helpmehelpmeohgod kinkazoid yeah so anyways.. about this charles guy (look under charles you will understand) i saw him again after like 3 years and he came over... we fell back in love and had lots of love making. charles is in the army though way out in buck fuck nowhere. he asked me to marry him and move in with him there.. the army will pay for the house and hook us up fat with benefits. were gonna get married in feb. my parents and some guy friends tell me im stupid and im gonna ruin my life yet i dont have a life here in illinois anyways.. i really want to go and i love him, he loves me. he is almost 20 and im 18 do you think this is too young? i need more advise and i trust the people on blather more than people i know. im probably goin to end up doing it anyways i just want to know what you think. let me know PLEASE!! 030107 ... Rhin why do your parents and guy friends tell you that you are stupid and will ruin your life? what were his reasons for breaking up with you? ...and not only did your best friend fuck him, but he fucked your best friend. he's young and you are young. this is a huge step! maybe he just doesn't want to be alone out in the middle of nowhere? if you say he loves you, then i'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. however, if you truly love each other, then wait...give it time to grow. why rush into anything? 030107 ... x I had a friend who did exactly this. She ended up stuck in a military community which she hated. The guy and her fought constantly, when he was there. She had nothing to do there. (something to think about, what will you do there, besides be with charles?) I don't think you're stupid for wanting to do this. I see how it could seem like a good escape. But without knowing everything, my feeling is that it would be a bad decision. 030107 ... Rhin i was once in the same situation that you are now in. i was also the same age as you. i didn't marry the guy, but i did follow him to another country. it turns out that i didn't know him at all. he just didn't want to be alone so far away from home, and he was a fucking monster and a half. i just didn't think. i jumped into it without thinking or listening to anyone. i lost all of that precious time...time away from being with a guy whom i didn't have any reservations about whatsoever. if you have any reservations at all, then don't do it! at the very least, think about the consequences. if you say you will probably do it anyway, then more power to you. maybe the both of you will be blissfully happy, and who could ask for more than that. i pray that is what lies ahead for you. also, living the military life is not all it's cracked up to be. so many fucking rules! believe me, i've been there. however, aside from the rigid standards of life on a military base, it can be fun. you may get to travel, and you will meet a variety of people. also, the active duty love to party! good luck! :) 030107 what's it to you? who go blather from