a_little_advise Signed Okay, I have a slight problem. I don't know you guys well, but you seem so willing to help I thought I's give it a shot. There's a guy at work that I've been crushing on. We'll call him Charlie. He's a odd person; very hard to read, self confident beyond belief, he'll tell it like it is, but you don't know if he's joking or not. Also, I learned he has bipolar but takes his medication religiously. About 4 weeks ago I was moved to a department closer to him, so there's a lot more interaction between the two of us. The other weekend he asked me out, but never called to set anything up. Then he asked to go make out with him at his house during lunch, which I took as a joke because he's said it before. "Hey, meet me in the girls bathrom and we'll make out." But this time he meant it, almost like he was expecting but wasn't going to push. So anyway, the other day we went to lunch, and we started talking about sexual frustration being we're both very sexual people. He said he was tired of chicks liking him and then deciding to just stay his friend because he really is a nice guy. And again today at lunch he was harping about it and said he was just going to be a dick from now on so maybe he could get some. Everyone I've talked to says not to expect a relationship with him, that he's too 'free'. The last thing I need is a relationship. Hell, at this point I'd be willing to meet him in the backseat once a week and no one had to know. But I also don't want it to be 'Oh, yeah. I've had her before.' Our work is almost exactly like high school. I am way too shy to come out and say anything serious about for fear that I'm imagining anything that's going on, or he's just trying to make a fool out of me. And he's the kind of person that gets uncomfortable during a serious conversation. I'm so lost. Not even his close friends can help me. I don't want to let this one get away. I'm losing sleep over it. Any suggestions? Please? Tired and Confused 020722 ... daxle landers my thoughts are: drag it out for awhile... get closer to him slowly. it sounds like if you don't try at all he'll run, and if you try too hard he'll run. stay independent and be self confident. and most of all, always remember that whether it works out or not, you'll still be fine. 020722 ... Moonpiece it seems likely that you have an attraction towards him and might be developing feelings for him and he's in the same boat as well for you. definetly fuck and see what happens from there. and about being shy, i'd say take a chance. (yeah, sounds easier than done) either way, it's better to regret making a bad decision than not making one at all, or letting it slip by. 020722 ... confused That's very true. Thanks guys. 020723 what's it to you? who go blather from