what's_love_like_for_you blown cherry It's emotional devotion without the involvement of logic or reason. - blue star Now that I understand. But I have reason to believe that this is not the case for all. Now I'm not talking about being in a loving relationship or anything like that, just plain, complicated old love. Being "in love" with a person whether or not it's reciprocated, on any level. So, pens ready chilluns? Keep your answers brief, and the handwriting neat please. Marks will not be awarded for unneccesarily flowery wording. But please answer this. I think I just want to be assured I'm not a freak.... - So, what exactly is being in love with someone like for you? - How do you feel about that person? - What does it do to you compared with who you are when you're not in love? - What does it do to who you are when you are around that person? (And if you think you have an answer to any of these questions, then congratulations, that means you are one of the truly lucky people on this earth who have experienced what must be the greatest emotion of them all) 020510 ... CRO 1. exciting and comfortable. Gives me a sense of belonging in the world/universe whatever... 2. worship. 3. stability. Makes me think life IS actually worth living. 4. not quite sure about that question. I'm a bit slow... too many words in there. 020510 ... Ive Gone Incognito Horrible! Of I'm in a relationship for more than a month I turn into a submissive docile marionette! I hate it hate it HATE IT! And yet when I try to go back to who I was be for the relationship (independent, out spoken, and confident (among other things)) I feel like it's an act, like I'm pretending to be who I was and it makes my tummy hurt!! Oh how I hate it! and I can't go back to being ME again until I'm out of the relationship! 020510 ... niki the feeling that forever is going to be okay...safe... 020510 ... nocturnal an offensive four-letter word. 020510 ... unhinged small waves in the sea of depression that give me excuses to cry and do drugs and abuse myself. and it's funny because i know people love me but somehow i never quite believe them. love hurts because it always seems to be with the wrong people for the wrong reasons. i grew up with this glamourous ideal and really love is nothing like a stupid romance movie. love is laying next to someone at night and looking into their eyes without having to say a word. that has only happened to me once. everything else was fake and i fucking hate it. 020510 ... CRO once again, i know exactly what you mean. 020511 ... Arwyn 1.) Wonderful! 2.) I want to grow old with him. I want to show and share with him my experiences and I want him to meet the people most dear to me. I love him more than life itself. 3.) I would much rather be in love with him... before I met him, I was very angry, melancholy, reclusive and suicidal... he's helped me realize there's more to life... 4.) I get butterflies and can't help but feel incredibly blessed. I never thought I'd get an angel like him... 020511 ... kerry just remember how lucky you are to be in love :) 020511 ... Kate 1. Like being a hobo for a day and hoping in an empty train car travelling to Indiana, and eating bagged sandwiches and reading O. Henry to each other. 2. How did I feel. That their presence made the day so much better and that my smile would burst in band because I could see him out of the corner of my eye and know that he was watching me as I was watching him. 3. It makes me much more excitable and much more analytical. Sometimes I feel overly mushy too. 4. Wanting to memorize the lines of their face and breathe in the exact smell of their hair and how it feels and to kiss at any private moment. 020511 ... blue star 1) For me, being in love is the only time when I am truly afraid, and the only time when I am truly hopeful. I don't actually know if I've ever really been in love anymore. The feelings are so immediately powerful... 2) I feel that I have something to offer this person, and even though I know that they have something to offer me, I'm not particularly interested in it. I want to lay down at his feet, and offer everything I have. And somewhere, secretly, I want him to lay down beside me, and give me all that he has to give. 3)When I'm not in love, I'm bored. And boring. I'm definitely more concrete during those times... but I really don't think (for all my virgo-ness) that I was meant to be a concrete person. When I'm not falling for someone, I'm looking for someone to fall for. The problem is that they usually sneak up on me... When I am in love I'm moony and ecstatic and I listen to happy songs and dance outside... or sometimes I listen to beautiful, desperate, tragic songs and sway in the darkness. When I am in love I feel that I am a better person. 4)When I'm around that person... I'm so happy and so scared I can hardly think straight. But I think that I do a very good job of hiding it, considering how terrible of a liar I am. And I must always hide it. I've gotten better over the years at coming out with it... But I've still never had a good experience with getting the guy I want. The only boyfriend I've really had asked me out 3 years after I got over him. He was a match, and I was wet wood. But when I'm around that person, you can see it in my face. I think you would have to be blind to not see it. No matter what I say, no matter how well I bluff and posture, my eyes glow with this adoration and deep sentiment that I can feel beaming outwards from me. When I'm in love, logic and reason can hold no power over me. 020511 ... Ursm What?HUH? What is this love thing you speak of? I think you made it up. If it existed, I would of found it by now. 020511 ... Joana. The constant struggle between the pleasure of his wonderful company and the fear of his inexorable demise. I am morbid like that. 020511 ... angie 1. I can honestly say that i have never been in love...with anyone...i have liked people so much...but i guess i am just waiting for that certian person or incident that like...knocks me over. I am however, a bit infatuated to the point of love with someone who i barely know. 2. When i am around this person...i cant even think...i want to watch him.forever..and talk to him forever. When i am around him i have normal conversations...but when i am away from him and actually think about what is happening i cant control myself from screaming with delight. I could barely drive my friend home after the last time i spoke with him. I wish i knew more about him, and i wish we had more time to hang out but we are so busy. When he came to my play i could hardly concentrate. it was crazy. like he put a spell on me. There have been very few guys who have done this to me. its amazing. its like all my composure and power fades...with one smile. 3. when i am not "in love" with someone i basicaly just find people to distact myself with. there is really no time that i am not interested in SOMEONE. 4. I dont really think i change when i am around a person i love...maybe that just shows that i have never really been in love. I really am not that experienced at this issue. I can only offer what i have. I doubt i helped...but maybe i did...who knows. I honestly think it is okay to not be in love yet. Think about it...would love really be that great if we experienced it all the time? I dont...I think that when love is supposed to happen it will..and there is really nothing you can do to help it except distract yourself in the mean time. correct me if im wrong id also appreciate the advice oh and i have noticed that i rarely use the correct punctuation and capitalization. if this also bothers anyone i would appreciate it if u could tell me. i am lazy. 020512 ... stilllookingforit i think i touched it once just by looking at her. but then we had a fight and both got thrown in jail. prolly some other times also but that one sticks out. 020513 ... birdmad calming, exhilarating, and absolutely terrifiying all in the same moment 020513 ... phil it keeps going on and on it doesn't stop just keeps going, and that's all that it does 020513 ... FNP90 - So, what exactly is being in love with someone like for you? eh. - How do you feel about that person? I wonder, what without love? why is their love? what should I do? - What does it do to you compared with who you are when you're not in love? it makes me talk about love - What does it do to who you are when you are around that person? makes me easy 020513 ... devalis I used to say it was a glandular misapprehension. That was before I fell. It's heaven and hell. Someone in a song said "sweeter than honey and bitter as gall, love is a friend to us all." I can relate to that. It's not always easy. But it's always beautiful.I can't think of anything I'd ever want more in my life than to love someone who returns that love with just as much fire and energy and passion. 020921 ... bespeckled It's a few inches past the edge of my fingertips ... 020922 ... *nat* 1. Its like knowin that I love him so much that I cant actually pu what I feel for him into words at the moment. 2. Its trying convince your friends that he is different to all the rest, and is here to stay for longer than the rest. 3. Wanting to knock the living daylights out of her because she just doesn't understand what we have, and is so fucking arrogant. 4. Its like having our own little world, ive let you see so much more of me than anybody else has (and hopefully ever will) see. 5. Its wanting to feel your reassuring touch every moment of every day. 020922 ... blamethesky non-existent. yeah. 020923 ... Grimace An intersection of intense emotions which act to push you over that boundary which separates two people and drives you to plunge into them, to merge your emotions and share you passions as one. 020923 ... josie .:when the happiness of another person is essential to my own:. 020923 ... josie frolicking_in_the_rain 020923 ... Grimace Yes, where their happiness is in fact the root of my own happiness. But at the same time, to allow space for that person to xplore themselves without being crushed. 020923 ... ~gez~ it is knowing that no mtter what she does i will always be there, and i never want to let go 021102 ... krimilda LOVE 021102 ... GirlNamedLover love. love makes you so irrational. you do things you would would never normally do to show someone how you feel. and you cry when you cant express it in words. but you know in your heart that you really do feel that way. calvin:whats it like to fall in love? hobbes:well...say the object of your affection walks by... first, your heart falls into your stomach and splashed your innards. all the moisture makes you sweat profusely. this condenstaion shorts the circuits to your brain, and you get all woozy. when your brain burns out altogether, your mouth disengages and you babble like a cretin until she leaves. calvin: THATS love?!? hobbes: medically speaking. 021102 ... Dafremen Ok, so blue star's definition(as stated) is about right on the money. Most of the rest of you confuse love with sexual passion. Of course, that's understandable, I mean when we first start to feel the changes in our bodies, what basis do we have upon which to compare these new feelings we are having? None. We know NOTHING like sexual passion when we are children and so we look for a basis for comparison. The love we feel for our parents and family is about as close as we can come to this COMPLETELY NEW feeling, so we call this new feeling LOVE. It isn't. Love comes with time only. Just look at the way a young child feels about a new baby born into the family. There is jealousy and even hate at first. This person is taking away all of mommy and daddy's attention. It is only with time and familiarity that love develops. It's really the only way. There is no love at first sight,but Gawd no, who would want a male female relationship without that sexual passion, that attraction and it's fire? However, when it's gone, when that first feeling goes away you haven't lost the LOVE, just the passion and chasing after another passion to replace it won't bring love either, only holding on tight over time can bring love. Living through the sacrifices, seeing a person at their WORST, with their farts and burps and bo0gers and hangovers and bad hair days and no makeup days, crappy clothes laundry day..THAT is how you find love. So many folks primp and preen and fix themselves up to put on their best face. Fine, we'd like to see the best too, but give us the WORST. Cmon, I gotta know if I love ya dammit! LEmme see it, and here, you see my worst too! Well? Still sticking around are ya? Me too. That ain't enough. Let's see if we can handle it for a year to be sure, then maybe I'll know and maybe you will to. LEt's wait til AFTER the initial passion starts to die down. Yea! I want LOVE dammit and I AIN'T SETTLING for less!! You get it lover girl(boy for you girls out there)? If after all of that, and a lot of TIME, you still feel compassion and trust and respect for that person..you may have found real love. 021103 ... amy discombobulated opium. 021112 ... loves inner jackass like running really fast and tripping over stuff, landing on my face but for some reason i can't help getting back up and doing it again. 021112 ... bethany i want do dream another delusion i want to drem its all in my head i want to dream imaginary love, simply 021112 ... bethany i want do dream another delusion i want to dream its all in my head i want to dream and simply imagine love 021112 ... Rhin love was driving 45 minutes in the wee hours of the morning to purchase a cherry slurpee, just because you asked for one. love was sleeping on the floor beneath you for an entire year, because you said the sofa was more comfortable for you. love was me fighting anyone who stood in your way. love was being entranced just by the mere sight of your face screwed up in concentration. love was me waking up every half hour in the night just to monitor your breathing. love was watching you work in the lab, without you knowing i was even there. love was finding you ultimately sexy in your labcoat, with glasses on your head, and pencil behind your ear. love was crying with you. love was enduring month-long Pink Floyd binges. love was us keeping it real, and staying utterly optimistic even when everyone else forgot that you were a human being. love was lying beside you on the roof of a building in the freezing cold for hours just for the mere possiblitiy of seeing one great meteor. love was me reading to you, so that you could hear the story too while you were fishing. love was listening to your hour-long lectures on astronomy. love was praying and wishing that i could take your place in death, just so that your son could keep his father. love was enjoying your company more than anyone else's. love was those fantastic silences that spoke more than a million words ever could have. love was chasing a sunset with me, and watching you hold your breath in anticipation like a child on christmas morning while i struggled to name it. love was you going to the store in the middle of a busy afternoon, just to buy me tampons. regardless of how much hated doing that, you did so without grimacing. love was you loving me the most in jeans, t-shirt, barefoot and no make-up. "keeping it real baby' is what you always said. love was enjoying you and your friends watching Sunday afternoon football games on tv, while i willingly slaved in the kitchen making massive platters of hot wings. (i remember the football cookies baby..."laces out!") ::sniff:: love was all of the sympathy pains i felt right along with you during your fight. love was buying cards and gifts years in advance for your son, and having you sign them so that he would have a little something of you year after year, long after you were gone. love was honoring and respecting the man that you were. love was supporting me in everything i chose to do, no matter how idiotic it seemed at the time. love was being your best friend. even if you had stopped loving me, your happiness would have been enough. love was our foundation, and everything else was a moot point next to it. the fact that we cared about and respected each other so much is why we never fought, and why we use to stage dramatic fights, just so that everyone would think that we were normal. love was choosing to fight the battles we could win, and in the end even those that we could not. love was not walking one step in front of each other, but one step beside each other. love was your extreme patience with me. loving was picking up the phone and feeling a smile spread across my face, from just hearing your voice on the other end. love was not enough to keep you alive, but it was enough for you to die in peace. love was not you thanking me for taking such good care of you, not leaving you when you said anyone else would have, and for not having one doubt about marrying you when you only had 1 year left of life, but because there was no other place i would rather have been and that i would do it all over again, for even just one minute with you. love is trying not to compare every man i meet to you. love is something i have been blessed with feeling. love is taking good care of your son, as if he were my own. love is an indescribable feeling to me. you just know it when it's there. everything just clicks. love is a million little things wrapped up into one. love is a touch and a feeling all at the same time. love is still missing you so fucking much. but, ::shrugs:: what do i know about love? 021112 ... kss I have to swing down to the pawn shop and get love back. hopefully they still have it, it's probably a bit dusty by now. 021112 ... birdmad kind of like air travel... turbulent, but i always do my best to keep my seatbelt on 021112 ... . . 040128 ... souless wanderer nonexistant. 040128 ... x hurty 040128 ... pd in tears Rhin...i salute you. 040129 ... smurfus rex love is like a rollercoaster. it has its highs and lows, its pleasures and pains, its joys and regrets. but more than these, it is feeling so strongly and wishing so earnestly that she should find happiness, that you can let her go with a smile on your face and hope in your heart that she does find happiness, even if it's not in your arms. "...And neither be cynical about love, for it is as perennial as the grass." 040129 ... smurfus rex [paraphrased] 040129 ... almostgone a mutable knowing dappled daylight washes her legs cross near the street circle spinning couples ride round as a table cloth the waiter pours water and ice clanking against glass the squeezed lemon juices and water mixes she reaches touches my skin a door opens reveals a plate of steaming tortillas, the Cuban waiter thinks our kitchen expatriates - the tortillas - will not satisfy his hunger for more 040325 ... birdmad like chasing_mirages 040325 ... sahba aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 040325 ... sahba aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 040325 ... sahba talk to her you idiot 040325 ... Death of a Rose what love? 040325 ... pete those tingles that run between the ribs, slowly moving up my spine like cool fingers, until they reach my mind and mark me dizzy and lightheaded, all the while smiling 040325 ... grendel okay, maybe less like chasing_mirages than like that old roadrunner cartoon where there is a painting of a tunnel on the cliffside which the roadruner somehow moves through as if it were truly a tunnel and wile_e_coyote (super genius!) runs smack into the painted rock 040325 ... ItGirl Love means... that when you need me, if you ask I will come. It means if you call me at 5 in the morning I will not hang up on you or kill you later, but I will listen to you and tell you it will be ok. It means that if you tell me to fuck off I will. If you screw up I will not judge you... I will try to understand and failing that I will forgive and forget. If you need money or a place to sleep or a ride or my time... it's yours. It means that If I see you everyday I will not get tired of you... If I don't see your for the rest of my life... I will not forget you... It means that I will give you what you ask for... now and for the rest of your life... if I am able. It means that I will think about you at least once a day. It means I love you. Not because I have to, or because you are perfect, or because you deserve it, but because your soul is beautiful. 040325 ... x right now it's like wanting to scream until i get everything inside outside 040326 ... kami Love is fucking fucked up. God, I fucking love it. 040327 ... reue 1)Like you just woke up from dream and everything is still a little hazy. Being in love is like that feeling of falling off the couch when you were asleep. Its scary and I feel like I should hold onto it tightly or I might lose it. I feel vunerable about myself, very self-conscience... because at that point it matters where it normally doesn't :D The feeling of being held by the most secure thing I've ever imagined. I just want to gather it up and be happy to die and wither away before its gone. 2)My queen, my goddess. Anything for her. I'm content to just look at her for hours. To look at her features and skin. Like I will to do anything in my power to make her happy. 3&4)I'm more quite, like nothing else happening in my life matters anymore. [hate that part... means that i have nothing to say =\ ] I give lots of 1/2 smirks when i look at her. [those 1/2 smirks mean more to me than full smiles, kinda like a sign of appreciation and contentment] i'm not as stressed or worried about things. i can think more clearly about the world. i'm not as moody, as i am always cheerful and sociable. I care about my appearance and not so much about what others think but what she thinks. i'm healthier... mind and body. The emotions i feel a so much more powerful. So powerful that I can cry. Its like i can feel the colors in everything. "My heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst ..." like blue star has said... love lacks reason 040327 ... oldephebe "really don't feel like dragging my soul over those shards tonight..." 040327 ... blown cherry reue - :) It's nice to know I'm not alone, and all I have to do is look in the mirror at your feelings in order to know it 040328 ... sahba constant reminder of how much i do love her and cant do anything about it and at some point she might read this and know its me and hope she doesnt forget me because i got to know her as a friend and will always want to be one 040826 ... megan love is like sitting on a beach in the warm water having just walked through tons of shit and made it to the nice soft sand it's entertwined toes it's stolen glances it's having seagulls surrdounding you, watching you, trying to understand it's someone scolding me for breaking shells, putting up with my prying questions, and enjoying just being with me it's you 050712 ... LS Walking arm-in-arm on a sunny day down a sidewalk. 050712 ... pete its finally sinking in, in a couple of day's i'll be flying half way across the country to see you... i'm so excited i hope i can sleep tomorrow night!! 050712 ... anne-girl when i first fall say it's a crush, love, whatever but i feel gloriosly tingly and nervous happy, and anytime i see him, and i spend my nights daydreaming and my days dreaming, and i cannot sleep for the thought of him then i realise that he does not love me and i am in pain and blather about it, then i get over it and stop crying i like the falling part the best, though... it's where i am right now even though i know i'm deluding myself 050714 ... anne-girl it feels the same every time 050714 ... Syrope no matter how terrible it makes me feel i just can't give it up 050715 ... nom what's what what what what 060713 ... birdmad like most other drugs nowadays, i don't bother messing with it 060714 ... pSyche like a small and angry dog who doesn't want you around no matter how much you want it, or how much you care for it and despite it is you gave up for it- it bites. 060714 ... LS A paraphrase from the movie "Casanova" with Heath Ledger... "Love is beautiful weather everyday, nomatter what the weather may be." That about does it for me. 060714 ... camille love should be a letting go of self, for another... what is love like for me? a knawing in my stomache, because the love I released was never returned. there's nothing more empty than telling someone you love them and the reply is, "ok." I have never experienced romance, nor have I experienced true love from anyone. The quote "I Love You" is a quote everyone desires to hear. For some it's a one way ticket to get to where you want to go, but your stay is not longer than a bathroom visit. Love is a myth for me. Experiences of this so called "Love" has always evolved into someone elses need, or want, which never included me. My curb was marked the day I was born. The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” Jalal ad-Din Rumi 060715 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f it is completly irrational completly mad and insane like a drug i'm not sure if it is good or bad for you most of all it is confusing and some how i think i'd do better off without it but i have no control over it you just can't beat it and if you try, well good luck to you. 060716 ... f *really sorry - that was my computer playing tricks on me didn't mean to send that 100 times and the poor spelling was the computer too* 060716 ... f *really sorry - that was my computer playing tricks on me didn't mean to send that 100 times and the poor spelling was the computer too* 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f see it did it again! 060716 ... f i know i know what love is but i can't find anyone that knows in the same way. i've just dumped a fucking cheating bastard 061025 what's it to you? who go blather from