soulmate Jason three days seems like an eternity when you're waiting to get your happiness back. 990205 ... emily When I'm a real old lady wrapped warmly in blankets and I look at my mate and see the same love and fire that I saw there when we were young and niave... Then, I'll know who my soulmate is 990205 ... Nikki Free three days? try three years. 000723 ... splinken "people need me. I fill them. if they can't see me for a while they get desperate, they get sick." from "Chopin Bukowski" by Charles Bukowski 000918 ... silentbob i think people have many soulmates. These are there friends, relatives, and people they can fall in love with. There is also the antithesis of soulmates. I don't know what they are called. maybe they are just your enemies. but they are people that you cannot surround yourself with and cannot get along with. soulmates you can, they make your life better. and sometimes there comes a time when you must move on, and let relationships die. neither mate is pulling their own weight and you just have to go. 001009 ... me you 010525 ... Pythagorus Did you know wolves mate for life? Eagles too. A soulmate is the one person completely compliments your personality and being. Where you are out, they are in. Like lego blocks, you fit perfectly together... Everyone has one exact match. Some people are destined not to be with their soulmate, even though they have one. I think everyone has the opportunity though. Have you ever seen two atoms attract to eachother to form a molecule? It's very romantic. Triple covalency = soulmates ... figure that one out! 010905 ... Dafremen Too many people out there are looking for someone that thinks like they do and understands them perfectly. Why? Don't you already have someone like that in EVERY relationship you're in? (YOU.) When opposites attract, the ride can be a ROUGH one, that's for sure...but ultimately, if you can ride out the first years, and both of you can learn to rely on each others strengths to cover your weaknesses, there is nothing closer to the definition of soulmate than this. I have found that, I believe. I'm the kinda guy who takes family and marriage VERY seriously. That kinda happens when you have no family of your own growing up. The wife's situation was very similar yet very different: She has 6 sisters and 7 brothers and she was the youngest of all. As you can imagine, after raising 13 kids, her mother was tired of babysitting, so she would send her to her brothers' and sisters' houses, who in turn would pawn her off on friends, it was all very sad and lonely for her. We both wanted a family very much and we both wanted to avoid treating our children the way we had been treated. I think we've done pretty well. I know I could never have mellowed out as much as I have without her conservative nature keeping me in check. (Shoulda seen her laugh in my face when I put a lit cigarette out on my hand. SHE was training ME?!) She did too. I helped her to become more confident and independent, to see herself as useful instead of useless as she was raised to believe. I love mornings, she loves evenings. I like loud music, she can't stand it unless she's had a few brandy and cokes first(which isn't often enough.) I like thrills, she had a heart attack going through the Ages 2 and up Funhouse with a 1 year old crawling ahead of her. She's the hardest working person that I know, I'm the laziest man on the planet(and nope, still no endorsement deals yet.) She gives VERY sincerely and honestly, so do I, and we both love to be pampered so that works out well. She mothers me, I've needed one for years. I baby her and put her needs ahead of EVERYONE's, which SHE's needed for years. She a perfect mother to our children, ever the push over, always there..not the Betty Crocker kind of there...the real, from-the-heart kind of there. I on the other hand am dysfunctional in a benign way that I refuse to pass off to my kids. I'm strict, but fair and I always follow through and rarely cut deals(unless I REALLY need a good backrub) with consequences. I don't have a lot of time for anyone, but I make time for everyone and I let everyone know how much I love them with a little one on one time every day and a little all together time every night. I love her dearly and I suppose I have enough faith in what we have to finally be able to say that I believe that she loves me too and we've both needed that for a very long time. Yes, she's my soulmate alright, and it wasn't because we CLICKED off the bat either. We FOUGHT, some of the WORST most PUBLIC spectacles you could IMAGINE. We did some of the craziest THINGS you could imagine. There were several "power struggles" throughout the years, and we finally reached JUST the right place....equilibrium. Soulmates are like diamonds, you don't just pick em up all shiny and pretty, you find em rough and you work hard to polish em, and they work at polishing you too. If a facet just cant be cut,cuz your soulmate doesn't have that facet in them, you have to be willing to change your original design. Not EVERYONE is soulmate material either, don't spend too much time polishing rocks. They may end up LOOKING pretty, but in the end, they're still just rocks. 010905 ... Unified Voice So you and your wife compliment each other well it seems. I have noticed that people are paired up by (divinity) in order to "polish" each other the way you have described. It's true, it's not always a love_at_first_sight situation. Sometimes soulmates are enemies first. It all depends on what you both need. Two people joining together to become one is either a highly advanced topic that no one really understands it, or it's a very simple topic that humanity has lost touch with over the ages of questing for wealth. It all pans out in the end though. You look back on your life and say, "oooohhhh! So that's why that happened the way it did..." 010905 ... Dafremen And THAT's really just for the sake of the moment's entertainment...not that it could make one iota of the past or the present better or worse. Yes indeed. I think we do agree and I won't even stop at the word "divinity" because I don't believe that it's pertinent to your point which is a pretty damned good one. Too many people expect understanding and trust to be the "foundation" of the relationship, but at the same time,they expect it to be there from the start. Foundations don't materialize people...you have to form them and give them time to set and let everything settle first...then you get yer understanding and your trust. Always though, there is give and there is take. It's all delightfully entertaining and I'm so glad to be alive and sentient. I would like to thank everything for that opportunity and reiterate that I AM truly grateful for even the worst of times. I imagine the missus might do the same...I'll let her speak for herself. 010905 ... dionysos we would be perfect for each other if only we were different people 020306 ... werewolf does that go beyond sexual attraction, what does this soul imply, could i have a soulmate without a soul? yeah...i think maybe...different words for the same thing. Fact is, if you can find the adventure and the salve in the same place, there's no need to ever leave, just change the settings and let yourself go. Not easy though...never is. "I had sought to love you in the high old way of love, and yet we've become as weary hearted as that hollow moon" 020306 ... erinicolejax I know that if I cannot love you in this life I will love you in another. You are me and I you. We will find each other in a quiet moment of happiness someday that will last a lifetime. 020602 ... bethany manz is my soulmate, almost to the point of making me think i loved her in a different way, but then i realised, no. i just missed her and wanted to tell her, so i did without touching her. now we can still be soulmates what kills me are the souls i know are not my soulmates but the pangs of love are just as strong. perhaps if i ignore him for another 6 months. or maybe he is but just not yet, not yet. 020602 ... blown cherry I always thought he had that title reserved for someone else, someone for whom fond memories will always remain, but he used it in reference to me, and it made me so happy I wanted to cry and just hug him forever. 020602 ... Rower1 I have a soul mate. I'm female, and so is she. To me that seems perfectly ok. And i guess it is. Im not gay. but i cant imagine spending my time with anyone else but her. I mean yeah fair enough we all have various relationships in life, but really i dont want to get married and have a family. I cant imagine sharing my life with anyone but her. I want to live my life with her. Just me and my soul mate. Next year i start my first year of boarding school. I only come home every few weekends. I hate being away from her and dont know if i can do this because of the fear of loosing her. Ater boarding school i have university, and then work, maybe new home, new town. Is there anway we can be together forever? I want her in my life by my side everyday, but is this possible. She is away form me at the moment for 2 weeks....the pain is too much already after 4 days. What can i do? My life is too much like tooth paste and orange juice at the moment and i dont like it. Help me. Please. Maybe i'm just week on doubting our friendship. Im adopted, ive lost my mother and father, and brother already, i have new parents and thats great but i want more...i want my soul mate forever. I dont want to lose the best thing in my life. I need my soul mate like a fish needs water. What can i do? 020804 ... Freak He describes me as the female version of him. Then he decribes himself as the male version of me. 020804 ... Rower1 Two hearts, one soul. Shes my only hope that there is good in this shitty world. Hold on to your soul mates people....there the only ones who know you, who you can trust, and above all they love you the same way you love them. I have one and i always will. 020804 ... Lemuel and tell me, Oh Aristophanes, how you know that you were from this person rent long ago in timeaway, being prescient in reverse as you must be...or was it something you ate? 020804 ... megan you are my soulmate forever and ever. no one can ever change that or take that away from me. i love you with the love of Jesus, simple and true, and forgiving. what else is heaven made of? 021118 ... *silent screams My soul still searches the depths of the ocean of life for yours. Seems like u got lost in forever so long ago - still i search, and forever will until we entangle, flesh on flesh, raw soul on raw soul. Your the never ending search that i will never turn my back on, your the truth that destroys my lie. The answer to all the confusion of my questions, and the only sun in my sky. Forever and ever. i'll never be complete, until i'm complete with u 021206 ... The Devil Himself does not exist. 021206 ... Josh Maybe we should open our eyes and see what is actually there, and maybe our search will be ended. Sometimes we cannot see whats in front of us, or we chose not to because were afraid of the pain it may bring not thinking of happiness. We should take chances and live our life like theres not tomorrow but we don't. We get on the computer phone play games. what if we died? What are your regrets? I know mine....I've suffered with it for a long time but I can't help it, I wait for the suffering to end its her decision not mine. I guess this goes out to all you, life your