anymore. So if you're still a virgin, you may still have a chance to pass the test of life. Sometimes the truth hurts. P.S. Doing anything sexual that isn't intercourse (blowjobs, anal sex, ETC.) DOES count as being a slut. If you disagree with any of this, you are wrong. This was written with females in mind, but yes, this also applies to males. Males can be sluts, too. 030323 ... Confucius Virginity is like a bubble. One prick, and it's all gone. 030323 ... niska it, i disagree with you, but you can't say if someone is going to disagree with you then it's a point to something obvious - how fucking back-woods & closed-minded are you? it's like me saying you're obviously dying to have sex, but no one will fuck you, so your bitterness transfers into everyone else being whores. i had my first sexual experience with someone who has been very special to me throughout my life, and you have no right to presume what it meant for anyone here to show their love to somoene. why would anyone be in denial about it meaning something to them? you're so irrational, it's almost KKK-esque... choosing to have sex doesn't make any person, male or female, a slut. you wouldn't be here if your MOTHER didn't get down. according to your brilliant theory, your own mother is a dirty whore. i hope you're not a bastard child too - or that means you don't even exist out of love and you're just a sick reminder of some slut's wild ride through the night and were probably the biggest mistake she ever made. is any assumption i've made about youa thus far a fair one? NO! so go ahead and tell people what you think, by all means, but don't presume who they are because you're an idiot with no point of reference to what you're even shouting about. Fuck, you're an ass. 030323 ... the thing formerly known as it Who said I was shouting? :-) You're the one getting all worked up over a simple opinion. Sometimes it's hard to accept the truth, isn't it? And for the record, I didn't say that anyone was a slut based on the single fact that they aren't a virgin. Yeah, I know that last line sounded a little harsh, but who cares. Maybe you should really read things instead of skimming over them. You're lucky I even responded to you, with punctuation as bad as that. It's true that they say those who actually care about virginity are the ones who make such a big issue about it. I think you are a prime example. Anyway, I'm never coming back here again, since there are still so many unexplored blather words. :-) So please don't waste time taking up space that could be used for something important to post your reply. Besides, who knows if I actually meant it? Maybe I was just venting, doing it for attention, or maybe doing it to piss stupid people (like you) off? The world may never know. ;-) P.S. Please try to keep your legs closed. 030325 ... Kimmy-Kim-Kim I'm proud of my virginity, because I know in my heart that God wants you to wait until your married for things like that...Well ok, I don't always think that, and even though I'm only 16 I know that I'm not emotionally ready for sex. My mind-set is going to change, it's a psychological thing nautrally. And I'm not ready for that. Plus, with all the dangerous, of pregnancy and STD's I don't feel like playing Russian Roulette. I want to look back and know that the person I first had sex with, is the person that I'm 10 ten years later. 030413 ... demon girl - virginity = whore skanks. 030501 ... Kimmy-kim-kim is Novice Damned if I do...Damned if i don't 030525 ... sheim you people all take yourselves too seriously, why not lie back (hehe) and have a little fun? 030630 ... just in case anyone cares I didn't come when I lost mine.. 030630 ... you There is no life after virginity. Only a slow death. 030710 ... badnews No male will ever really respect or care about any female. Especially if she's not a virgin. 030710 ... minnesota_chris I know a cool high school girl. What I really like is that don't see any sex vibes from her. No longing glances, no playing with the hair, no suggestive body placement. Sweet, friendly, but not a hottie. You get the feeling that sex isn't something she wants that badly, at least not right now. I think a pure minded person, or at the very least a person who lives for other things than sex, is so much cooler than a girl who has given countless nude massages but hasn't had a penis in her vagina. 030710 ... misstree Basically, first point, if you're not mature enough to buy condoms, and insist on using them every time, you shouldn't be having sex. Okay, this is attempt number two to nutshell this subject. You can blame the reference to it in ask_daf for this pile of poo, if you feel you need to blame something or someone. The question there was how old you should be before having sex. I disagree with Dafremen that you should wait until 20 at least, though I agree with his reasons. If you are not willing/able to deal with the consequences of pregnancy or DEATH (though there are also a wide array of STDs that won't kill you, just make you miserable for the rest of your life--no cure for herpes or, I think, genital warts), you shouldn't be having sex. If you're not mature enough to buy and insist on the use of condoms, you shouldn't be having sex. I'm talking about having to find a babysitter to go to prom. I'm talking about signing away the next 18 years of your life (at least) because you were drunk and horny, or signing away your life entirely. Serious shit to be left to hormones alone--make your brain work, no matter how much the peachfish or master cylinder shout otherwise. BUT, as i said, I think that waiting until 20 is extreme. We are boilogically mature at the average age of 13. We are considered socially mature at the age of 18 (adult status conferred, all that). Sex messes with every single person in the world. No one knows quite how to handle it physically, mentally, or emotionally their first time, and many don't through to their last. It's intense. It's weird. It's got this army of hormones launching heavy ammo into the middle of your thoughts. The best way to make it through without major disfigurement is to dismiss it's importance, and then wait until the right time, which will probably be later than your downstairs plumbing tells you. It's natural to be impatient and curious, but if you tear open all your presents on December 20th, you're going to have a shitty christmas, and that shitty christmas will stick with you. Sex is worshipped in this society. *That* is unnatural. Sex is (obviously) quite natural, but our view of it has been so overlaid with guilts and expectations and importances and psychoses that it's no wonder most people in the world are so hurting for a good, clean, fun romp in the sheets. The best way to shovel the shitpile off of the golden bed is, as i said, to dismiss sex's importance. There's a swordfighter girl i know, N, who is an 18 year old virgin. She's not one because of religious or moral beliefs, or pressure from peers or parents; she just doesn't really want to. She's boy crazy as all get out, don't get me wrong, but unless she's known someone for a very long time, she just won't do it. It's not worth the mental bullshit to her. I love N to bits--she's one of the most mature 18 year olds I've known in a long time, and I, a self-professed slut who has no regrets about losing her virginity at 14, support her in this fully and loudly. As do all of her swordfighting family, at least the ones not trying to get in her pants. Her virginity also earns her a bit of respect in a subculture populated by 4 guys for every girl, and too many of the girls are "Dagorhos," or useful as a cock cozy and not much else. Makes it hard for a girl to win some respect. Anyhow, now I'm starting to ramble. For those who are skimming, don't have sex until you're ready, and then still don't have sex until you're *really* ready. It's just not worth it to bump uglies and get sweaty and embarrassed. /end rant 030718 ... no reason i don't think you were rambling. very well-said, and your analogies made me smile. 030718 ... crimson_cacti I have a boy; he is a dream. Completely unlike movie romance. We are lovers in photo negative form. 030722 ... who i am doesnt matter anymore most of my friends lost theirs at a very young age, and it makes me sad to hear them talk about how they regret it. about how theyd take it back if they could. but i guess thats what they get for not thinking about it, for not waiting. because i waited, and now im the only one i know that dosn't regret it. im ok with how i lost it, im glad it was him. its somthing special between us, and i smile about it. while the rest are upset and depressed, im glowing inside. im glad i waited. im glad i dont want to take anything back. im glad i dont mind that it belongs to him. for once im pretty proud of myself. 031022 ... whome Yeah, I really wanna lose it. Yeah, I won't just have sex to have sex. I need to really trust the person. People respect that and I don't know why. 031106 ... ImmaculateConception Now you see it, now u dont!! 031106 ... Priscilla please? why wont you take mine? i want you to. 031106 ... celestias shadow *looks around* yep, it's still there. still intact. Not that i really mind. I don't know anyone I would want to lose it to. Actually, that's not true. There is one boy, but it'll never happen, and I'm almost over him anyways. He's the only one I trust. I don't believe in that 'virginity is precious, save it" bullshit. If you want to save it, more power to you. I respect your willpower and commitment. I personally don't see the point, but that's who I am. It's not that I'm in a hurry to lose it either. It'll happen when it happens, and I won't worry about it until I get there. Btw, misstree, I heartily agree with what you said. 031106 ... nisus The opinion that virginity means purity and innocence that so many people hold is amusing. There are plenty of other aspects to life besides sex. And with these other aspects, perversions that are not the lest bit sexual. Eating puppies, for example. Or babies. Or veal. Stealing. Lying. Intentionally hurting others (seen quite frequently among sixth grade girls, many of them virgins.) In fact, some of us believe intentionally causing harm is the only form of perversion that exists so the very idea that sexual experience causes perversion is a perverted one. 031107 ... misstree though i see your point, i disagree with the closing statement; sexual_experience *does* lead to exploration of perversions, and sometimes dependence... it's not the only cause, but it is a contributing one... example, way back in the day, a good clean tumble was just thrilling, it was the bee's knees... now, i'm at the point of, "yeah, so you're hung like a coke can, what else do you have to offer"... experience also confers comfort, so things that may have been intimidating or foreign before become more attainable... but like i said, i see your point, and i think it's better expressed in sexual deviations than perversions... perversion does inherently suggest a flaw, something that is anti-society rather than just different... 'course, i put eating puppies or babies or veal or friends in the category of deviant rather than anti-society, but i have admittedly weird_eating_habits, and your point still stands... 031107 ... a cool breeze virginity as 'pure' is bulshit. don't use something physical to define you. YOU are YOU are YOU are YOU. If innocence is something you value, ask yourself why. Why do I value "innocence?" So I can give it away to some guy? When you give it away do you think you are any less? You have lost a FIRST EXPERIENCE, nothing else. virginity is what God wants for you. In the times of the bible abstinence was the only method of birth control. Now we have more options. No, it's not 100 percent, and in having sex you are taking a chance. I prefer not to look at an unplanned pregnancy as something that destroys your life. It just changes it, maybe makes it harder; but how can new life (MADE in your body) be bad. Unexpected, yes. Bad timing, ok. Give it up. Abortion is wrong in all cases. Even rape. When you were raped someone took something from you, when you have an abortion you are taking LIFE from someone else. Whens a baby a baby? From the point of implantation in the uterus. it doesn't matter 'when' sperm/egg 'become a baby'. The point is: once that egg implants in your body it WILL be a baby unless you terminate it. Call me harsh, heck I'll be the first one to do it. I'll even be honest enough to say that I can talk all I want about pro life, but when I'm in the situation will I still think the same way? Yes I will, but that doesn't mean I'll make the 'right' decision. I can think something is right, and still conciosly decide to make the wrong decision. I'm no judge of morality. What's right for you is aok with me. I'm just expressing my beliefs, because I've enjoyed reading all of yours. POINT: -I'm in love, have been for six months. It's a mutual feeling. -I believe in 'gut' feelings. And my gut has tells me, "not yet". My mind is working to justify having sex, but my gut still says no, and as frusturating as it is to admit it, my gut has never told a lie. One thing I've read that struck me; "Don't have/not have sex as a gift for someone else, you're forgetting who you should be thinking about most; YOU!" Gift meaning; virginity as a gift to husband, or experience as gift to husband. You are the basis of your decision, but don't forget about your ultimate priorities. That is my two cents, 21 year old virgin, signing off. 031115 ... a cool breeze correction: in my entry i said "Lost a first experience". I'd like to add that while you will never have sex for the first time again, you havn't "lost" an experience, but gained one. 031115 ... oblivionmachine i asked him if he was sure. "yes" he said, "i love you" and everynight i find myself missing that one october 3rd, 2003, a friday 2.27 am, liz in the basement, afterlying there with him for hours, talking, couldnt kiss because the whispering had left me with no saliva, slept in his arms, woke: turned around, "i love you" and he replied "i love you too" i opened my eyes and said, "oh youre up" "yeah, you snore" 031127 ... ....... my goodness. i can't believe i gave it to you of all people... 031127 ... sophie it shouldnt be called 'losing' your virginity. it should be called 'giving'. i know i gave mine to him, and it just seems wrong to have it termed as something with such a negative sound. 031130 ... generation Z You gave it to him, he took it, and your virginity was lost. Losing isn’t negative sounding, sometimes when you lose you actually win and sometimes when you win you actually lose 031201 ... gen X You gave it to him, he took it, and your virginity was lost. Losing isn’t negative sounding, sometimes when you lose you actually win and sometimes when you win you actually lose 031201 ... 45564 You gave it to him, he took it, and your virginity was lost. Losing isn’t negative sounding, sometimes when you lose you actually win and sometimes when you win you actually lose 031201 ... quinn i saw my friend having sex with her "fuck buddy" and it reminded me of animals i felt sick, now that i knew sex could be used as a means of self-satisfaction, not as an act of love that was two years ago, and im still a virgin, one who has come very close to "losing" it, but a virgin nervertheless... 031202 ... justME my best friend lost her virginity when she was 12 years old.... she lost it to the biggest player at our school. not only did he take her virginity but he took it on a bunch of rocks so that her back got all cut up. shows how much he cared 4 her. then he denied it.one day she wrote a note to one of our friends talkin about it and she left it in her jeans. when her mom did her laundry she found the note. she was grounded 4 a year. my best friend always did seem consumed by sex. durring the begining of summer last year me and her met this 17 NEARLY 18 year old guy (keep in mind we r only 13 durrin this time) who was friends wit our friend. well when my bff saw him she was hooked. that summer she skipped out summer school went to his house and they fucked. In Maryland it is illigal 4 any adult from ages of 18 - 21 to date/fuck anyone under the age of 14. well again.she wrote a note to me talking about her and her and the 18 year old and her mom found it. my bff was sent to PA to live with her Gparents 1week later. we never got to say good-bye. one day a month later a detective came to my door asking me about the case. i talked to him and told him all i knew. the 18 year old my bff fucked is in jail right now serving 15 years. sad isnt it how one mistake can make you life so much different? 031203 ... B.A. Dorman The world has viewed virginity as a posession in a patriarcle society, and deficit in an openly sexaul soceity. It has been commonly seen as a positive female attribute and a negative male one. 031222 ... snowfall take me please 040117 ... jane the longer it becomes between the moment i lost my virginity & the present becomes, the more i wonder what it would have been like if i had waited. & sometimes i think it really would have been worth it. & sometimes i know i would have lost my mind. either way, i know that i have always craved knowledge of any kind & been prepared to face the consequences. but i suppose i sacrificed for carnal knowledge the understanding of what it feels like to be pure. 040124 ... oldspeak virginity should not be broken untill both partners are purely committed to raising, loving, caring for and adoring a child of their own 040202 ... jenny enny dots i believe most people lost it, at a much younger age, than i did. 040202 ... Poppy If you're with the right person, and you are in love, and you are sure that you're ready, and staying together...virginity is less about cherries and innocence, it's just a progression of love. 040217 ... eXscape virginity is possibly a tool to keep you neotenous so you can focus on your studies. 040307 ... no one you know The problem with this particular thing is that alot of males just want to fuck mechanically without any actual love. And to do this, they convince the nearest girl that she's in love, then they go in for the kill. Now, to rare males who've never had sex and actually care about this, this pisses them off more than you can imagine. Both the worthless prick guys who just want to get their little rocks off as well as the girls who were foolish enough to give it up to them.. What I'm trying to say is, it's a trust thing. Can't you females realize that all men are pieces of shit and unworthy of your body? Unless they're willing to marry you, love you, raise kids with you, and grow old with you, they deserve to be castrated. They say love knows no bounds, but being a non-virgin is a rather large one. So to all those still trying to find their true love.. good luck and watch yourself. 040319 ... some one you do know To those of you who've already lost it; don't waste your time with regret-you can't change anything now. 040319 ... freak or fiction at the age of 23. What do you think? 040330 ... me If it feels good, do it. (wear a rubber though) 040615 ... thunderbuck ram I really need more donations to my virginity collection. Please apply here, now, to avoid disappointment. 040823 ... thunderbuck ram Hey, I so want to meet those Southern Baptist girls!!!!! They can stay virgins with me forever. 040823 ... thunderbuck ram I'm so shallow, it worries me.......occasionally. 040823 ... phil Timing and mood are more important to women more so than who they are with. After they got what they want he is basically out of the picture. As long as she has someone to take care of her pregnancy. Don't make decisions based on some other person's cheap opinion. How can you give what you want? 040927 ... dudeinanigloo 16 years old and still a virgin. Not a lot of guys think the way I do, but I would rather wait until the right moment than to get drunk and do something I'll regret. I'm also not one of those people that live by the "no sex before marriage" doctrine. I, personally, feel sorry for people who freely believe(d) that, and actually practice(d) it. The person you first marry is not always the right person, either. A lot of parents of people that I know have leared that the hard way. So don't restrict yourself -- sex doesn't have to be a bad thing, even though it is portrayed as just that sometimes. To me, it is meant to connect two people physically and emotionally, in a more intimate way than any other activity two people do together. Make the first time count. 040928 ... superleni why is it such a passive thing guys "taking" virginity!? screw that! (no pun intended) viriginity is just the first time you have sex...how is this lost sight of? sex is a natural, positive action (it shouldn't be "done" to you - you should "do" it) animals and plants have been doing for billions of years with whoever seemed right... sure, take care of your emotional needs first and only do it if you want to, and find a partner who satisfies your needs. but sex is just something healthy live beings do - safely & sanely, ideally. i do it with people i like & respect...as for wedlock, spare me the divorce. 040928 ... ebilsporkmonkey Nobody really has virginity life fyucks us all over 040929 ... Natori Now that I suppose it's gone, I loved that person - lost them, but it's okay I have no regrets. 041202 ... Natori Back then, at that time I had no idea - God, how innocent I actually was. 041202 ... Fearless Leader i'm not worried about my own, but what about her's. for the most part, i think i've got my morals pretty well figured out, but this dilema is, for now, beond me. 041231 ... sadvirgin_again is growing back :( 041231 ... i_bleed_koolaid I used to have that. I kept it in the back of my closet with all the barbie doll heads and dusty stuffed animals that my sisters and I were too old for. Never really thought about it. Never cared for it or nurtured it. Never saved it and tried to give it away as a present, oh, here you go, merry christmas, I got you my virginity! It was just laying around, I found it on the floor and thought you might like to try it on... I was drunk once and it just wandered off. Like a bird that gets out of its cage and through the front door -- freedom! freedom! freedom! -- when you forget to clip its wings. I woke up, and it was gone. Only a muscle memory. I don't miss it. I don't want it back. But I still don't feel any less alone at night or any more sure of myself than I did when I was sixteen. 050325 ... aranel How to keep your virginity: Adopt the belief that it is renewed every new moon. 050622 ... dskdsdjf ,;/ghkk[fgkhldfkh;dlfkf;dslkf;fkdjsglkfdjglkdfjglkdfjglkdfjgldfkgjdflkjgldkgjd 050705 ... Lemon_Soda Innocence lost cannot be reattained. 050705 ... karyn It turns out that even virginity can be hidden. When I lost mine, he didn't notice that it was my first time, and that I had no real idea what I was doing. It also turns out to be not that big of a deal. It was nothing more and nothing less than I had expected it to be. I am not one to have any kind of real regrets about things, so I suppose it might be different for me, but it was definitely not a life-changing experience or anything that changed the way I act and think about relationships and sex. I didn't have any expectations or firm ideas about it, I just let it happen as it would. I dunno. It is what it is. People think about it way too much, moralize or demoralize it way too much. It's just a natural part of life, something that happens to everyone, eventually (unless abstinence is a choice, or course). It is what it is, and the more you try to make it like something, anything, you begin to lose out a bit. I spent days after going over what I had done, just reminiscing about it, and remembering what I had done, having very different reactions at myself. Sometimes disgusted, sometimes pleased, nervous, angry, everything. I didn't really develop any real feelings or ideals about it until I had much more experience with it. The thing about being a proud virgin is that you really have no idea what you are talking about. You don't have a clue what virginity is even about until you don't have it anymore. 050713 ... vintageuno I lost my virginity last night. I don't feel any different. It wasn't great, but it wasn't bad, either. He was a virgin, too, so it wasn't like i was expecting fireworks and sparkles. I was comfortable, ready, and he was the right person. I don't have any regrets. 050731 ... Ishutan Plunge, deep ocean water in my darkest wave-pool. Thoughts can ripple curtains holding back the sunlight. Talk to me now of Vietnam, I want to be a war-hero. Tactfully switching records, so the Victrola won't jam. Like Marley. "Virgin!" The word cut Carl to the core. 060331 ... poet lost 060331 ... Casey Reading these posts makes me sad 060403 ... Lafiel I lost mine to my jack-ass boyfriend (now ex bf) in the woods right after hurricane Ivan hit the area... I didn't want to do anything of the sort but he just started doing things and I keep saying no. He kept going and finally I convinced myself that I was ready and wanted this and at the last moment said yes to the jerk. He didn't ask if I was sure or if he could do anything to make me more comfortable, he just went on ahead. It took him 5 fucking minutes to break my hymen and I HELPED HIM!!! I had no pleasure from the experience and didn't even come close to coming... My first time sucked ass... But I do get to make fun of his abnormally small penis... ;-p 060418 ... . Poor sad fuckers. Suppose if you're that tore up over losing your virginity you should've thought about it more in the first place. I lost mine last year, and it kicked ASS! I have no regrets, no sad stories and no "Pity Me" attitude. The problem with America's sex craze isn't rooted in the media or peer-pressure. It's the fact that most of the people having sex aren't mature enough to understand it or respect it's gravity. I mean, hell, it is definitely a hella good fun time. But it also has a much more intimate and personal aspect. So my advice to all you sad fuckers is to warn any "virgin" friends you have that sex isn't just a toy. 060724 ... Ishutan I really like this line. "fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity" 060724 ... .. Poor sad fucker. I'm not sure I would take advice about maturity from someone who uses the phrase "hella good fun." 060724 ... kid andre I'd fuck for virginity. 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