okcupid ClairE Any luck? 100620 ... does it ease the pain? hmmm, the only luck I had was to discover that my ex had an active profile for 4 years b4 we broke up. This is the point where I metaphorically hung up the phone on our friendship, I was finally tired of retrospective excuses. 100620 ... ClairE brok012669 [An image of brok012669] 41/M/Straight 55% match / 39% enemy [2:05:44 pm]brok012669:Hi how are. You like ur. Profile [2:10:26 pm]brok012669:Ur pretty [3:21:17 pm]brok012669:hi how are you 100622 ... minnesota_chris okcupid, the perfect place to find out exactly how unattractive you are. Dan Savage says that if people will rule you out because of your age, it's fine to lie about it. I might stop saying I'm forty. 100624 ... xedla I disagree with Savage on that one. Anyone who would be okay with that and date you anyway once you told them your real age is probably a liar too. I've had some success with okcupid. None of the relationships lasted, but it wasn't cause they were bastards or anything. 100624 ... minnesota_chris I'd probably be ok dating a liar, provided they loved me and were sexy. 100625 ... ClairE Update: jackpot! 110105 ... so i've been on this site for awhile. i hardly ever meet people i really connect with, but when i do, it's with people who are warm, nice, smart, funny, and interesting. so of course it makes sense that everyone else is after them too, so they date lots of people and eventually end up choosing someone else. most recently, i went out with one of these rare folks, and they deleted their account right after our date, with no other way to contact me. that's a new one, i must admit. 130205 ... also re: the age discussion above, it bugs me when guys will go much younger than them, but won't go even a bit older. like the 32-year-old guy who wants a girl who's 18-30. come on. 130205 ... baby satan i always wondered what would happened if i joined one of these things. "hi. i'm a baby demon. i'm much older than i look in my pictures, but i couldn't tell you my exact age. i stopped keeping track decades ago. i live in hell, so i like warm climates. i enjoy long walks on volcanic ash, cooking things no human being would ever want to look at (let alone eat), and occasionally shooting pool with my friends god and satan_satan_satan. i would rather spend a romantic evening in than a loud, drunken evening out. i don't drink. i don't smoke, except for when i'm really angry. i don't like noisy, busy places. all those stories you hear about there being a lot of moaning and writhing in hell are just scare tactics. it's really pretty laid back here, and we've got some of the best local produce and organic coffee you'll find anywhere. i guess i'm looking for someone who doesn't mind sharing a hellish existence, and someone who is honest, kind, good-hearted, has a twisted sense of humour, and can appreciate the value of tiny_apes. it doesn't matter how old you are, because i'm never going to die. i'm already daed. that's not a typo. i really am daed. it's a stumbling block for some people. also, if you can stomach my cooking, that's a big plus. so if a glass of relaxing goat_soda sounds like something that would appeal to you, send me a message and let's talk." 130205 ... baby satan good god. i can't type anymore. i can't even get my tenses straight. no one would ever want to date me. 130205 ... silentbob The Venn_Diagram of people who message first and people you wouldn't even consider is a circle. 140113 ... unhinged about a year ago, he told me i should join. i manage to attract enough creeps without adding online dating to the mix. the online world seems too much like high school, too shallow, for me to possibly find what i am looking for. 140113 ... nr people have met good people from it (myself included). what seems to work best is not to have any expectations, and just treat it like another way to meet people. the good thing about online vs. "real life" is that it's easy to filter out who you don't want to talk to. 140113 ... silentbob i think i much prefer having giant crushes on someone and then having them reciprocate, but that never ever happens. okcupid is good for when you need to find people outside of that. i'm also running thin on crushes anymore. 140114 ... unhinged good people for what? outside of what? i guess i am too impatient, too full of expectations including being treated like a human being, not just a profile picture or online commodity, for online dating to seem viable. 140114 ... silentbob Good for finding people to arrange dates with, but not crushes. 140115 ... silentbob Good for finding people to arrange dates with, but not crushes. 140115 ... unhinged maybe im too simplistic when it comes to this, but whats the point of going on a date with someone if i dont have a crush on them? it goes back to meaning and concept i guess. hanging out is not dating. physical relationships beyond hugs are not hanging out. getting to know someone is not sleeping with them. spending a few hours with someone isnt getting to know them. im tired of feeling inferior or stupid for getting emotionally involved with people i date. i dont think the wonderful world of online/profile dating is going to fix that. 140115 ... epitome of incomprehensibility I know next to nothing about okcupid, but the culture that surrounds speed dating in general can be pretty strange. So. There's this website called Meetup, where people can organize groups for various things in different places: singles groups, knitters, movie watchers, you name it. I go to a couple (beginner programming, French conversation). Anyway, in August a bunch of different Montreal groups decided to meet up for a barbeque at La Fontaine Park (the difficulty of finding people at such a large park is told at la_fontaine_park on red). I was having an interesting conversation, meaning I was mostly listening, with a woman who was talking about a local tour she took about Italians in Montreal in the past century. For instance, they designed a lot of buildings, and there was a mural or facade that featured Mussolini, which didn't sit well when WW2 started. And she went on to talk about ordinary Italian-Canadians being arrested or sent to internment camps, like the Japanese were, though not to so large an extent. I was listening to this when a man about her age came up and started steering the conversation away. He ignored me and the other people to say things to her like, "I get the impression that American women are more adventurous" (she was from the States) and it all sounded like dating-game talk. I mean, it did really sound like he was playing a game. If he looked like he evinced genuine interest in her, or at least lust, I wouldn't have minded at him redirecting the conversation, but he looked like he was ticking off talking points on a scorecard in his mind. In revenge, I started flirting with the good-looking Taiwanese student sitting on my left, who was probably about twenty. I don't think he knew I was flirting, though, because I mainly talked about how behavioural observation and neurology are too often separated in psychology. But anyway. 140115 ... nr i *love all the, say, 33-year-old men on it whose 'preferred age range' for a female partner is something like 18-31. so they'd rather date a teenager than date someone even a bit younger than them. it's a common enough preference that it warrants comment. *do not love i've been thinking a lot about age lately. 150912 what's it to you? who go blather from