words_for_a_funeral emergeunited my friends mom just died from cancer yesterday. i dont really know what to say in this situation; i wanna avoid the cliches like 'it was meant to be' or 'time will heal your pain' or worse 'i understand how you feel' coz we both know i cant possibly emphatize w/ her pain even if i wish i could. im going to the wake/visitation tomorrow is there actually something i can say that can make her feel better. should i talk about her mom? or is 'im sorry' good enough 041203 ... Manchester Riots Just let her know you are there for her. I think that would suffice. 041203 ... emmi yeah, what the person above said. don't start with "condolences" and that crap, just tell her if there's anything you can do, to let you know. 041203 ... bird After a year or so, when i was in my most emotionally hardened state, if it came up in conversation that my parents were no longer alive and someone said "Oh, I'm sorry," I'd try to diffuse whatever tension by saying "Unless you're a cancer cell in disguise, no need to be, you didn't kill 'em." 041203 ... daxle after all these years i still don't know what to say. yeah, he died. yes, it will probably always affect me. please don't feel sorry for me. i've adapted pretty well. usually i just shrug and look down. 041205 ... . e_v_e_r_y__l_i_f_e__i_s__i_m_p_o_r_t_a_n_t:- 041205 ... Deomis "I never did care for him" I'll never forget the anger I felt then, when he said those words. 041205 ... stork daddy talking about death and you usually hit diminishing returns. so...we're up against the mystery of life again are we? fuck. i thought we really had some kind of meaning there for a second. weird how they just kind of disappear eh? and your dad is someone else's mom or lover or complete stranger. so what really can i say? i'd have a million people to answer to everytime i opened my mouth. so let's settle for what we think we have. friends, a house, conversation about things we create and terminate and know where they go...jobs, projects, houses, seasons. let's just do this how we're supposed to. we'll get drunk. we'll sing for two hours. we'll never talk about it again. every now and then each of us will in solitude experience little moments that will remind us of what it feels like to witness death. 041206 ... three words words_for_a_funeral fusion hello_ground 110415 what's it to you? who go blather from