pregnancy ClairE Adam: pregnancy is like any other sexually transmitted disease. it's a life form in your body that you want OUT 020122 ... cube It saddens to think that the days when a couple was joyous at their good fortune are soon behind us. A new life is now likened to a sexually transmitted disease. Something to be voided at all costs. And what if by snuffing out that spark, you were snuffing out of existence a child you once knew? A child you had promised the same priceless gift that you yourself now possess. You have done well Lucifer. Thy time to be bound draws near... ³ 020123 ... cube Ok, i recognized came down on that one a little hard. So i asked for a second opinion from a young woman whose opinion i value. She thought Claire Elizabeth's viewpoint was how she would feel about an unwanted pregnancy also - even to the point of thinking it cool to call it a STD. Out of that discission came the distinction between those who are trying to have a child and those who are not. I, an advocate for the former, CE the latter. To be continued, i'm sure... ³ 020123 ... 2 cents I'm a 30-year-old hetero woman, and I completely identify with the "pregnancy as parasitism" bon mot. The very prospect scares the heck out of me: Something swimming around in my guts in the dark, an organism completely independent of me in identity, leeching off of me until it rips its way—bloody and screaming—from the only hole it can spread wide enough. *shudder* I won't even get into the years of emotional and fiscal servitude that follow. Suffice to say, it is my fondest wish that birth control pills worked in reverse, that one could only conceive whilst taking them. Without 'em? Not a chance. 020124 ... Arwyn is something I want more than anything... but I know it won't happen for quite sometime, but gracious I want a baby. His baby.... My baby... our baby. but good things come to those who wait... 020124 ... lizzy Wow... reading through eveyone elses comments... i just... don't think i could ever see pregnancy as parasitic... or anything less than a beautiful miracle... see i found out when i was 18 that i could never have children.... and i think.. more than anything in this world i would like to feel a lil baby growing inside me... to put my hands on my belly... rubbing slightly.. and talkin soft.. knowing... just knowing that my baby hears me..... i want to create a life... i want to nurture that life...... i want the most basic of female rights.... abilities..whatever.... but damn... why me of all people? i'd make the best mommy.... i know i would... all my life i dreamed of what it would be like to have a baby.... and its funny.... cause i always pictured some sort of complication... always subconciously knew i s'pose..... that i'd never have one.... 040516 ... x i always thought i'd make a terrible mother and just as i was starting to think i was wrong i find out evolution made that choice for me already i'm not going to a fertility clinic i think nature has made itself clear 040516 ... lizzy i want to blather to you, x, but i have no words to blather.... 040517 ... FloydianSlip I was violently raped when I was 10 years old. I was in the hospital for over a week. I had no concept of how much work children were, but even then I wouldn't have thought of it as an STD or parasite. The thought of pregnancy did cross my mind several times and as I was laying in pain and agony in the hospital bed I didn't fear getting pregnant. I had no concept of being too young or what that could do to your body, but I never had thoughts like "get this damn thing out of me." I'm 21 now and sexually active with my boyfriend. I've had a couple of pregnancy scares due to my periods being so wacky. I've never feared it though...it would have been something to celebrate. I just don't understand how you could think something so wonderful as being parasitic. I'm not ready to have children by any means, and my boyfriend and me both know it. There are always options though such as adoption. It doesn't have to be a choice or consequence that ruins your life. Someday I want to feel that life growing inside of me and know that soon I'll be able to spoil that child with love. 040518 ... daxle nightmare 041008 ... methinx That whole "no sex till marrige" thing sidesteps the whole problem. A baby could never be anything other than an absolute blessing to me. Because the only time that precious little life is gonna get a shot is when I'm ready for them. And I hate to say it, but... aside from rape casses, if the thought of pregnancy scares you, its your own damn fault. 041008 ... daxle oh shut up 041009 ... mother night backaches,from the weight of the baby and the water, frequently having to pee when your baby moves and applies pressure to your bladder, morning sickness, maternity clothes that never fit as well on real pregnant women the way they fit on the catalog models (this is true with clothes in general, moreso with maternity gear) and of course... labour pains the child is the reward, and i don't know if she's been through it, but i think daxle called it right because between the pleasure of doing what you do to go about conceiving a child (aka fucking) and the joy of having a kid, the whole pregnancy part of the affair IS a bloody nightmare 041012 ... FloydianSlip I recently had a pregnancy scare not too long ago. My man and I realize that we wouldn't be ready to take care of a child financially though the child was more than wanted. I ended up not knowing anything for about two weeks. During that time I NEVER thought about my potential baby as parasitic, but the most beautiful and precious gift I've ever received. Had I been pregnant I know I would have not been able to keep it, but I would have given it up for adoption. It would have killed me emotionally to do so, but I would have done it. There's no sense in keeping it when you know you can't take care of it. My mom always considered me a parasite when she was pregnant with me. She used to tell me when I was a kid that she wished she would have aborted me. Those who think that there child is a parasite should probably not have children in life ever. That attitude alone will fuck up a child...let alone growing up with someone who takes that kind of attidue. I know from experience. 041012 ... Moonshine! Something I pray never happens to me (even though I don't beleive in god!) Though it would be nice to have children when I'm older, I guess.. Oh and why is it mostly infertile people that actually want children? Is it one of those reverse psychology things? o_O 050113 what's it to you? who go blather from