bisexual alex311swim those who take advantge of what life has to offer and those who love to have fun! 010203 ... j_blue hm 010204 ... tazfab i think my boyfriend might be bi-sexual. he came out as gay in high school when he tought he wasn't going to be invited by his friends to hang out with them, because he was straight and they were gay. he now has a 3 year subsciption for play boy (he's had it, he renewed it for another 3 years). hm..and he can masturbate to straight porn... 010208 ... G_wiz13 any guy can masturbate to strait porn, and i dont concider playboy porn all it shows is tits. I think he prolly is gay if he orders playboy cuz playboy just sucks. 010214 ... the spork thats a silly argument considering that most of the harder porn mags have ads in them for gay and bi curious phone sex just an observation from the cutlery drawer 010214 ... spork-o-rama to say nothing of the ones for TVs and she-males 010214 ... j_blue i dont think anybody is anything, i mean we should all just go with who works (for ourselves) its funny how often people approach bisexuality from the hetero side though. 010214 ... glassprincess Let's just put it this way...I don't discriminate on the basis of gender. I like beauty. I like personality. It doesn't matter if the person is male or female. 010308 ... unhinged that seems about right 010314 ... jem i tend to wonder if im bisexual... i havent had much experience in either aspects of it so i guess i cant really label myself either way. but that could change 010314 ... lost I guess i dont have anything wrong with being bi. I just am not attracted at all in any way to any other guy. Thus i am strait. 010315 ... unhinged after the past couple days i have come to a confirmation. there is no doubt in my mind i love her. so i'm assuming that makes me bisexual. i think the whole problem i have with this label is the 'sex' part because to me all it has to do with is intense love beyond that of friendship. most days i can leave sex on the windowsill and come home to a dry, small mass of practically nothing. which is the way i like it. 010423 ... Persephone Beauty, sexuality, it's all fluid to me and rains down. It doesn't matter whose arms I'm in. I just want to be held. I have no limits. No boundaries. It's a free-for-all. 010506 ... keeper a good friend of mine once told me he wouldnt be surprised if i came out one day and told everyone i was bi. i wonder where he got that idea? maybe he was just hoping for a 3 some 010506 ... dovenightmare Easier than saying you just want to get fucked by a man. They say all the bisexual men end up with men, and so do all the bisexual women. The people get offended. But there's truth in there. . 010513 ... nemo i'm scared to say that i am 010614 ... Hil bisexuality feels so natural i wonder why everyons isn't bi. But then there are some who say everyone is. I don't agree with that. 010714 ... Casey I have never met one that I know of, but I believe that no one should be judged just because of their sexual prefrence. 010714 ... freakizh i agree on the thought that we fell in love with the personality, not the beauty nor the gender. a friend and i find out, that in this country where i live (that happens to be called mexico) there are several factors in a certain type of 'race' or 'group of people' that are common. let's generalize. you're part of us if you are three or more of these: a) you love radiohead b) you're bisexual c) you love art/music/literature d) you love to write *short* stories e) you laugh at the world trade center incidence (no offense for the americans) f) you cannot choose between studying art or mathemathics i'll try to rewrite it later. *anyone applies?* 020311 ... Becky why would you laugh at the world trade center incident. 020512 ... silentbob because it didn't happen to them. he meant no offense to us, but if you were someone else and weren't bombarded by media coverage and you lived in a country that views the US as somewhat stuck on itself and thinks very highly of itself and then just blatently got our asses kicked despite all our vanity, but didn't have to go through all the news that we went through, and you just heard of it secondhand, you probably wouldn't be overly sensitive about it either. of course i could be wrong. maybe freakish isn't even from a different country, and maybe you would feel bad and not laugh because maybe thats just who you are. and thats ok. but you cant expect everyone to feel the same way a lot of other people do. no offense to you. maybe thats just the kind of person freakish is, the kind that laughs when people die. i'm not taking sides at all, well, since it isn't even really an argument. and it shouldnt be. im just pretty much thinking to myself. 020512 ... misstree makes a lot of sense, silentbob. i had a twinge of laughter for those same reasons, but between the deaths of the firefighters and the orwellian firing up of the war machine, it just gives me a slimy chill now. and, on the subject of bisexuality, living colour once did a song called "everybody loves you when you're bi", and woody allen said it doubled your chances of getting a date on a saturday night. not exactly true. from a female perspective, boys look at it as "ooh, i wanna watch," or "cool, a three-way," straight girls either think it's a little weird and a little uncomfortable *or* want you as their first (i refuse to be someone's experimental plaything anymore--i've slept with more straight women than my boyfriend), and people who are more heavily homosexual see you as either a trendy poser or indecisive. and hell, sometimes i wonder if i'm just fooling myself and i really lean more one way or the other. 020512 ... stork daddy i'm pansexual...that means i like bread right? right? 020512 ... kerry hahahaha 020512 ... unhinged many people keep telling me that i'm a lesbian. that i should just give up the pretense of being bisexual. and most of the time it just pisses me off especially when the approach is "oh come on nicole. you are so gay. you just need to admit it." i know i have been in love with men. i know i have been in love with women. i look at her and i look at him and the same feeling takes over. i want to shelter their broken eyes. its hard enough for me to have to deal with the fact that i feel the same way about him and her without you telling me what i am. i think i know what i am. you can think what you want about me but don't tell me anything about how i am. 020512 ... reitoei more like youre lusting for the devil..pan- the pagan satyr with the pipes? remember? 020512 ... freakizh go, bobby. sorry if i injured anyone along my humor road. 020512 ... phi/ pan is the devil??? HOLY SHIT! 020512 ... "Ancient Pagan" Pan is not the devil and has nothing to do with devil. Christian misinformation and propoganda falsely and baselessly associated Pan with the devil during their bloody and totalitarian invasion of Ancient Roman political power. Whoever considers Pan anything like the devil in content of character and beingness is utterly mistaken. The devil image was modelled on Pan as a tool for falsifying non-Abrahamic beliefs with misinformation. Also (and I'm not claiming that anyone at blather has done this) don't victimize "lesbians" "bisexuals" and even "heterosexuals" with labelisms. Beauty and love are everywhere and it is natural, normal, clean and blessed for so-called "heterosexuals" to have so-called "homosexual" urgings. This is merely sensuality and love at work! People have falsified sexuality by equating it with a lifestyle (thus, via our creationary power, and society's limitations it has become--with some--a "lifestyle"). THESE SO-CALLED "NON-HETEROSEXUALS" ARE NORMAL PEOPLE: DON'T VICTIMIZE THEM WITH STEREOTYPICAL LABELISMS!!! We are all human and must not dehumanize one another! Well, let me end this with blessings to all at Blather & Beyond! God(s) be with you! Pax Dei Tecum! 020513 ... stork daddy oh yeah i get it now...like if we break down the latin of the word panorama it means to be rammed by pan right? 020513 ... Arwyn lol yes stork daddy, that's exactly what it means. 020528 ... old satyr yeah, kiddies...speaking of which who's up for a little pan-o-rama 020528 ... Freak I just want a nice girl to keep me company. Just a phase?!.......maybe...I guess we'll just have to wait and see. 031020 ... unhinged when he couldn't get me off i was a lesbian but after we had sex for two and a half hours all of a sudden i was bisexual.... yeah, right. fuck_off 031021 ... endless desire his mom found out. she walked in on him while he was kissing some boy. and then she kicked him out of the house. the police took him back and said that he had to stay there until he found somewhere else to go. but now poor sean just cries all day because he doesn't have a lot of hope. he might get sent away to military school or something. i don't think he'd do well in military school. he always told me his mom was homophobic. . .that'd he tell her when he graduated and was ready to move out. . .that she would disown him. . .i just never believed him. and now i just don't understand the pain he's in. 031021 ... Death of a Rose hell, if you know it deep down, be what you want. if you can find love with both sexes.....lucky bipedal homo erectus 031021 ... breygris AND PROUD!! well, not really.^ i dont really care. but it does make the locker room a lot of fun. ;D 031027 ... oldephebe in 9th grade there was this guy who was so flagrantly effeminate that he got razzed by girls and guys alike..and the teachers never really intervened..i felt really uncomfortable when he would wind up trying to convince me of his hetero-sexuality..personally i didn't really care..but it just felt odd that he had this need to try and convince me he was straight as i was not one of the many kids who mercilessly teased him..being active in the church as a youth i ran into a lot of so called "straight" guys who were just effeminate because they were "holy" these genderless eunuchs or really spiritual types..or so that's what some females liked to whisper in my ear..i gotta say i was pretty disturbed by the flagrant homo-sexuals who went around calling everyone in the choir "miss thing" and "she" wether they were male or not..they were talented but really..um there should be some kind of decorum..and then again i'd get the occasional accompianist who would earnestly assert that they were "straight" and they wished everyone would just stop making their sexuality the subject of debate and derision..and again i felt squemish discussing it..so i just kind of said non-specific things like.."um yeah" ..and "wow".."that's a shame"..and "then what did you say?"..personally i guess a person's sexual preference is thier business..but ah you don't need to flaunt it or throw it in peoples face..and ah yeah you keep it to yourself or don't try and force your preference or other people..being a musician and a singer and having this overtly emotional penchant for drama..or whatever..i've dealt with it people trying to figure out if i was bi or straight and just mildly effeminate or just really ..genderless artistic type..not often but it's come up in Jr. high, not really highschool..but in college and several dalliances i've had with bi-sexual and lesbian women..they'd say..'wow i didn't think you were into women..i thought you were a little gay when i first met you"..so weirdness prevails..i'm straight by the way..it used to really irk me especially when more than a few bi-sexual/or lipstick lesbians would arch their eye brow lasciviously once they figured out i was into them..and then i'd get this confession.."um i'm not normally into guys but there's something really sexy about you." what the hell did that mean? there was a period where i was like..man i'd like to be able to attract hetero-sexual women..what is this? a walk on the wierd? that weirdness ended as the whole androgenous thing ended in the early 90's..and ah i started wearing suits and yeah no more glam clubs..and me trying nicely to tell a guy who'd risked his rep and his outward hetero-sexuality to subtly entreat me..ME:"yo' man dude i'm straight so yeah..you got the wrong guy kay?"..the now embarrassed ostensibly hetero-mac machine, now somewhat irritated but still hoping to score and exploit what he thinks is just me being coy.."No dude it's okay..no one has to know we can just slip out silently..my apartment is just down the street..they don't have to ever know." ME:"Uh yeah look told you i'm straight so let's just leave it at that, come on man leave it alone.. we're cool and ah you know do your thing i won't say a word aight?" it used to crack me up how many so called studs were layin' pipe on the side and were angry/embarrassed at my rejection and now the percieved shift in the balance of power with respect to the whole hierarchy of ostensible manliness thing and their treasured illusion of immaculate manhood..i would just smirk subtly when i saw them..but i never betrayed anyone..i just found it all really amusing the whole percieved gender role thing..so yeah i'm probably a little homophobic but i've never been down with persecuting someone for their private sexual preferances..but still though you don't need to flaunt your sexuality hetero or bi or gay in someone's face... OF COURSE WHAT I REALLY MEAN THAT IT'S OKAY IF A BEAUTIFUL ARTISTIC WOMAN COMES ON TO ME..BUT DUDES OR LESBIANS SHOULD JUST TRY AND BE CIRCUMSPECT..SO COLOR ME A HYPOCRIT. hey let's all try to do our thing and not hurt anyone in the process..and like someone said..beauty is about personality and the shape of someone's soul or something about that..despite my erotic poetry i've always had a kind of puritannical patriarchal view of sex..perhaps steeped in my intense pubescent religiosity..fire and brimstone baptist inculcation.. some of my best relationships though have been platonic..sharing my being w/o the whole spectre of sex or commitment hanging over my head with an equally artistic/spiritual woman..still though.. they always wind up being quietly amazing, ..so who am i kidding? ... 031027 ... R3v0lut10n I ever imagine that people are so interested in one's sexuality nowadays. Shouldn't it be just people interested in people, not caring if one's male or female. THEY ARE JUST PEOPLE. There, i've said... 040213 ... Eowithien I used to wonder if I was. I still do sometimes, but I've decided that I'm just very welcoming. I'm welcoming towards either sex that approaches me. Though the only person that does is my best friend, and she knows that I'll never go out with it. 040302 ... Trickster721 I knew/know this boy who's "bisexual". He's always going out with some girl and flirting with boys all the time, and then when she dumps him he just looks for some other girl and does the same thing. Well, I only know that he did it once. But he wouldn't go out with me (me being a boy), so I get to say bad things about him. 040311 ... sameolme maybe,... if I had training wheels,but I think I'll stick with my trusty old trike for now. 040311 ... Bizzar i agree with many of the posts above that preferences when it comes to sexuality should not even have terms. there should be no 'gay' or 'lesbian' or even 'bi'. just go with what makes you happy. be with who makes you whole. love for the person that lies beneath the gender. whichever gender that may be. what importance does gender have anyway? only the purpose of reproduction. and that what makes male / female relationships the way of life. but when it is not your intetion to reproduce, then what does it matter who you love. what gender shells their soul? i wish there was no such thing. as the labels to go with loving a gender. thats not fair. because with labels. there are always outcasts. 040312 ... kookaburra i think its pretty great to be one. i mean, you have twice as many people that you can go out with! I dont think that i'd like going out with another bisexual though. you'd have to worry about him/her cheating with BOTH sexes. and what if a kid is bi? how could they have a sleepover? 040314 ... i wish i was me my report card said i got along well with others and by myself. 040314 ... so there so trapped 040319 ... one girl alone I've fallen in love with her. I don't exactly know how but somewhere in our friendship I realised I saw her differently. She is so so beautiful and I wish she didn't have a boyfriend. I fell in love with her person, not her looks. And I do believe that i can look beyond gender. after all, I sill like guys. 040319 ... unhinged there was this absolutely beatiful curly-haired girl on the airplane today and i stared at her the whole way home that my eyes were opened. and while i was staring at the leather laced up cuff on her right wrist cause that was pretty much all i could see of her from where i was sitting; that and her beautiful curly hair. and i realized that all the girls i've ever REALLY had a thing for had curly hair. and i entertained thoughts of following her through the airport or at least saying something to her that would...ah hell. i'm scared of girls now. and boys too. 040320 ... leather and lace i've got curly hair. would you like to fondle my ringlets? 040320 ... unhinged maybe...and gnaw on your collarbone for awhile 040321 ... freedom It's strange.. confusing.. neither here nor there.. open, yet closed.. freakishly unwanted.. open to attract or be attracted to either sex, open to find love, open to be loved..... 040321 ... ethereal the new trend. 040321 ... time_warp naw, it's been a trend for a very long time now... i would tend to believe that people have been mistaking openness to experimentation since at least the 60's... and firsthand experience tells me the mid-90's had the whole "bicurious" thang going on. 040322 ... unhinged fuck trendy curious people. not that there is anything wrong with being curious, but trendy....come on. and they looked at each other and they looked at me and their eyes said 'oh...she's BI' and then their eyes rolled a bit. as if to say, 'you poser lesbian pretend piece of shit. we don't want to have anything to do with bi girls. they could leave us for a BOY. ick.' she was right. bisexuality is a curse. i just can't win. 040322 ... misstree is feeling contrary again... run! i have no problem with people being curious. most people go through that phase, and most are more secure in whatever orientation they are afterwards. (for me there wasn't really a curiosity phase, it was realizing what the feelings i got when i looked at daddy's penthouses were, among other things, but that's another_story or five...) it just bothers me when curious people consider themselves bisexual because they'd like to try it sometime... that's a vacation, not an orientation, and that daytripper liquidity is what people have come to expect from bisexuals. the other expectation is promiscuity. i don't know precisely how i feel about this; from my personal experiences there seems to be some truth to it, but also consider that i tend to run with a pretty fuck_happy crowd in the first place and thus my sample is skewed, and i do indeed know a goodly number of bisexuals who are relatively reserved in their hunting patterns. and i've seen very little of a correspondence between bisexuality and cheating in monogamous relationships. love is love; though there may be deeper issues going on that influence both orientation and reaction to monogamy, i've seen just as many true-to-their-mates bisexuals as non-. /end rant. and any lesbionic princesses that want to look down on me because i love love love both cocks *and* cunts, are missing out on a great tongue-lashing. and to boys that want to watch me play with another girl, the answer is no unless they'll play with another boy for me. fair trade. now really /end rant. 040322 ... unhinged right on sister some of what i was trying to say and failing at it and some of what i wasn't trying to say but i totally agree with is not a slut just because she's bi 040322 ... nemo but we can still be friends, right? 040323 ... Mandida I am,.. Bisexual that is,.. 040330 ... Lemon_Soda The only time this frame of mind actually hits me is during orgies. Theres just something about jumping in as a third wheel that really gets me going...active participation, directing, or even my favorite witch is sitting back and drawing the course of the evening. When I see women I don't know, I think about them naked most times and what I'd like to do to them. When I see guys I don't know, I think about them naked most times and what I'd like to do with them. I'm hetero this minute, and gay the other. The moment we've talked, though, you become this caricature to be filed away as an experience at my convieniece(unless I actually feel the need to hang out with you from day one and then...well, your my experience prefference for awhile.)Make no mistake, there are a slim few who have eked their way above my wanton lust for anothers flesh and only these would I consider more important as company. Bisexuality is some bit of a myth to me. I think people who espouse it may or maynot firmly believe they deserve the title, but all of them share an inner feeling of longing at different times for either of the different sexes. When we have that perfect piece in front of us so mother fucking gorgeous that it doesn't matter that you can't tell whether its a him or her...THAT's when you KNOW your bi... 040331 ... ethereal Sometimes bisexuality or homosexuality becomes more about sex than anything. I think that sex is a great part of it. But a larger idea is companionship. When I look at a man I see someone that I could spend the rest of my life with, hold hands, talk, breathe, be a part of them. When I look at a woman I too see a companion, a life long friend, a one and only. I am not sure than I am much of a bisexual as more of a "there is only one sex". The only true difference shows up when you're having sex I suppose, and either way it's great! But in all honesty being bisexuality makes more sense than anything because it's denying the belief that men and women are different. I'd like to think that the whole world is open to me, and that when I find the one person I will spend forever with that it will be their mind that matters. There are a lot of factors that determine sexual orientation yes. Maybe what I'm getting at is, I have a spritual orientation, which is, nothing at all. Each has their own spirit, everyone is worth knowing on all levels. 040331 ... Lemon_Soda Androgeny is sexy as hell and I advocate it as much as possible, but I hope people don't believe that the differences in tradition and views of the sexes is a hindurance. Masculinity and femininity are, when individually projected, sexy as hell to. I don't think there should be one, the other, or everyone stuck in the middle. Keep it mixed up. Its nice to have guy friends(in abundance) that sex doesn't even touch as an issue. I can be more relaxed and freer with myself. I love lesbians and sisters for the same reason. 040331 ... unhinged oh i can tell whether it's a him or her, but if they are gorgeous, i don't give a fuck...or maybe too much of one. i haven't decided on that yet. i'm not one to get fixated on celebrities because they are manufactured to be gorgeous but i have had a thing for angelina forever and i am more recently sucked into the hottness that is johnny depp. so hot......and both good at what they do. which makes them absolutely fuckable. i smoke the same cigarettes as johnny. i wonder if based solely on that, he would fuck me if i gave him a cigarette. HA mother of god, making out in bars is just a fucking tease 040331 ... Kyle2 Being a bi guy is so hard, but I don't care... I love it... I love looking at men, or women, or men on men, or women on women... but i guess my whole life i never could make a decision, i couldn't even decide what i wanted for supper tonight.... MEH! 040525 ... thunderbuck ram I spent my life loving women and trannies. Women and trannies; I cant decide which I love more, but then I don't really need to make that choice. Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! 040820 ... shay ANYTHING THAT MOVES! 040826 ... . metasensuality 040826 ... hmmitsme i dont no i (am a girl btw) who fancies boys and, well but i duno, recently i have this thing for a mate, who is also a girl, but its that i fancy her, well id otn want a relationship id jus like 2 have some fun wiv her, jus mess around a bit wat do ppl fink on tat ?? does it make me weird, i no evry1 jus finks im confused but if i like guys n want relationships wiv lads, dz it reli matta if i have a lil fling wiv a gal jus for the fun ?! and also , does any1 reli need 2 no, i mean im not comin out as a bi who wants relaionships wiv eitha sex, jus want a bit of fun 050707 ... forsaken by a toaster you_are_what_you_want_to_be clerbloinkula! ahahaha!!!! 070709 ... jane you know, fuck that definition at the top of the page. being bisexual for me means i had to come out to my parents as such when i was 13. i do not make out with girls just to impress guys. i hate the girls that do, and call themselves bisexual. its not like we just reach down someone's pants and are happy with whatever we find. its about not putting limits on who we are going to love and fuck & coexist with. i fucking hate everyone today. is irritated. 070710 ... dear jane i did not know you were bi 070710 ... Isaou Makes for interesting love triangles 070711 ... jane why, ya wanna do it? 070711 ... see also: bisexuality 070716 ... petemb I love him for all of him but he's off with sex at the races I guess not the time O well She was a beauty no, not her.. 100920 ... Pippy toe rot is it sexual to hug someone? 100920 ... unhinged '...i tell her about how i had a girlfriend in high school. how after that, i messed around with girls and queers but have mostly been in relationships with me. this is not a lie; it is a fact. this is a fact at which people roll their eyes, because they feel entitled to let you know they think you are lying. to them, 'having a girlfriend in high school' is a statement that's been founded on a common lie. to them, you're a cliche. 'a girlfriend in high school?' they say. 'sounds like a phase.' maybe that's fair. the right to love and fuck whomever you want, without inhibition or oppression, has been hard-won over the years, which is why i don't like to identify as gay - it feels disrespectful. the truth is i'm only gay sometimes, so i prefer to be called bisexual. i'd rather code-switch between identities. i'd rather be gay or straight depending on who i'm dating, whether i'm in a queer relationship or not. this is not a popular preference. from the sixties' summer of love to polyamory and twenty-first-century queerness, there are those who fervently believe freedom of sexuality to be utopia. after all, it promises the best of all worlds. you don't have to choose. you get to try a little of everything, some people say, as though you're a greedy customer at some fucked_up buffet of differently hot people! but i don't believe that existing in this world can be some amorphous soup of sexuality, not with the structures that undergird our living. being a code-switching bisexual means i'm aware; i can parse out which privileges i'm afforded in which situations and when. because no matter what anyone says about queerness, you can't have it all. it gets too contradictory. the way the world operates means you can either function as one identity or the other, nothing in between. you can't demand your queer red alongside the lack of scrutiny that comes with your straight white boyfriend. you can't have the luxury of assuming your safety at a remote gas station alongside your nonbinary lover. you can't hold it all. and if people tell you that you can, they're lying.' - trisha low 191008 what's it to you? who go blather from