how_can_i_get_him_to_want_me ClairE Posing as Miss_November may not be enough. Seriously, I have been falling hard for guys that are way too comfortable with not getting any. If you were/are a guy like that, what makes you fall for girls? Think a second about what "desperate" really means. I'm not quite without hope yet. I am just really trying. (Don't be disgusted. I'm too honest/lazy to curl my eyelashes or even talk sweetly to him.) 020115 ... kelli crane ignore him. act like he doesn't exitst. 020115 ... niki yeah...ignore him boys aren't worth the effort 020116 ... Toxic_Kisses Only ignore him if he happens to be anything more than an acquaintance, after all if this guy is simply an acquaintance than he probably won't really notice that your ignoring him. If he is only an acquaintance than find out what his schedule is And while I know your probably not still in school I'm going to use this as an example. Say after 4th period he always goes to the same water fountain to get a drink, arrive their b4 he does so as to "Accidentally" bump into him, but don't say anything more than hi unless he initiates conversation (Granted I'm all for the women making the first move but he @ lest has to show SoMe sort of interest (Such as glancing your way and than quickly looking away if he sees you've noticed him looking @ you or simply smiles when you notice him looking, theirs other signals too but that’s one of the most basic) b4 you can do that other wize your either going to get hurt bc u were turned away or he's just going to play w/ you and your emotions bc he knows your attracted to him)than just go w/ the flow. Also if you know he goes down hall C to get to his 2nd period class than go down the same hall but the opposite way, but again don’t say anything to him, don't even act like you notice him, he has to notice you fist, but don't do this too often just appearing wear ever he is all the time or else he'll think ur stalking him, so like go down hall C for 2-3 days than don't go down it for another 2 days, you have to make him want to see you. Bla, I know what I wrote sounds like utter crap but it's worked for me 4 out of 5 times so maybe it'll work for you too. 020116 ... niki TK....you are a genius! have you done this before?! 020116 ... Toxic_Kisses No need to be sarcastic Niki. She asked for advice and I gave it to her. 020116 ... pralines&cream You can't really *get* him to want you. People are attracted to who they're attracted to. But here are some pointers on how to better your chances: 1. Don't be a bitchy-bitch, to him or others while in his presents (you know how girls hate assholes? boys hate bitches) 2. Flirting never hurt 3. Be nice 4. Have a little attitude (but remember #1) 5. Dress to impress (this doesn't mean dress like a whore, but accentuating your assets is good.) 6. Have good hygeine. Brush your teeth, brush your hair, and put on makeup if you need it. 7. Don't make it seem like he's your only option, or even that you care very much if he is. Just be cool. There ya go, I hope my opinions help. 020116 ... pralines&cream P.S. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF!!!!! If you are naturally a bitchy-bitch, break rule one. You'll get some guy, just maybe not the ideal, non-asshole kind. Just remember that you will always revert back to your natural self eventually in the relationship. It'd be better to start that way. 020116 ... pralines&cream rule #1 was supposed to say "presence". I really am smarter than my writing looks. 020116 ... Toxic_Kisses I’m adding this one although it really works best on strangers than ppl you see often or even on a simi regular basis bc this could simply cause uncomphyness between you and who ever you give this to if thay don't feel the same way back. I read this one in a mag a few year back and have tried it too. You know those 25-cent machines that you get fake jewelry from? Take out the jewelry and instead replace it w/ a piece of paper that says your cute than say for instance you enter a library and see some one you like well just drop this thing @ his table as you just happen to walk by and than go and do what ever you were planning on doing b4 you laid eyes on him, be that to look for a book or sit @ a diff table and study, he will either fallow after you and start conversation or just go on like nothing happened. Or heck if you want put ur phone # on the paper and see if he calls you back, although I don’t really advise you doing that bc he could be a complete psycho. 020116 ... ~gez~ this would be a really good post. apart from the fact i am male, so i will have to ask the question how can i make her want me? i would make a new post but it seems such a waste of good blather_space 021018 ... aim for the jugular 021019 ... hey now! hmm... sounds like a good way of killing a deer to me 021020 ... freedom you can't.. he just has to want you.. your desparation seeps through.. men can sense it.. hell anyone can sense it.. if it's not there.. it's not there.. move on.. life is too short to waste on wanting someone who doesn't want you... there is someone out there willing to love you. someone who wants you without you needing to try.... 040321 ... echoes The best advise I can give you... love life sucks because when you want someone, he doesn't want you, and when you don't want him anymore, he comes crawling. The best advise, just move on even if it's hard. If it is meant to be, it will someday. If you keep running after him and changing yourself to get him, it might work but never for long because you won't be yourself. Just don't give a damn and stay through to yourself. If nothing happen, he doesn't deserve you. I know... when someone told me that months ago, I didn't believe them and said bullshit and kept trying. Well now I have to find myself again for a thing that wasn't even worth the while. 040321 ... minnesota_chris well said. I was going to say something antagonistic and grating, but I couldn't do any better than that. 040322 ... silentbob story: a girl that existed sometimes didn't pay attention to me. that just made me want her more. ignore him, and suddenly you'll seem interesting 040322 ... Anitsirk Yeah, I find that wanting the guy so much is the sure way to not get him. The more I don't want someone, the more attention they show me. So I say just ignore him if you know him really well. Guys usually want what they can't have. Or so they say. 040322 ... emmi i used to be really good at the whole playing_hard_to_get thing and giving the guys the silent_treatment, but for some reason it's gotten really hard. maybe i'm too impatient. and i don't feel like i'm being honest with myself if i dress to impress someone else...like wearing my hair down just because he likes it down, etc. the sad_truth is, sexy has nothing to do with being_yourself. 040507 ... Horny Cowboy Showem yer boobies! 040507 ... absolute pig Loose weight. 040507 ... Derghaust "The only things you learn are the things you tame," said the fox. "If you want a friend, tame me." "What do I have to do?" asked the little prince. "You have to be very patient," the fox answered. "First, you'll sit down a little ways away from me, over there, in the grass. I'll watch you out of the corner of my eye, and you won't say anything. Language is the source of misunderstandings. But day by day, you'll be able to sit a little closer..." 040507 ... iNsEcUrE_GoTh_GiRl i know what to do i'll get a sex change 040508 ... kookaburra hmmmm, i had absolutely no idear that ~gez~ was male...wowzers...i need to update my paradigms 040508 ... Eddie Murphy Put the boogie in your butt 040508 what's it to you? who go blather from