alone_vs_together girl_jane My mother always said that I have to be a good alone person before I can be a good "together" person. I think that's a bunch of shit. People aren't meant to be alone. 040107 ... minnesota_chris but people aren't meant to depend on each other as crutches. the fastest psychoanalyst in the west 040107 ... girl_jane Even if it wasn't intended to be offensive, your comment made me a bit angry. Right now I do feel like being alone...tears and cigarettes. 040107 ... x i've been mulling this over for years, with piles of experiences as evidence. i do think that we need to be capable people on our own before we can have successful relationships. but, when you're unstable it's so appealing to attach yourself to someone else. so you can go through an endless chain of doomed relationships, hopefully developing as a person in between and possibly during. it's like trying to dry yourself off when the shower is still running though. 040107 ... minnesota_chris I'm sorry if I hit close to home. Life and love sucks sometimes, and I hope things work out better, honestly I do. And the feminist in me hopes you become strong and self assured. 040108 ... x is wise. 040108 ... my name it means nothing beware: if you are too good of an alone person you may lose all capability of being a together person. and by you I mean I. 081109 ... unhinged yes, i've been alone for so long i'm afraid i don't know how to be together. i feel nothing for the boy that wants me and the boy i want wants someone else. sadly, i know the spark i'm looking for exists. just not here. not with him. and i don't know how to tell him that. 081109 ... Lemon_Soda I have a feeling some of us will never be happy with what we have, only what we had or haven't had yet. 081110 ... unhinged my first reaction to that comment ls is anger, which i guess is because it's true. but when i tried to be happy with what i had with him, i only felt guilty. i have enough friends. i want head_over_heels heart_palpitating excitement. i want to want him to hold my hand in public and introduce him to my friends. and invite him up in my place and cook him dinner. i want him to be every second, not just the bored moments in between. that really isn't fair to him now is it? that he's just my bored moments in between? 081129 ... Lemon_Soda I wasn't singleing you out, unhinged. I had to learn that lesson so I thought I"d share. IF it struck a chord, though, it bears contemplation. I hope things work out for you. 081130 ... LEMON SODA RESPONDING CHECK 081201 what's it to you? who go blather from