domination Death of a Rose just hasn't been done before, that's all. 040907 ... unhinged keep your hierarchy to yourself asshole. i was raised nominally catholic. i don't need anymore guilt or shame in my life 190515 ... Twitch I'm a dominant. Somehow I don't think that anyone would get that impression from any of my writings here. Somehow, somewhere along the line, I've picked up a strong capacity for setting a certain erotic tempo to things. It's funny because in all other aspects of life (business, friendships, whatever...) I'm very type B. 190515 ... unhinged ive been dominated in bed. might be my history of sexual assault, but it made me feel like a hooker in the worst possible way. i don't want to dominate others or be dominated. i question why people feel like they need to do this to others, especially sexually, and whether it is healthy even with consent. 190515 ... Twitch I can only tell you that in my relationships it was beautiful. I think a big part of it was the trust and love required to be so vulnerable with someone. Being able to joke with someone you really love in the midst of an argument about something as mundane as doing dishes. I don't think I had this specific conversation with the woman I love(d) but something like, "If you have a problem with the way Daddy does the dishes show me how you'd prefer them to be done or drop it. Don't make me get the riding crop...you'd probably like that too much anyway and we'd NEVER be able to do dishes together in a timely manner." This is followed by laughter - maybe some heavy petting and love. I have a very strong connection with being a loving, fun, dominant man (who can sometimes be a bit of a goof.) It's kind of a weird pairing. It's NOT for everyone. Not many people have that connection between dominant kinks and real unbridled love. And why would they - it's kind of a wacky combination. 190515 ... unhinged why does it turn you on when the woman you are fucking calls you daddy? my previous questions still stand btw. why do you have to be aggressive to the point of choking the person you are fucking? sexual assault aside i truly don't understand why human beings have to treat each other this way sexually for those of you that get off on that. I have never had the desire to hurt my sexual partners and after spending the past eight months with someone i thought i was in_love with only for him to tell me something is missing cause i don't want to be choked out during sex i am really struggling to understand how that kind of sexual violence is ever healthy and why people need it in the first place. 190515 ... Twitch The ironic thing is that I wasn't originally like this. I can remember relatively early on in my development a girl asked me to choke her during sex and I thought it was super weird. Somewhat similarly with the "Daddy" thing. I'd say that maybe it reflects on the women that I attract but the truth is that the partners that I've chosen as partners have all been incredible women. For me sexuality is like painting. It's a place to express any and all emotions through play. In short - maybe it was early experience with this that changed how I view things. I think a big part of it is control - definitely not an attraction to violence (for me). "Violence" usually implies that there is physical force intended to hurt someone - and I also generally pair violence with anger. I've done the opposite in some cases (resisted a woman's request for me to spank them) as a punishment. I'm not here to argue my lifestyle or anything, just give perspective. I would not get any pleasure out of doing that with someone who's not into it. Maybe I could even be happy with someone who's not into it - it's not the only thing that defines me. 190515 ... unhinged im not trying to be judgey. i have spent my whole adult life trying to be as unjudgey as possible. it is just an issue that is causing me a lot of pain right now. i also question peoples' need to control others. i resist having someone's control issues imposed upon me the same way i resist being choked during sex. yes our primate biology can lead us to these things but i think one of the main differences between chimps and humans is that as humans we have a greater capacity to resist such primitive behaviors as hierarchy, domination, control. we have a greater capacity for empathy, intelligence, higher consciousness, egalitarian behavior than any other primate. maybe it is time to evolve past the point of hierarchy and control, especially sexually. 190515 what's it to you? who go blather from