adoption touched Dear brother: I just wanted to write you this letter and tell you about all the things I have learned. You died so young, you were only twenty-four days old. At least we were together in the foster home when you died. I'm sorry it has taken me so long to find you, but the agency refused to tell me where you were buried. They said that was "identifying" information, something I'm not allowed to know. Can you believe that I grew up a stone's throw away from where you are buried and I never knew it? Thirty-one years after you died, I found your death certificate. A friend helped me get it. Your name is John -- it's so nice to know my brother's name! When I finally went to visit you, I was not prepared to find you in an unmarked grave. I'm so sorry for you, that they would treat you that way. I guess that is how they treat us illegitimate kids. They wanted to keep you a secret, just hide you under some grass. They took everything from you, your name, your identity, even your existence. I wish someone would tell me what is "identifying" about an unmarked grave! But thank God that I found you. You will have all of these things back now. I have ordered a headstone for you, and hopefully it will be finished soon! You wont be a secret anymore, everyone will know their is a person under that grass -- my brother John. I have good news for you too. I also found our parents. Guess what -- they got married after we were born. Isn't that nice? And you just wont believe this at all -- they also had another child, a girl. So we have a sister! I have met her and she is a wonderful person, you would really like her. I know you must have a lot of questions, but I want you to know that you should not blame our parents. They never knew you were in an unmarked grave. The agency refused to tell them where you were buried, they were not even allowed to attend your funeral (did you really have one? The agency says you did, but who was there to know?). I think they made the best choice they could in putting us up for adoption. Things were very hard for your mother. I really feel sad for what she went through and all the lies she was told. Do you know that she came back later to try to get me back and they told her that I was dead too? Go figure -- I was sitting in a foster home at the time, I wasn't adopted until I was two years old. You can just imagine her surprise when I found her! She thought we were both dead all these years. I think finding her has been really good for her since she can finally work out openly all the feelings she had to keep to herself for so long. Maybe I'm going crazy, but I think about you all the time. We never knew each other, but I think I know you pretty well. You would look almost exactly like your father. I know that because I do. Well, that's enough for now. I'm going to visit you as soon as your headstone is finished, and I think your mother will be coming to visit you then as well. That will be the day everything is set right, and my mission will be complete. I love you, Your identical twin brother 000411 ... thera Is a really cool thing. I've got 3 sisters and a brother because of it. 000411 ... MollyGoLightly Thanks to the powers that be for adoption. One of my parents is adopted. Had they stayed with their birth parents, I probably would not exist. 000412 ... tourist This thing about sealing records is the only rub I have with the process. My first Wife died never knowing who she really was. It was a sad thing.though I believe that all things are revealed as we rejoin the totality. And in truth we are all one. 001024 ... unhinged they adopted those poor children just for the money "you can stay around. we get money for you" noah was the sweetest little boy...he used to give me the best hugs. but his dad poisoned him against me. "'cole...you really aren't a vampire are you 'cole?" that was the day that i wanted to rip ted's throat out. "no noah. i'm not. it's just a pretend game that me and my friends play." "so it's just pretend?" "yeah noah. it's just pretend." i wish that it was all just pretend for you noah. that i could take you away from there. those horrible adoptive parents that will break your poor sweet heart. maybe you will be able to stand the flood.... 010110 ... silentbob i'm prochoice i respect the choice of any woman who wants to keep or give their baby up for adoption. what they do with their lives is none of my business. 010110 ... Marjorie she was the most beautiful thing i had ever seen. precious little glow worm! :) i held her. she was mine for one day. and i gave her away. and it hurts like hell. and like my heart and soul left my body. and went away. 010625 ... Dafremen Thanks for pulling me out of that orphanage dad.....I owe you one. 010625 ... Casey I'll probably never get married...so I'll probably end up adopting so I wont be so lonely 010625 ... baby satan adopt-a-demon. har har har. 010625 ... paste! adopt-a-pint-of-demon-semen. donations accepted in my blender. zoinks! mu-shu spork! 010625 ... yummychOCOLATE I have always planned on adopting, ever since I was little (littler...i AM ONLY 14 after all)...I know things might change, but I'm pretty certain on this subject. I fear child birth...and even if I DO give birth to my own baby, I'd still want to adopt. put together all the good resons to adopt a kid, and those are why I would like to in the future. 010629 ... jusslissen2me are okay. But why cant a single male sign for an adopted child. there are good single men out there that just wants to be a father without the emotional process of being with a woman who he loves so much that just might die before he does. why is adopting a child ..... 020728 ... phil today 020729 ... ps99 i wish it was possible to adopt those two girls who already call me mamá. they're so wonderful and full of energy. sweet, vibrant children. who only want to be loved and have a mother. una mamá. i think about them and all the children they live with all the time and hope they all are well. i hope they receive their regalitos soon. i miss them and hope my life works out so i can visit much more often. 030929 ... ~gez~ wouldn't it be funny if you adopted a kid and they were the incarnation of everything you loathed.. like they had a good muscular body, blonde hair and blue eyes, great personality and was an acedemic genius. i think you should be able to choose the kid you adopt from a brochure 050131 what's it to you? who go blather from