homophobia j_blue they say its a fear of homosexuality usually it describes the anxiety an alleged hetero male feels when he thinks about homo males, but it is everywhere there are still people who use the word gay to describe something in a negative light nobody really notices, unless they are sensitive to it today at my company's off topic list, a woman implied a man was gay indirectly, and the implication was that it was bad to be gay with my sibs, whenever we get in an arguement the draw always comes when they say 'at least im not gay', and my only come back is 'at least im not dumb' its funny how it always comes to that, how its always been that to the desperate and poor, at least they're not gay. which translates (for the rest of us) to things could always be worse... 001215 ... j_blue i was rereading my thang. i guess i have to excuse myself. when that lady posted to off topic, i had half a mind to say something, but because the homophobia was two implications away, i wasnt even sure if it was there. thats why i decided to make this word here instead. i figured while i had the gumption to do something, i might as well. 001215 ... silentbob there may be reasons for people to be homophobic. but those excuses do not justify persecution. Their ignorance should be punishable by cruel and unusual punishment. 001215 ... j_blue people have personal reasons for many neurosis, but then, thats what therapy is for... 001215 ... misstree from what i've seen, people fear things they don't understand, things they're not used to. they get skittish, they're not sure to react... in some cases, they're been religiously trained that certain things are bad... anything that deviates from the pinnacle of "normalcy" is automatically suspect, until the social norm is shifted. *crunch crunch* hear that? it's the tectonic shifting of social norms. :) all sorts of things are more acceptable today than they used to be... piercings, alternative religions, non-hetero sexualitites... and, personally, i do all i can to encourage that. if people think you're wierd, show them you're human, tell them why you think the way you do, you're not some monster out to destroy truth, justice, and the american way. unless you actually are, in which case you shouldn't tell them. /end diatribe *grin* 001215 ... Kolumbia "Homophobia; the worst disease. You can't love who you want to love in times like these." -Homophobia by Chumbawamba, a one hit wonder ("I Get Knocked Down") british punk-ish band. 031022 ... oldephebe "*crunch crunch* Hear that? It's the tectonic shift of social norms." very clever mtree 031022 ... Saint It Sucks and not in that good way, either. I was watching this comedian on a Comedy Central the other day who said something that just killed me it was so funny (and i'm not being sarcastic, either) I don't remember the rest of his routine, but at one point, he comes back up on stage and says "I have a friend who's really REALLY homophobic - and i mean in this day and age why does anyone still have that problem - and i told him 'Hey, I'll bet you're more gay than you think.' And my buddy flipped out and denied it up and down, so i asked him 'Do you watch porn?' He said 'Yeah' So then i asked him, 'do you just watch porn that only has women in it?' He said 'No, i like it with men and women in it.' Then i asked him, 'Well, then, do you like it better when the men in these movies have small, limp, flaccid [dicks]? ' And my buddy turned around and yelled 'No, man, I like big hard [cocks]!.......Oh my god! I did not know that about myself!" 031022 ... Zoe i hate homophobic people. my mother used to ask me all the time why i was so into gay rights. she basically thought i was gay. i tried to tell her i wasn't, but that i just saw people who were being discriminated against. in the sixties i would have been just as into the race issue. i tried to tell her i wasn't gay but it never worked, untill she realized i was having sex with guys. that brought on a whole new set of problems. 031023 ... celestias shadow makes me furious. this is one of the many reasons i despise high school. 031025 ... shivers everyone tries to imply that its a bad thing. whenever ppl call my brother gay he says "Oh, u'd like that wouldnt u" i know it isnt politically right either, but if he denies it quickly, wouldnt he be imlying that its wrong to? 031026 ... oldephebe has gone garrulous my mother..who is the antithesis of anything soft or nurturing was vexed by the artistic/vulnerable aspects of my persona when i was this slender stalk of passion and purpose and gentleness..i played sports,tackle football, soccer, basket ball or "rough house", ran track..she was used to the testosterone laden gestures of my father..his ribaldries, his implacable ire, they were two immovable objects together..anyway..yeah every now and then she would not so subtly suggest that my persona reeked of homosexual tendencies..and that maybe..just maybe was i a faggot and why don't i act more masculine..homophobia is abhorrent and yet it is inescapable..i must admit that i inflated myself at times with false male bravado when in the company of my teamates, or in the admiration of the female form..the ah vulgar objectification thereof..yeah i'm hetero-sexual and all..but even now sometimes when in the company of friends and associates i am vigilant over my sometimes what can be construed as effeminate proclivities of expression, body language and what not..but i have no patience for people who degrade or persecute or even gossip about an individuals personal sexual choice between consenting and equal adults..i think the reason why i've been involved with a handful of lesbian and bi-sexual women is probably because of the subtle insinuation of this effeminate proclivity upon an aspect of my personality..have i adequately ameliorated that asect through the use of uneccessary qualification and parenthetical aside? probably not..still though that part of my personality is where my empathy, art gentleness, patience comes from..so while i sometimes viscerally abhor my so called softer side..i gotta be thankful for it and eventually i guess i'll accept it.. still on a day to day basis with it i guess..boy do i need a drool bucket for all this solipsistic slobber and sentiment..blech.. 031115 ... smurfus rex I still have trouble understanding how some people can react so vehemently to this topic... but that doesn't stop me from provoking homophobes, because it gives me a chance to show them just how ridiculous they sound. a couple of my friends wanted to get me a t-shirt that said, "everything I know I learned from lesbians". too bad I moved. :) 031115 ... 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