dick_sucking_101 from one sucker to another... ::ahem:: where do i begin... the first and most important rule of all is that the female must actually enjoy giving head. if you are going to do it, then give 100%. be the best that you can be! if you are doing it out of necessity, then your heart is just not in it, and well your guy would be better off wrapping a piece of salami around his winky and wacking away. if you don't actually like it, but perform anyway for your guy, well that is great. the question then becomes why don't you like it?. get in touch with your sexuality. the male form is absolutely intoxicating, and you have no idea what you are missing. first - do not just take his cock into your mouth. take it into your hands. memorize every inch of his cock with your fingers before you even begin to ummmmmm perform. do it gently, and remember that the moment fore-play begins, nothing else matters. secondly - tease him. bring your tongue and/or lips as close to his cock as he can stand. make him think you are going to take it all, but then back off and just let him feel your warm breath. look at his face, his eyes. smile and/or wink as you tease him. when he leasts expects it, slide your tongue out of your mouth and gently lick any area of his cock. slide your lips along the smooth skin of the shaft. slide your tongue along the underside of the head, and glide it along the veins running up and down his cock. the basic idea here is that you are now memorizing his cock with your tongue (also, don't forget about his balls! same rules apply.). continue teasing him, and when his eyes are closed and you know that he is not expecting it... thirdly - ...wrap your lips around the head of his cock and begin sucking gently (use your tongue also by sweeping it across the small opening while you are sucking). at this point he may have already tried or is now beginning to slide his fingers through your hair (grabbing your head) in the attempt to bring your mouth down onto his cock. whether or not you want to allow him this, is up to you. you can pull away and tease him further, or you can let him have his way. if you choose to continuing teasing, then refer back to the second act. if you decide to continue on, then you can either slowly take him into your mouth, or for the initial 'swallowing' you can do just that...take it all in...remembering the most important rule of all. never, ever let your teeth glide along his cock. sucking is all in the lip muscles. you may use your teeth if you know what it is that you are doing, which means that you will not hurt him (by using teeth, i mean to playfully nibble). continuing... don't suck him in a monotonous motion. vary the speed at which you take his cock. short, quick bursts or slow, deep sucks. develop your own rhythm, but make each one count. remember to breathe while you are sucking or you will not last as long. if your jaws become tired or you become short of breath, try not to stop, just slow it down a bit. relax & compose yourself and then come back strong. now, swallowing an entire cock is an acquired skill and if you are not experienced you will gag yourself every time. the muscles in the throat that control the gag reflex is all mind over matter. relax! if you do this, then your muscles will relax. however, if his cock is huge, then play it by ear. you know how much you can take. if you can take it all, let him feel the back of your throat. make it feel to him as if you are really swallowing it...as if he is actually fucking your mouth. once you gain experience, at the moment his cock is buried in your throat, slide your tongue out under his shaft, and gently lick his balls. your tongue should be busy regardless...licking his cock while inside your mouth. what else? just continue on. don't forget to listen to him. he knows what really feels good, and make him feel comfortable telling you when something does not. if he does this, it does not mean that you are not performing correctly. it just means that he knows his cock well, and he wants you to also. this will help you perfect it! when orgasm arrives, there are many, many options. if you enjoy the taste of his cum, then by all means allow him to cum inside of your mouth...either by cumming on your tongue, or shot-gunning while deep in your throat. just remember to swallow quickly. if you do not enjoy the taste of cum, learn to! feed him peppermint all day long. anything minty or citrus. it really does make a difference. have him avoid anything tangy, sour or spicy. altoids are great! now, if he chooses to cum outside of your mouth, give him full rein. let him ejaculate on your breasts, on your lips and/or entire face, or just anywhere. you can always take a shower. remember, when he begins to cum, do not just pull away with the thought that your job is done. all his orgasm means is that you need to suck harder or swallow deeper. intensify it! he will try to pull away, because at this point, his cock usually becomes ultra-sensitive. don't let him! just hang in there, and feel it with him! ok, ummmmmm i think that is about it. i'm sure there are lots of other small details that i have forgotten, but this should get you off to a good start! good luck! ;) 021011 ... Dafremen Congratualtions! You have just given half of the blather-reading world an erection that probably won't quit until we either whack it away, or do what I'm about to do, which is go home and bang the everloving piss out of the missus. (Normally I'd make love to her...this is not one of those occasions. I'm imagining that she'll enjoy it anyhow, and that if she doesn't, she'll forgive me by tomorrow.) Thank you. Your work here is done and please don't do it again. This one blather should suffice for some time to come. (Pardon the terrible play on words.) 021011 ... Dafremen You'll notice the first word is misspelled. It's hard typing one handed. Thank you again. You really shouldn't have...no I mean that, you have no idea what you have unleashed here. Ok, NOW I leave the cybercafe. (I can finally walk normally and the blood is returning to my brain.) 021011 ... eddie wow 021026 ... gay gizmo Roommate Says "A lesson that is truely practical" Friend exclaims "Bloody BRILLIANT" This computers owner states "Best Blather of the Year award is a lock for this witty, easy-to-use guide to shinin the knob!" 021027 ... . . 021027 ... p2 i wonder if a blather can win a pulitzer 021028 ... embarrassed sucker what possessed me to write that?! it's now haunting me. ummmmmm guys, this blathe is now closed. go home. 021028 ... p2 are you kidding? i'm gonna print out a few copies and laminate them 021028 ... p2 hmmm, the pulitzer? too insignificant where do i submit nobel prize applicants? 021028 ... bethany i was told to always remember the ball lift at his big moment 021122 ... stork daddy well guys like to see you make eye contact with them. the reason behind that is they like you to be able to see them losing respect for you as it happens. nah...that's not true...not all guys lose respect for you...some guys never had respect to begin with. am i going to get the talkin to for this or what? 021122 ... stork daddy oh and another thing...no one will admit this...but go ahead and stick a finger in his cornhole. 021122 ... the sucker ummmmmmm, well i would give you a tongue lashing if i thought that would help. this topic is not titled 'dick sucking for ho's'. this topic specifically & technically covers the fine art of 'giving the best head that you possibly can your first time out & then some'. it does not in anyway define the would be sexual habits of a female. 'finger in his cornhole'? that was definitely an overshare! 021122 ... stork daddy and what exactly is wrong with being a ho? 021122 ... phil being a dirty ho 021122 ... stork daddy oh and who are you to judge? what if i like being a dirty ho? 021122 ... phil nothing. 021122 ... bethany he scares easily it makes him so angry at me then his head spins around just like the exorcist and i find it ever so hard to resist his cries but there's nothing more sadistic than an infant waving his pistol in my face he wants me right down on my knees crumbling in disgrace but he underestimates my mind i know he's messing with my head my only weakness is i cant beleive the guy could be entirely dead HUH YOU CANT TALK TO A PSYCHO LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING" "poe" 021122 ... makkaa you know what, 'overshare' or not, guys DIG the finger on the prostate... go on, slip it in there - don't drive it in, or you'll freak the shit out of him. Just wet it up a bit (you should be pretty wet by now from the hot cock-licking you're treating him to, or you shouldn't be treating him at all), with some of your own juices or some KY and slide it on in - niiice and slow. If you guys haven't been this open yet, don't ask, but play with his anus a little and keep getting deeper and deeper... if he says no - it means no, and move on to something else. If he's giving you the greenlight, diddle away! With the prevelence of diseases, be in a committed/tested couple before you use your own female lubrication, otherwise purchase a lubricant at the same time you buy condoms, and keep it handy by your bed, like in the nightstand. If you're someplace degrading like the backseat of his buddy's car, or a friend's back yard pool party, get a good spit and lick your finger. Once it's been in there, don't lick it again. It's not only a bit gross, but there's a bacteria factor to that. If buying condoms/KY is embarrassing, then you asren't supposed to be doing this AT ALL. Now, while you're over there, take a little time to tickle the skin between his balls and his bum. It's called a perennium. I call it a cusiffit - 'cause if it wasn't there... Anyway, they really love it. You'll get bonus points if you use your tongue, or lubricate your fingers first. Basically there's only one rule involving all kinds of sex: wetter=better. Don't forget to take a little pleasure yourself by partaking in a 69. if you ask him not to come until you suggest it's an appropriate time, (don't worry, he'll thank you for making him wait for you - believe me), it'll be mind-blowing if you both come together, especially (I cannot stress this enough) if you both continue the pleaseure WHILE you're coming. To take advantage of this position without having to sound like a cheese-ball, "wanna do a 69?", Just take him by surprise. I'm hoping you'll be smooching first, so get good and naked at this stage, then kiss him all over his body - don't forget the belly button! Lick the inside of his hip-bone soooo softly, and return to his lips in the same, agonizingly slow fashion, making a pit-stop at the nipples for a little suck, lick & tickle. Then work your way back down the same path, but try to mix it up a bit - you don't want to be stuck in a "routine". try nibbling the skin under his armpit, and the sides of his chest. kiss the underside of his elbows, and places he's never expect you to go, because let's face it - we always neglect the rest of the body in our haste to wrap our lips around his throbbing action. When you're going back down, pivot at the waist - this means, don't bring your body lower, swing it around so you're at his side with your head pointing in the direction of his feet - lying perpendicular, or adjacent to him - then mid-way, you can lie beside him, and open up - he'll know what you're doing and he'll love it that you're this frisky. All the advice in the first blathe up there is pretty solid. Teeth are just a no-no, unless you're doing it right, which is hard to guage unless you've been sleeping with the same guy a LOT and he's let you try pretty much anything on his cock, so just avoid it altogether if you're not sure how much is too much