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i have been with my boyfriend for two years now, and i have watched him change immensely. we have a very dynamic relationship, and i love him and care for him very much.
the first year or so of our relationship was open, and then we switched to being monogamous.
well the problem is for the past few months he has been very depressed and self-involved and because of all this we have not been having sex. i mean it's been about once a month.
of course this past week i have been invited by an old flame of mine to visit him at his cabin, where we will make art and lay in the woods, i mean amazing things will happen.
possible options:
-break up with boyfriend, go to woods
-stay with boyfriend, go to woods
-stay with boyfriend, stay out of woods because they are a temptation trap that makes my loins quiver.
others?
please help me. i don't want to break up with my boyfriend, i want to be as honest as possible, and i dont even necessarily want to have sex with this old flame, but i'm afraid i will not be able to fend of advances because i haven't been touched in so long.
please please help. thank you for your time.
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unhinged
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if you are in a monogamous relationship, don't cheat.
depression IS a very self_invovled sickness. it ruins everything. have you tried to talk to him about it? sometimes depression makes it very hard to see what you are neglecting because you feel so neglected...? *shrugs* but if you cheated on him and he found out, that could only make him feel worse. us depressed people don't want to neglect things; our depression just consumes us.
if you feel like you have grown apart, tell him so and maybe even break up with him. but i beg you not to cheat on him.
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any chance of bringing the boyfriend along, making art, and then making out all together.
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national hero
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Don't go.
You are your mind, not your body. Your conscience is more involved with your mind than your loins. You are worth what you do, so in doing the right thing (and you know it's right), you may find less reason to be depressed.
At least that's my dowel to throw in.
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Linus
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stay out of the woods for now.
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but i need a cigarette, it's no good being in prison.
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jane
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out of those options i would say stay out of the woods. but i think it would be advantageous to you to talk to him about your problems. it is always good to be honest.
if he doesn't respond well then maybe you should take a break for a little bit, maybe a week or so, just to evaluate things.
hope this helps. good luck.
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what's it to you?
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