i_need_advice Arwyn okay guys I really need some advice... I'm a week late, and I've taken two tests that have both been negative, but I'm having symptoms, that have been confusing the hell out of me. 1) Breast tenderness (started about 4 days ago) 2) Fatigue ( however husband has been having problems sleeping and that tends to wake me) 3) Nausea (started yesterday) 4) Slight cramping (for the last 2 days) 5) Frequent urination 6) Mood swings (have noticed I have been becoming more emotional about trivial things but could be PMS) I just don't know what to make of these cause something else can easily be explained by something other than pregnancy... I just need advice and opinions... 020328 ... sabbie phantom pregnancy, where your body goes through all the symptoms except the fetus-growing one. my friend in highschool had one. her belly expanded a little and everything. but she wasnt pregnant, she had only either convinced herself or her body had convinced her for her. i can only reiterarte the above advice and say go see a doctor. 020328 ... Syrope Yea lots of times my friends will be late and they get so stressed they start having symptoms. its all psychological. the more you stress the more months you miss...I went 3 one time...i've learned not to worry until a test says + 020329 ... spiffy i have a question. this might sound really stupid. ok, i know this sounds really stupid. but seriously... how does one make friends? even though, being trapped in a cage, i'm sure this is impossible. ok, go ahead and laugh at me now, i know you will. 040711 ... Just do it OM_MA_NE_PADME_HUM... 040711 ... :) Amen. 040711 ... One OM... 040711 ... puredream spiffy please don't be scared by me... but something about what you have written in all of these blather pages made me want to be your friend, this morning while at work (because there's nothing I actually have to do) I read through all of your blathes... bottom to top. And I would still very much like to be your friend. Just by simply revealing yourself, even if fragment by fragment... you make friends. 040711 ... spiffy i'm not sure what to say to that. maybe that's my problem right there. 040711 ... Borealis easy. just say yes. 040711 ... spiffy i would love to be your friend puredream. 040712 ... puredream *extends hand* welcome to my my world. 040712 ... unhinged hey blather_family. i need your help. about a month ago, i started seeing this guy. we met back in the summer when i was already with someone else (who i had a bad break up with in the fall) and he seemed to fall off the earth for about six months. but, one night we ran into each other on the bus of all places and were umbilically attached to each other for a few weeks. then i had to leave town for the holidays. we were texting and talking on the phone regularly most of the time i was gone. i decided to write him a smooshy letter which i gave to him when i got back to town. he has been distant from me ever_since. he is having some of his own issues right now that don't have much to do with me, but i feel cast_out from his life now. before i left, he was really open with me about what was going on in his life. his phone got turned off yesterday for lack of paying his bill, but i can't help but feel like he is pushing me away. i want things to be more or less back the way they were before i left town for a bit. i guess i should just talk to him. but talking has never been my strong suit. especially when it comes to talking about my feelings. any suggestions? 100105 ... no reason it's not really advice so much as what you already mentioned, but i think you should talk to him. i'm the same way in that i'm not great at talking about what's bothering me when it comes to relationships with others, but i think it's worth it if you force yourself. maybe just mention that things seem different and ask him what he thinks. you may never know otherwise what could have happened while you were away, and i think if someone cares about you they should at least be able to be honest with you about how they feel. i guess i've just dealt with more than enough bullshit/overanalyzing/confusion in the past and find communication is the best way to avoid it. as obvious at that sounds. i hope this helps somewhat... 100105 ... thats *as obvious as* 100105 ... Ouroboros it sounds like right now his life/issues trumps his ability to focus on the connection the two of you share. and maybe 'falling off the earth' is a MO he uses often. maybe shouldn't be giving relationship advice 100105 ... . Think Newtonian physics - for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If you push, it moves away. Be gravity, and you will pull it in. Be interesting, but not interested. Relationships are like sand, squeeze too hard and you lose it through your fingers. Not useful, I know. It's all part of the stupid game, and you're either good at it or you're not. 100105 ... unhinged thanks guys. really. i do want to work through some of my own shit with this guy. so i think i do need to force myself to ask him what's up. it seems that our methods of communication are opposite, don't quite line up. i think direct is best in this instance. and he does have a habit of running when things get tough, but so do i. i hate playing games. i don't think being with someone should be about winning or losing. 100105 what's it to you? who go blather from