blather_confessional girl_jane Fogive me, Father, for I have sinned, in thought, and would in deed if the opportunity came... bad bad bad Catholic girl... 030311 ... girl_jane see-I'm still so flustered I can't even spell forgive correctly... 030311 ... father_confessional My daughter; Could you elaborate on the nature of these impure thoughts that I might better know what penance you deserve? 030312 ... girl_jane I'm afraid, Father, that if I let these thoughts wonder anywhere other than my mind, it would be another sin. 030312 ... this is me now i once found myself in a bath house. its actually wuite a long story. but to cut it short, i wound up walking into a room and giving a guy head without ever saying one word to him. i shudder now, and wish it didnt happen. only because its so not me. maybe if he came i would feel slightly better about it 030313 ... father_confessional There is an old adage which says, "Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement." Don't beat yourself with actions past but, go forth and sin no more, my Son. 030313 ... Lilac It drives me crazy thinking about him not caring. yeah, it was a relief. But that was after I came to grips with the loss. It still bothers me when I think about it. We almost had a kid together. Geez A kid. I was going to be a mother until it was lost. And he never said anything. Just was relieved. thats all 030316 ... father_confessional Sister Lilac; I read your blathes of past and feel for you a sense of sorrow. "While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it." Samuel Johnson Be comforted little sister - this too shall pass. 030317 ... sirflaccid I didn't know how to react. We were having a baby. My mind was so busy and torn trying to figure out what we were going to do. I never really had time to sit back and think about what this really was. When it was over it was like the world was lifted off our shoulders. That was the only thing I knew how to react to. I think it was sad, I mean a part of me died. But it was a part I never knew I had. I just thought it was hard to realize you lost something you never knew you had. How do you cope with that. I just don't want anyone to think I didn't care. If I didn't care I would have suggested we cut it off ourselves. 030318 ... jane forgive me father, for i have sinned this is my first blather_confession. i have had impure thoughts as long as i can remember. i like girls and i like boys. i have had sexual intercourse with men two to seven years older than me. i don't ask for a lot but i am very needy. i want to know how to help myself 030318 ... ShnizelCheese I have Needs Much like Janes... I battle to find a calling to a certain gender... Is there something wrong, why is it so hard for people to understand that im just not fussy... 030318 ... father_confessional Brother Flaccid; This is an experience you will carry for the rest of your years. After you have fathered a new generation, you will find a small pain haunting you of the life that might have been. You can but ask His forgiveness and be most careful in future - our sisters take this much more to heart, you see. There is no penance for you - the haunting is the price you pay. 030318 ... father_confessional Sisters Jane & SC; I know of your dilema and I believe it to be a natural course. However, it is with some hesitation that I present the following wisdom; "In battling evil, excess is good; for [he/she] who is moderate in announcing the truth is presenting half-truth. [He/she] conceals the other half out of fear of the people's wrath." Kahlil Gibran I hesitated because Church doctrine would have you play safe; indeed, to heed these words is not. I have lived lives before this and can vouch this. Live life to the full and find yourselves. 030318 ... ShnizelCheese Um... er.... ShnizelCheese Looks Down..... Im not a Girl am i? 030319 ... father_confessional Oh my Lord! Forgive me my son. It was the fair texture of thy skin and the beauty of thine eyes which doth deceive these old orbs of mine. In any case, the quoted words of the Master are genderless and broadly sweeping in their application. 030319 ... splinken i poked my friends in their eyes, and i called the dog a bad name. i lied to my boss, i ate too much candy, i freedom kissed someone in the dark. help. 030331 ... father_confessional "Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving wordy evidence of the fact." George Eliot (1819 - 1880) Come back when your sins are more weighty and I will be glad to offer what little wisdom God has granted me. 030331 ... jane splinken, you can kiss me in the dark anytime 030401 ... splinken word! 030402 ... phil let me take this opportunity to say splinken/jane... anytime you two are ready. 030402 ... phil oh yes, and father please forgive for I hate you. 030402 ... father_confessional "Truth is the mother of hatred." Ausonius Of course you can be forgiven my son. But, what could I have done to invoke such depth of emotion? 030403 ... Dafremen Forgive me blather, for I have sinned. I just got internet service at home again and I've been indulging in a good old fashioned romp through farce and fantasy sarcasm again. (You know blather, is giving people what they expect of me instead of what I really am such a sin after all? I mean they don't believe the real deal anyhow...where's the harm?) 030403 ... annonymous i cheated on my boyfriend 030403 ... father_confessional "A thing worth having is a thing worth cheating for." W. C. Fields (1880 - 1946) It is probably fair to say that until you are betrothed to another in the House of the Lord, finding that thing worth having is more exploration than sin. 030404 ... father_confessional I can hardly believe myself that I just condoned cheating. The Cardinal would eat me for breakfast for that one. However, I was inspired to console the cheater who, at a tender age needs not to feel guilt for searching out a proper mate. This is a normal process. The guilt would be mine should I pressure that person stay in the wrong relationship - which appears the case. 030404 ... father_confessional Dafremen; In this house you have addressed "blather", and so it is not normally my place to speak. Good thing that is too, for I see no sin in what you confess. In fact, I was a little confused as to why you should be visiting us at all. 030404 ... Dafremen You're a wise man and always so good to me father. Here's a 20 for the offering plate and a bottle of Irish Malt Whiskey for you. 030404 ... jane forgive me...maybe... i had more impure thoughts. and i'm not trying to get rid of them. 030404 ... father_confessional "When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate now knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." Henri Nouwen, Out of Solitude We are with you in this moment of darkness, dear sister Jane. 030405 ... father_confessional For others who may be confused at the preceeding post, please visit jane's_rant. 030405 ... cant say forgive me father, for i have sinned. i am madly in love with a young lady which is almost impossible for other people to accept this sin i had made. I too am a young lady and according to the you my father loving the same sex is an awful sin. i tried to change my feelings but as you can see i havent succeed. everyone in my family knows about me being a (forgive me father for saying this word) lesbian, and i can tell that they do not accept this kind of thing. but it is who i am and what i will be forever. it kills me just to know that they judge me now that they know. what am i supose to do? shall i not continue to go to church and learn because i am a sin already, as sin from birth? do i even deserve to have a life? shall i just kill myself sense i have no one but my love. my friends has forgotten about me, "i am just another lesbian that might hit on them." i dont know what to do anymore father. tell me please. 030426 ... cant say forgive me father, for i have sinned. i am madly in love with a young lady which is almost impossible for other people to accept this sin i had made. I too am a young lady and according to the you my father loving the same sex is an awful sin. i tried to change my feelings but as you can see i havent succeed. everyone in my family knows about me being a (forgive me father for saying this word) lesbian, and i can tell that they do not accept this kind of thing. but it is who i am and what i will be forever. it kills me just to know that they judge me now that they know. what am i supose to do? shall i not continue to go to church and learn because i am a sin already, as sin from birth? do i even deserve to have a life? shall i just kill myself sense i have no one but my love. my friends has forgotten about me, "i am just another lesbian that might hit on them." i dont know what to do anymore father. tell me please. 030426 ... lost_soul forgive me father, for i have sinned. i am madly in love with a young lady which is almost impossible for other people to accept this sin i had made. I too am a young lady and according to the you my father loving the same sex is an awful sin. i tried to change my feelings but as you can see i havent succeed. everyone in my family knows about me being a (forgive me father for saying this word) lesbian, and i can tell that they do not accept this kind of thing. but it is who i am and what i will be forever. it kills me just to know that they judge me now that they know. what am i supose to do? shall i not continue to go to church and learn because i am a sin already, as sin from birth? do i even deserve to have a life? shall i just kill myself sense i have no one but my love. my friends has forgotten about me, "i am just another lesbian that might hit on them." i dont know what to do anymore father. tell me please. 030426 ... Marcie i did my confessions but it was not answered. ???? 030426 ... smurfus rex Marcie, read Ruth 1:14-18 and know that others have been where you are now. 030427 ... father_confessional Marcie; Assuming that yours is the confession of the lost soul, please forgive my tardiness in response. I was delayed in my visit here. I have searched in vain for meaningful insights which may have shed some light on your situation. I was surprised at how little I could find. I am therefore left to my own devices. In truth, I understand not why the church teaches homosexuality as sin. In fact, there are several churches that do not. Technically, it must be said, it is deviant behavior but then, where would humanity be without that? <