accept_responsibility_please_do_not_make_excuses :( Perhaps you can accept responsibility for your behaviour and not make excuses for it or blame someone else. While I try to do the same as well. Feeling angry or upset with someone is no justification for abuse esp. through angry, hurtful, rude behaviours. Please do not purposely hurt me by saying things that you know will cut me deeply. Talk to me tell me how you are feeling. Even if it seems silly. I truly wanna know... Why not try... Honey when you say _____________ to me, it makes me feel like __________. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. And I do not want it to go either way. If I say something that makes you feel inferior or inadequate please tell me that please try to not rage on me and push me farther away from you. It only hurts and makes matters worse- even if you do always apologize for what you said- it still cuts oh so deeply. I understand that you don't make a choice to be abusive, that you are generally doing the best that you can given the emotional and psychological issues you may face or have faced in life. However, I love you and just wanna be with you, but sometimes I dont feel good enough to be with you. And when I stand up for myself and tell you that what you are saying hurts or sounds a certain way you have this way of punishing me or calling me a bitch b/c I could only take so much angry, louder than normal talking, or hurtful tones. That's not right honey, I shouldnt be punished for trying to communicate with you, If you think that me being tired of being talked rudely to and voicing my opinion (even if not as nicely as you thought I could have) than so be it, I'm a bitch) but honestly I'd rather be a bitch than to ever ever again have to swallow and deal with peoples anger towards me. Ive lived that way once for many years, and I do not want to like this way anymore. So please honey can we try to communicate more consciously sensitive with each other? please 030409 ... somebody "Why not try... Honey when you say _____________ to me, it makes me feel like __________." You truly want to know? Because no matter how I'm feeling, no matter what I say, you always have some sort of justification as to why you are right and I'm wrong. And don't give me that "it's not about wrong or right." If it wasn't about that you wouldn't justify everything you do and debate with me about how I'm feeling. 030409 ... health class proverb excuses are the nails that build the house of failure. 030706 ... Vlad I know, I am trying, I know my anger alienates people but sometimes it is excruciatingly difficult to refrain my immediate urge to stomp on people. I have a long way to go and I am sorry for my abusive wrath but it could be people like you who help me learn to express myself in a way that does not infringe upon your rights. 040414 what's it to you? who go blather from