apologies silentbob On the bright side, it doesn't get more painful than this. 030507 ... Anna_Began Apparently, mine are ignored. Oh well. Didn't really mean it anyway. It's just one of those nights. 030507 ... shivers i apologize for things im not sure i even did. and they r still not accepted. im starting to loose hope in the faith ppl r supposed to have in u 030508 ... User24 I apologise all the time, for everything from my words to my mere existence. I don't really mean it, though, so I guess that's ok. 030901 ... Toxic_Kisses Can be accepted but that doesn’t necessarily mean your forgiven 030930 ... misstree i believe myself to owe apologies to a goodly handful of people hereabouts, as i've been more severe than i am comfortable with for the past couple of days (see: the_wenchbeast_club, ask_jane, eyebrow_piercing, skipped_period, and prolly a few others). while i stand by my opinoins and opinions alike, i think i've been harsher than i should have expressing them. thanks to all for not raising a torch-weilding mob against me, and keep in mind that i (usually) don't mean any offense, as awareness of a problem doesn't equate to removal of the source, which is some deep-rooted but temporary crap. so, sorry, and bear with me and i'll try to keep myself muzzled. 030930 ... Cherry_Springwater My apologies to Lemon_Soda who has gracefully chosen to ignore my colorful language and uneducated opinions about his attitude. 030930 ... oldephebe overt apologizing though is an insidious enterprise..while the heart is in the right place..it can winnow away by subtle gradations your self esteem..that's somthing i had to teach my self.. my bad. oops! see what i mean? ... 030930 ... misstree i only apologize when, after careful consideration, i decide that i have indeed harmed someone through my own wrongdoing. if one apologizes constantly, not only does it winnow away self-esteem, and more importantly confidence (will i have to apologize if i do this? what will soandso think? i don't want to upset them!), but it also makes it seem less sincere when you really did screw up. i often find myself delivering verbal smacks to people who apologize too much. non-verbal sometimes, if i know them well enough. they learn that they don't have to be sorry for much around me. 030930 ... Lemon_Soda When appropriate a good thing. they let people know your truly sorry for what happened. I think I may be suffering from some of that, Misstree. Around good freinds, not so much, but most people wonder why I apologize so much, especially for things I couldn't possibly have had anything to do with, like when some random act of badness happens to them and they tell me about it or I witness it and say I'm sorry and then they say its not your fault and smile. I wonder what they think of me when they see me do that. Maybe its a guilty concience cause I second guess myself so much. 030930 ... mysticspiral If I said I was sorry for this, would you believe me- Would I believe myself- Could I say it with a straight face- Or would a vindictive smile creep slowly across my mouth, poisoning my facade of sincerity- 031020 ... marjorie I really do not have too many unsaid apologies. The once worth being said I think have been. And I'm sure there will be more of them. 040914 ... nocturnal I think I understand, at least more than I used to, why I should give them even when I'm still angry. I acted inappropriately and, as always, I refused to listen. but that doesn't make them any easier to give. being good and fair is hard. 060122 what's it to you? who go blather from