virginity Rainer Krauss If there's one thing in my life I'm absolutely sure about it's my virginity. 990208 ... deadpilot The gift that keeps on giving 990216 ... elsewhere I believe this is heavan to no one else but me......people think im gay because i wont fuck any guys....sorry not gay, just smart, why does no one respect virginty, do i think people would like me more if I got laid everyonce in a while? hell no, why do I nedd to worry about disease, pregnancy, and being used just for sexual pleasure, I dont think my self esteem could handle that...I would rather be who I am and focus my mind on more important things like building a life...Sex is an act of love...or so it goes, now it is an act of lust, i would rather wait all my life for the right man, than have the attention of fifty million people who only want to use me for my body, ye3ah ..its a real caring thing...I dont blame anyone for having sex...they know thier actions, and they know the reprocussiont s of thier actions, you know people get pregnat and say "oh how could this have happened?" well? what do you think sperm is for, its not put there just to be pretty it has a purpose, that is long forgotten, how many planned pregnancys have you seen? would you rather have a baby inside of mairrage, or outside when you know the father will leave you hanging....yeah I know sex is pleasurable, but it is a gift that you and youre spouse should share....why do we insist on taking the love out of every wonderfull thing god has given us....so just play your little game of russian roulllette but try to think, next time that gun goes off...it might just be loaded....as so I speak as a virgin of 21 years old...dont tell me i dont know what im talking about because I have seen it...had to watch it destroy lives, and seen the tears that it brings...you might find that youll learn alot more by observing than by doing........ 990410 ... drew i remember seeing this episode of 20/20 when i was (by mere coincidence) 20, and it was about "the new virginity movement" or some other equally cheesy name. it was about a buncha young teens who were making promises of celibacy to god and their parents, and to hear them talk about it, you knew they had know idea what was going on. as a virgin at the time, it really pissed me off that this was america's idea of what it means to be a virgin - to be a christian automaton that supresses thinking about being human out of fear of the flesh. a promise ring won't keep your body's hormones from flowing through your blood. don't deny your body... you're gonna be it in for your whole life, so you might as well learn how it works and how you can control it. 990411 ... James Am I a virgin because I am gay, or am I gay because I am a virgin? 990411 ... allie fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity 990411 ... constantly sometimes i wish i were as scared as i am supposed to be. 990414 ... emma way, way, way overrated. 990414 ... meg it doesn't seem so important anymore 990416 ... daxle what the hell is a spouse? someone you're with for tax purposes and can divorce at will. if you find someone you love in a deep and true way, have sex, keeping biology in mind. 990430 ... ceorl a treatable condition 990501 ... jason pro choice on that if u don't want to have sex, don't but don't let someone force you into doing it 990514 ... heidi amen, elsewhere. It may not be a big deal to everyone but it's a big deal to me, therefore I shall remain a v-dawg until i find someone worthy of me. 990517 ... me I don't like to think of it as a possession, but I am ready to let go of it. Only problem is, there's no one to share it with. 990527 ... Jeff @ Newdream Sometimes, I wish it still applied to me, if only I could let it go. There's nothing like it - esp. with the correct individual. 990528 ... emsie My virginity isn't THAT important to me, but it's important enough to me that I'm not gonna have sex just for the sake of losing my virginity. But sometimes, it feels like I'm the only one who is a virgin (I know how cliched that sounds, but it's true). I wish I had someone to share it with too. 990706 ... jules virginity is important, but it's not that big of a deal. for one, there is no point in having sex just to be like your friends. you may feel excluded, but how much worse would you feel if you never heard from that guy again, or didn't want to? secondly, it comes down to your relationship with the person. Will it enhance your relationship? Is it just another way of showing love to them? Sex is not so much a physical act as it is a mental one, and I think losing your virginity changes your mind state a bit. 990916 ... Dr_Quill the number 1 cause of divorce is virginity until the wedding night. 990917 ... OTK and 47% of statistics are made up on the spot. 990918 ... h8r (diggety dot com) if it's so damned cool, how come i can't find it. i mean, when i can't find my keys, and i look hard enough, i always find it somebody. 990920 ... David bastard child of Rod Serling and Salavador Dali, no hooplah, no fanfare, no joy. Everything is dismissed as an occurance that comes and goes in ones life...but it doesn't make me any less bitter 990920 ... jessica virginity is not taken away, and i can't be touched. i can't feel you. sex is wrong inside of me. virginity is my way of keeping the innocence he took from me. it's my way of saying no to him when i didn't know what it meant. 990920 ... tom the only people who make a big thing out of being a virgin are those that don't have it anymore why is that? 991027 ... elimeny purity. do you have it? I had it once. Then someone comes along and takes the only thing that mattered from me and says "it's okay. because I love you" and you know what? it's easy to say you arent nieve. but when you fall for the oldest line in the book, it makes you feel pretty jilted. The thing is, when it's gone, it's gone. It's something you can always lose, but never get back. I guarantee you there will always be a guy out there willing to get laid. But once your virginity disentegrates, your purity and innocence follow right after. Those are the things I miss the most. But you can't just forget you had sex-you can't just get back those attributes again. You have to rediscover what they mean, and reinvent them for yourself. But once the virginity is gone, it's gone. so there. 991207 ... SOCKS purity 991207 ... deb jessica is so so right: virginity is a choice not a thing to be lost at any moment some say that any sex means oops, not a virgin i say, if you didn't know what was FUCKING goin on, when you're too young to understand that is NOT losing anything -that is losing innocence and childhood and gaining fear of someone once trusted even if you aren't young, if you say no, you made a choice, but to keep what is yours you only lose your virginity if you agree they can take away everything else, but they can't change your mind- ~bottom line: you say no, you lost nothing~ 991219 ... deb (see rape ) 991219 ... paultopia good riddance 991223 ... purple tzar I read that in a Madeline L'engle book that after losing one's virginity, one can never touch a unicorn. Shit. Oh well. We'll always have dinosaurs. 000118 ... chloe A reality blown way out of porportion and completley exploited by our society. It is no longer the symbol of love conquered but what substantiates one's conquest.It is the perfume adorned by those in waiting...either considered sacred or seen as another one of the artificial flavors in our modern world,that masks the raw truth in everything.... 000119 ... ikon I lost my viginity once. But it was okay....I found it again. 000124 ... MollyGoLightly Southern Baptist girls at my high school held on to their technical virginity in odd ways. According to their logic, a penis in your butt is okay, but a penis in your vagina is not. A penis in your mouth: All clear in the eyes of god! A penis in your vagina: impure, damaged goods. WTF? 000322 ... girl my whole life is the avoidance of giving it up -- walking side by side with the uncontrollable desire to. 000322 ... vega yet another social contrivance cultivated by a partiachal society to shatter the sexual act and make it violent 000322 ... vega uhh..sorry, make that "patriarchal" or however the hell you spell it 000322 ... Brad Welcome to the south, Molly, land of behavior that is contrary to all reason. 000323 ... chicken pot pie sometimes, I look at her and wonder where in here body it is. I decided that it is a yellow ball of light in her stomach. that makes me wonder where it was when it was still in my body. regrets? none. never. i don't believe in them. And none otherwise, either. 000324 ... birdmad i remember that the evening i lost mine, all those years ago, if written down in exacting detail, would read like a cross between a letter to penthouse and the "electric kool-aid acid test" sometimes i actually do miss the eighties 000403 ... kt I remember that....that was along time ago. 000403 ... camille the innocence of childhood 000403 ... oodles My friends used to tell me that even though my wait was long, it was going to be worth it. They thought that once I finally found "that special someone" it was going to be the ideal love surpassing any of their experiences by far. Sometimes I believed them. My first time ended up being with this guy that I barely know while we were both drunk at a fraternity party. I'm now a statistic of college freshmen that lose their virginity when they're intoxicated. Yeah, real ideal, guys. I felt like a whore. But not because I had sex--because I do everything in the wrong order...always. 000429 ... sugarcake Lost mine last night, sex is over-rated. Enjoyed it but don't see what the fuss is all about. No regrets-when it feels right, do it. 000429 ... MollyGoLightly Lots of entries waxing wistful about the loss of "innocence" and "purity" that leaves one when the virginity goes. I take exception to that. 000429 ... birdmad i can't take any exception. it was fun, it was definitely what some might call "life-affirming" but there was nothing pure or innocent about the way i lost mine. and i wouldn't want to remember it any other way 000501 ... Silent Bob she said she lost it long ago when i asked her to who she said she did not know punk rock girl! lets go slam dance! punk rock girl! lets take a chance.. ok i made that up. 000606 ... Miniatus the taste of passion on the lips, the electric feel of flesh rolling over your senses, the indecision, the desision, the verdict-pleasure. Ah the pimeval pasion of letting yourself go down the path of self indulgence....yes self indulgence-the reason for losing your virginity. 000713 ... wonderous it's something that people carelessly throw around as if it's nothing but another that bites the dust. but when you have unwanted results 9 months later, never again in someone of the opposite sex will you trust.