ask_kerry Mahayana kerry, what do you think is the best method for one to make a really tough life decision ... do you believe in the follow your heart at all costs method and what will be will be or more rational sort of reasoning? [hey maybe youd even do the ol' toss the coin method] just curious how you would make a tough decision. :] 020708 ... smiling foolishly kerry no way! this is super cool. wait i'd better read your question, heehee 020708 ... kerry well, when i have to make a really tough decision, i mull over it for forever. then i usually take out paper & a pen and write down each pro or con of the choice/decision i am making. this never helps but i do it anyway. then i shut my eyes and try to remember my first reaction when i knew i had to make this decision. :) 020708 ... squint Why am I always so sad? 020709 ... kerry you obviously haven't been listening to the hives enough. that should help. * * * * * * * * * * i believe that we are all sad. maybe you are just someone who recognizes it and can acknowledge it. that may sound like a load of shit. you might be sitting there shaking your head and thinking, "i don't know why i'm sad but that is definitely not why, i know that much." but that is how i usually explain it when i am sad without knowing why. maybe you don't feel valued. i value you. 020709 ... squint *scratches head* no thats not it. I'm sure ive got some sort of value. its just that i can always come up with immediate reasons for my sadness, its just that I'm ALWAYS sad and you cant blame this constant sadness on all those little things that everyone has in their lives. oh nevermind but thankyou. I really didnt expect an answer as good as that... 020709 ... kerry i'm sorry i tried you should still listen to the hives though if you don't already ;) 020709 ... kerrys_psych it's a chemical imbalance it's called depression there are drugs, but they will never do the job without unawanted side effects so this is your life congradualtions 020709 ... Mahayana "then i shut my eyes and try to remember my first reaction when i knew i had to make this decision." single most best advice you could ever give in my opinion regarding making an important decision, for i believe our instincts are the best hidden/underused tool as creatures we encompass [you are giving fabulous advice] 020712 ... kerry thank you. i reaaly dont feel as if i have the authority to hand out advice. but i would like to try, and i like to be asked questions. 020712 ... Kate Ok, we'll start with the superficial. 1) What should I wear to the Weezer concert on Monday? 1a) Should I bring my messenger bag, since I need some kind of purse, even though everyone else might have one too? I've had it for 2 years so I didn't even buy it to be emo. And then, the slightly more important. How do you know when you are in love? I always like hearing answers from a wide variety of people. Are their degrees of love, like "true" love and such? If so, how do you know if it's true love or not? 020712 ... kerry well.... 1) since i am going to a weezer concert this month too, this will help ME decide for myself. i think you should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. dont wear a weezer tshirt, or any other merchandise for the strokes or special goodness or sparta or whatever. wear your all-time favorite non-weezer tshirt. and maybe some jeans. 1a) go ahead and take your messenger bag. i have one and i am not emo. it doesn't matter. you need some sort of purse so put lots of interesting things in your bag and take it. and, in answer to your last question... i honestly have no idea, i dont even know if i have ever been in love. i have heard that when you are in love, you just KNOW. maybe you are in love when your heart just throbs for this person and the first thing you think of when rolling out of bed is them, and their face appears in every window and if for some reason you were to lose them, you know you would just stop breathing. 020713 what's it to you? who go blather from