babysitting_and_marriage girl_jane So...I started dating this new guy. He wants us to get married someday. I want us to, too. I haven't been around blather for sometime because I've been spending so much time with him. I've got time for blather right now. I'm baby sitting my future neice and nephew-the children of my future sister-in-law. It feels kinda funny...knowing who I'll be spending the rest of my life with...but if feels pretty good too. He's following me to Missouri-where I'll be going to school. We're waiting to make the engagemnt official-waiting to tell all the family members and friends. What I want goes right along with what he wants-the timing of marriage-the timing of kids-what we want out of life-everything fits...everything feels right... Before I met him, I said I didn't want a relationship right now. I was fine on my own-I was happy-I was going to go to school-focus on classes- Then he came-and I'm happier than I ever thought I could be, and I'm looking forward to the rest of our life together... 030721 ... j i don't want to sound preachy, but don't you think you should live together and think about it a little longer before you make a lifelong commitment? 030721 ... jane . 030721 ... x ...watching a kid, about 9 months old... hands grasp onto chairs, tables, to keep new feet steady... ...eventually comes the moment where the kid decides it's time for them to start walking... you see the look of joy on their face... confidence... ...that is is when i want to cover my eyes...... Crash. 030721 ... girl_jane "We're waiting to make the engagemnt official-waiting to tell all the family members and friends." Maybe you missed that part... 030722 ... Aimee I'm happy you're doing well sondra. The only advice i can give is, don't rush it. You might regret it someday (I do somedays lol). I think it's awesome that you've found someone to be happy with though. 030722 ... carlita my advise (of course, you are under no obligation to take it) is definately to live together before you actually get married. i was in a relationship for 5 years, and things were great. we would've gotten married, for sure. then we moved in together. well, the 5 year relationship turned into a 5 1/2 year relationship, and abruptly ended. it's amazing how little you can know about a person until you live with them. 030723 ... minnesota_chris You didn't ask for advice, girl_jane, so I won't offer it. 030723 ... go for it! advice_i_don't_ask_for 030723 ... girl_jane Yeah...I'm not quite sure what I was thinking. Looking back I think it was me being scared of leaving for school maybe...who knows. All I know is I was really wrong. 050227 what's it to you? who go blather from