why_no_one_likes_me MollyCule Hollee says it's because I'm "too confident and it frightens people" I think maybe it's either or both of these two reasons - 1. I don't put up with shit from anyone. And I mean that absolutely. 2. I'm too honest. Tactful yes, but if I think you're acting like a fucking idiot about something, I will tell you that you're acting like a fucking idiot. Maybe people don't want to know so much when they are being fucking idiots. Can anyone explain this? Are there blatherers out and about who just can't stand me, and why? Because frankly, I like myself again after years of not, but it seems the world around me liked me better self - loathing . . . 010830 ... Aimee *acting dramatically* Because I'm a terrible horrible person.. because I have webbed toes and a low voice. Because I'm opinionated and refuse to conform. Because I'm a size 12-14 not a size 2-4. Because I won't fit into the mold that you want me to. And because I do the right thing, and I care about people I don't even know... that is why no one likes me... Actually I don't really care... I just thought I'd write that.. :) 010830 ... Aimee oh yeah and molly... I like you 010830 ... silentbob Because I don't drink. 010830 ... unhinged i haven't been able to figure out exactly why but she walked past me twice today while we were eating and didn't even say hello. we were supposed to be friends sometime ago in the distant past. but i can't say that i really care. i wasn't going to play her stupid games and say hello first because i really have nothing to say to her. 010830 ... nemo because... im shy and insecure? *haha...... ha... or something* 010830 ... TalviFatin No one likes me because I am me. Heaven forbid I be myself, gawd. I cant even begin to think about why people dislike me. There are too many reasons. Too many things. Too many possibilities. Sometimes I wonder why people act like they're my friends. I know they're just out to use me or dominate me. Maybe that's why people dont like me. Because I'm a dominatrix? But then there are people who hang on me as if I am their friend, and as if I'm supposed to like them back. What the fuck, ya know? I dont even know these people. But anyway, I'v just come to the general conclusion that I am thouroughly (sp.) disliked throughout mankind. Animals are a different story. 010830 ... l o s t 1. i say whats on my mind. I am not embarraced by anything so I will say or do whatever I feel like. 2. i seem to try and stay away from people even though i wont them to like me i dont really care, and i dont want to start caring about them and get hurt. 010830 ... Norm I'm and asshole when I want to be, sometimes people love me for that and it pisses me off. 010830 ... MollyCule I like you too Aimee. 010902 ... Casey My top five: 1. I can't be funny like bobby 2. I'm not good at remembering music 3. I suck at remembering movies 4. I'm annoying 5. I can't escape the past 010902 ... psychobabe you konw whyyyyy everyone hates me? i can give a few reasons, for one-all of my "friends" have all the sudden became mad at me for what reason? I HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE!?? i'm just here TRYING to make them feel better when all they do is bitch about life, people and other things!!!!!! I'm sorry if i try to help and say i'm sorry, oh yea, you wanna know WHY i say i'm sorry??????? i say i'm sorry cuz I AM! NOT cuz i feel sympathy for you, but cuz i dont like the way you feel! WHY CANT YOU SEE THIS! ITS REALLY NOT THAT HARD!!!!!!!!!!!! 010906 ... lovers lament you know molly, it's odd, but i starting liking myself recently and i'm getting the same response. if you're not wallowing in your own shit i think it makes people uncomfortable or jealous because they still are. does that make any sense? 011005 ... Aimee it makes amazing amounts of sense hon, good lord almighty. Once I started to love who I was/am people started getting mean and judgmental. It's incredibly unjust that those of us who have actually come to terms with who we are and have accepted ourselves have to deal with others who just can't get over themselves enough to be on this level. They're still inhibited by societies rules, and they're too scared to break the mold and be themselves. I know too many people like this... hence why I'm trying NOT to know them right now. I'm tired of their biting comments towards me. Like I should be ashamed of my hourglass figure or sense of humour. I can only pity and pray for these people, because one day, hopefully they'll understand where I'm coming from. 011005 ... . : * p s y b o r g * : . Because I'm weird in just about every way possible...and I'm not a prep who shops at Abercrombie & Fitch and thinks Britney Spears is just ever so talented. Because I'm the only girl I know who skateboards. Because nobody has heard of most of the music I like. Because by North Dakota standards, I wear weird clothes. And I laugh a lot for no apparent reason. And I need to be checked into the mental hospital. Thank you. *bows* 011023 ... Toxic_Kisses The last time I cared weather or not any one liked me waz in 5th grade, and yes I would actually ask "Why don’t you like me?" the usual response would be ether bc ur weird, strange, odd, or the one that really got me, I don’t know. Any how seeing az every ones Def. of what weird strange and so on iz diff I would than ask what they thought was strange or odd about me, than I’d run into the same wall of "I don't know" yet again. After that I've simply come to the conclusion that every one dislikes me until they say or prove other wise. Ether way though I've come to accept myself az I am, my faults and all, and hell if you don't like me well than that’s your prob now aint it? 011024 ... Dafremen I hadn't really thought about it and I'm not about to start now. The ride's in high gear and who KNOWS what's on the way? The f*ck if I'm gunna waste a moment pondering what it is that keeps all of the folx away from me...I'm just gunna be thankful that it's there, whatever it is, and get on with the enjoying and being a part of the show. 011024 ... Dafremen There's a mirror glued to my face and it's facing you. That's right...run. When you're ready to look, I'll be here to soothe you toward the truth and to calm your fears. 020623 ... Syrope oh come on now...its obvious! because i ruin everyones good times. what do i know about having fun? 020623 ... spoons because im shy and no one wants to take the time to get to know me... 020624 ... little fury bug i'm insecure...i loathe myself. i'm too sad and quiet...i've been told. i'm not clever or quick...i need time to think, and people just don't have the time to wait. i'm afraid of being liked...trust issues. i surround myself with beautiful people...i choose pretty friends, good, smart, funny friends...and of course they overshadow and belittle my presence. 020624 ... blue star because I'm a tumor. Because I whine and gripe and want attention and I want all these things like love and friendship but I hint aroudn it instead of saying it because I'm afraid of someone telling me that in effect, i'm not worth any of it. And so I bring about my worst fear because since I'm the only one I really talk to, I get told that kind of thing every day of my life. 020624 ... ilovepatsajak in memory of ren and jenny. someday, we will find our other halves. you're a stone fox! 020624 ... shadesofgrey i tend to analyze things too much. i can't seem to help it, it just happens. ah well. if they don't like that they can either ignore it or they can choose to dislike me because of it. their loss. im not gunna chance so that i will have more friends. 020624 ... kerry because i talk too much... because i ramble because sometimes i don't smile enough because i can come off as ditzy when really i just don't care enough to pay attention 020624 ... Dafremen Ok that's it! I've come up with the guest list for my next party. All of the regular invitees that showed up at the last party_at_dafs_house are inveted again.. along with: You! Syrope, because I hate fun parties. Let the misery begin! You! spoons, who cares who the f*ck you are?! The party could use a wallflower. You! little fury bug, shut your ugly mug up and get over to my party. I'm always looking for dim wits with low self esteem, gives me more room to run my big mouth without interruption. Plenty of fruit punch and all of the beautiful people will be busy trying to get kerry's ditzy ass to pay attention! You! blue star take a friggin hint already and get to the party! Plenty of love and attention, and even though you're probably not worth a damned bit of it, hell, every party needs a good whine-and-griper and there's only so much of me to go around. So get your malignant ass over there! You! ilovepatsajak, that was the most pathetic dedication I've ever read. Think you could do the toast at my party? Thanks. You! shadesofgrey..you've GOT to be kidding. I could use a good clone around the party to play co-host..the job is yours and I could care less whether you want it or not...YOUR loss if you don't. You! kerry, well let's face it...whether the ditzy is an act or not...just the appearance of a good bimbo around the place tends to liven up any fiesta! You're hired, wear skimpy attire so as to confuse the appropriate sex. Thank you. THe address is: party_at_dafs_house Starts now o' clock sharp. Dress is less than casual. 020624 ... focus because i'm honest. see, people don't like that... they'll say "be honest" then you're honest, and it's not what they wanted to hear. what the hell. and people don't like me cause i smoke or drink. but what do they know. and some people don't like me cause i haven't blathered in about a year now. as if anyone noticed... 020624 ... blue star I don't know. What did I do? What do I do that makes me so despicable?? I can guess all I want but i just can't fuckin figure it out. so somebody just fuckin tell me already. 020624 ... peyton no matter what happens no matter what's said I am the most_hated_blatherer 020701 ... phil I'm an asshole 020701 ... Tildan ahh daffy you're the coolest. What is is about you all that makes you think that people SHOULD like you? You all seem to have this underlying resentment that people don't think you're god's gift, as if the world was supposed to be created with you as its centre of charisma. The longer you feel sorry for yourself about this, the longer you will feel sorry for yourself about this. - brilliant pearls of wisdom for you all. Ok. So no-one likes you. If you're happy about the fact, then stop complaining; if you're not happy about it, then complaining isn't really helping here either. 020701 ... greatbigcuddle I am simply too forgiving of people 030503 ... antisocialbehaviour im too quiet 030503 ... anon because im better than everyone else and they no it. DONT YOU. ADMIT IT!!! 031028 ... tyger because i notice that the emperor has no clothes on. and because i can't lie about stuff the way other people do. i also have a terrible temper. and i won't apologize unless i was actually wrong. 031117 ... oldephebe sometimes the basis of affection and acceptance is based primarily on physical endowments and or ones percieved beauty/handsome along the aesthetic continuum. A few years back befor i jumped into a partnership full time, I worked for an unamed financial juggernaut. I wasn't exactly a social butterfly, or a recluse, but there was a clique of several very attractive women in my department who mostly regarded me as a piece of the scenery. Through a series of inept and facile mishaps wherein my motr skills completely abandoned me, i wound up destroying my thick professorial glasses. So i went to work for a few days s/o my glasses waiting for a new pair. The change in response to me was instantaneous. The women, even the few who were married suddenly began speaking to me in this sing song voice, smiling and staring intently into my eyes. I always found that a little uncomfortable and kinda shallow. The staring and smiling abated some but not completly when my new and more aesthetically pleasing glasses were done. I noticed this trend since junior high. I never exploited it. I prefer women who have great depth over retinal scarring beauty. I'd rather a woman dig me mostly for my personality and not my ah musical talent or percieved looks. But we're hardwired to physical attraction, that's the deal i guess. Aesthetic preferance over quirkiness and indiviuality and introspection. By the way the dudes in my office vying for the affections of these lovely women were visably annoyed at my brief ascendance. It's all gravy in the ground now..but self love yeah let that be the broker and you will draw people of depth out of that space. ... 031118 ... misstree i must admit, i do have a slight leaning towards talking to pretty people, but it's a confidence issue, people who are either awed or cowed by my rantings just aren't interesting to interact with, and confidence is often tied to appearance. 'course, there's also the pretty people/uppity prigs at the goth clubs who are too gaf to hold a decent conversation with someone wearing colors other than black, or who was just a bit ago seen talking to a... *shudder*... gamer... but i lick them, confuse them, and playfully harass them in passing, and it's all good. it's hard to be too uppity when somone just coated half your face with tongue slime. in formalized setting (like work), people don't like me because i'm not sure how to pretend i'm not a different species. they can smell it just like i can, and it confuses them, makes them skittish and sometimes angry. 031118 ... no-one because i dont like them. 031118 ... Death of a Rose because i'm not assertive enough (although you wouldn't be able to tell when i'm at work, instinct kicking in maybe), not handsome enough to attract people, not smart enough to give my addictions up, plus i'm dying by degrees. 031118 ... u24 i thought everyone_loves_doar 040125 ... whitechocolatewalrus oh but everyone does love doar. most of my friends are not so pretty. i am pretty enough/not pretty enough to be the aquantaince of almost anykind of person. most of my good friends are loserish. despite this popular people like me. most people do like me. i just don't understand why. i am not that nice of a person. maybe everyone should just become less nice. but then again, i am nice most of the time. oh geez, i confuse myself. maybe no one likes me and i am just being ignorant. 040125 ... pathetic because i'm fake needy desperate whiny bland obsessed with myself 040126 ... bandersnatch because i like things (music/movies/games/whatever) that no one else has even heard of. because i overanalyse(sp?) what ever people say or do because i tend to cling to ppl because i snap when im the least bit frusturated or exited because i am odd and because i love myself for it. 040126 ... mj people do not like, they hate. people do not build, they destroy. 040209 what's it to you? who go blather from