romantic_vs_platonic no reason i guess what i don't get is how two single people can hang out and have so much fun and so much to talk about (silly, serious, and personal subjects), yet from one person there's no consideration of bringing the relationship beyond friendship. it makes me wonder what people are looking for. 120222 ... unhinged ive been stuck in that situation many times. at this point in my life ive noticed that a lot of people need to feel needed for something beyond friendship to happen. the other person needs their help, needs fixed, needs to change (in the eyes of the perceiver) so they fall in love which entails rolling up their sleeves and digging into the other persons problems. men particularly can be threatened by those they find equal or superior so they don't fall in love with women that seem that way to them (in a lot of cases). most people have very solid conceptions of romance and love and sexuality. if the other person involved doesn't fit their mold they don't even explore the possibilty. a lot of those conceptions have to do with society and unawareness. i was madly in_love with my friend anthony for years. we worked together, we wrote music together, we always had fun together. but he felt inferior to me as a musician because i have so much formal training. over the years I've noticed he always ends up with completely insaneo chicks who want to nail him down. the common thread of these girls is that they project a need of boys to help them through life. ive never viewed relationships in that way; I know how to take care of myself. its painful for me to watch these girls yell at him and smother him. i even went so far as to kiss him and tell him he wouldn't have that problem with me but he just smiled and pushed me away. he was not attracted to me that way. *sigh* it is painful to be in a relationship where you want more. until recently it was the story of my life to have platonic relationships with people I felt more passionately for. its a bitch 120223 ... no reason (and then things completely & unexpectedly change...) i guess there can be a multitude of factors. it's one of those things that fascinates and confuses me about human nature. 120223 ... unhinged neither is much of a problem for me these days 120808 ... jane always platonic with the friends. and then i get drunk, and start wondering what it would be like to kiss everyone i know, and if inebriation is an excuse for such a silly thought. i catch myself staring at all their lips, the way we chew or bite, or sip from a glass. the way ice touches lightly. the cool spot left behind. that could be mine. 120808 ... unhinged we were definitely never platonic 200909 what's it to you? who go blather from