did_my_last_email_come_through methinx How the hell is one supposed ot answer such a question?? I mean, when it's been several weeks how are you supposed to know which email was their last... or if they have responded and it just didn't come through? How do I even go about asking her in the first place? Anyone...? 030207 ... x don't ask. you're probably being avoided. 030207 ... methinx But what if she thinks i'm avoiding her? And what if the thought of her avoiding me makes me want to throw sticks of butter into unsuspecting crowds of strangers or curl up in my colset and wilt all over every every word she she ever sent my way..... Or... what if she's just busy? She could just be busy, right? 030207 ... voice of knowledge sending e-mails is surefire. if she hadn't received it, you would've gotten a bounced back msg stating that it couldnt be delivered. 030207 ... methinx Well... What if she's gotten my email but just hasn't had a chance to write back and fells its getting to be to late now? Or what if she just wanted the next thing she sent to be tangible and she won't send it 'cuz she hasn't finnished the mix yet? Or maybe she's just too bogged down with her own shit right now and doesn't have the time or bandwidth to reply. And, I miss her... What should I say? ...or do? 030208 ... Sorry but..... There is no such thing as not having the time or being too busy. The reality of it is, people FIND time when they want something. it really is that simple. If she wanted to be in touch with you, she'd SHOW it by responding to you in any way that she could. Since she's not doing that, it's a super-safe bet that she doesn't have any interest in keeping in touch. 030209 ... mutton head amen to that. if only more of us realized that sooner. 030209 ... the_engineer MAYBE - Just maybe, she was waiting for you to show some more guts and friggin talk to her. What ifs suck. Dont waste your time reading my words, go NOW - if its not already to late. If you want something go get it, you can't wait for it to happen. its like this - If you don't put yourself in a postion where failure is an option, you'll never be in much of a position at all. - what if's suck. 030209 ... niska wow engineer, you got it right. Sorry but..., i disagree. there is such a thing as being too busy. i'm busy all the time. if people don't stop me on the way to doing soemthing, i probably wouldn't notice them. some people take that personally and they shouldn't. i put a lot of personal things on the back-burner sometimes. those who know me know it's not because i don't care, i just have no time right now. when it's important, they know they can come to me and i'll make the time right then. if it can wait, they just know i'll get around to it. i appreciate the respect they show by allowing me to do the things i need to do before i can start thinking about something else. focus is hard to keep when you're distracted. seriously, i haven't even called my mother in weeks. yes, i feel bad, but i don't have time to talk for two hours on the phone. she knows i'll call her when i do. same goes for friends. they know i'll call. if it's urgent, they can say so and i'll call right away. methinkx, maybe you don't know this person all that well. maybe she really is busy. OR if it's hotmail, maybe the email went into the junk mail folder because of the inbox filter and she dind't even read it. when people don't know it's there, they can't look for it, and all that shit gets deleted every week without the person even knowing what was in there. odds are, this person is wondering why you haven't talked to them. all i have to say about email, or letters or any non-personal form of communication, is it's cold. fine for business - bad for pleasure. i email the people who are involved in my tasks. i talk to the people who are involved in my life. you have to talk to people, otherwise, they will never know you're there, or that you care. if you're afraid, don't be. it's a silly waste of time. just walk up to her and say, 'hey - how's it going?'. if she says - 'whoo busy!' then there's your answer right there. so schedule something. at least try - you have everything to lose if you don't. 030310 ... . Yeah, but you're a bitch. Isn't advice from you really anti-advice? 030310 ... The Spork umm, "." isn't criticism from a nameless shit_raker really pointless 030310 ... . Um, no. 030310 ... minnesota_chris I thought her advice was very very good. 030311 ... niska i think whoever names themselves "." is a coward and a loser. your opinion doesn't matter because you are afraid to let anyone know who you are. you're useless, really. have fun with your private rage... ;) 030323 ... niska btw, "." feel free to do the opposite to what i suggest and watch all your relationships fail for lack of communication, you fucking ass-clown. 030323 ... minnesota_chris I'd like to place some criticism at Spork's anti-criticism criticism, and niska's critique of someone's criticism of her critique... um, we're all anonymous here, unless we're willing to have each over for dinner. I mean, both the Spork and niska aren't really names, and neither have attached emails. 030324 ... the spork Well, m-chris, i did have an email address, but the domain it was under died and i haven't seen fit to change it since then, thank you very much. research, man, research. 030324 ... minnesota_chris I'm not criticizing you, it's fine to be anonymous... you see point tho, didn't you? Unless we're ready to have blatherers in our living rooms, we're all anonymous. 030324 ... niska email addresses don't indicate someone's identity anyway. everyone's anonymous on the internet. i don't know who you are, and your email address doesn't really clear that up, does it? mine has my real name in it. is your real name minnesota_chris? if so, that's pretty unique... if you really like, i'll give YOU my email address chris. i don't really want to have to check hotmail every five minutes to delete a bunch of fwds and junk, though... this is why i don't attach my addy in the first palce ;) 030329 ... niska m-chris, niska is pretty close to my last name, but it's ok that you'd have no way of knowing that... 030329 ... minnesota_chris well, thanks for the offer... I was just agreeing with you... erm uhm wait a second, that can't be right! methinx... what she really wants is for you to sit outside her bedroom window and look really pathetic, and to call her at all hours of the night with a weepy voice. Sorry, I'm being mean. She's moved on, friend. Find someone different! 030330 ... niska haha! i know, m_chris. and i was just sharing... ?!?!?! is this really water i'm drinking? 030402 ... no reason wow. methinks methinx thinks almost as much as me. 030512 what's it to you? who go blather from