what_i_say_vs_what_i_mean jennifer "I'll give you my cat" that means I like you!!! Damnit I like you, why can't I say that. WHY CAN'T I just FUCKING tell her I like her... DAMN!! "Hi, Mary, I really fucking like you, how's that?" why am I so weak? 010112 ... stupidpunkgirl when i told you i understood i meant that i was so sad and i wanted you to come and hold me when i told you that i was angry it meant i didn't understand why you left, and i wanted you to come back when i told you that i thought you were an asshole i meant that i wanted you to apologize and tell me how much you cared. and when i did tell you how i felt and meant it, you left i guess it didn't matter what i said, or if i meant it at all 010112 ... Quiggz If there wasn't a difference, the world would be a better place, perhaps. Or maybe we'd all get really pissed off at each other and nuke the world. Who knows? Or cares? Odds are there's not much to be done about it. Me thinks we should all just keep on rollin' day to day, and not think about it all the time. Otherwise we'd lose it. Like I have..... ghnog 010113 ... Quiggz Jennifer, fear of rejection, as it was, is now and ever shall be, for most people... those who it isn't, are most lkely egomaniacs, or lying. I thought I could come out and say it when I fell for someone... boy was I wrong. I guess we all just need to be able to be braced for the consequences either way. Rejection, or loss. Although neither one seems really smashing a choice, people who've experienced both tend to agree that it's best to just say it, in one way or another... "Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon." "'Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" Whether or not they're right... is up to you. I've got the saaaaaaaame problem, so I feel for ya. "Remember, I'm pullin' for ya. We're all in this together!" -RedGreen 010113 ... Christ without the cross The problem isn't whether i say what i mean the problem is if people understand what I am saying. Most of the things that I say especially in reelly deep conversations tends to get lost in translation. It just isn't interpreted properly. Maybe i need to work on expressing myself. Maybe it is impossible to convey what you REALLY mean with words. If people could feel what I mean, then that would be effective communication. 060930 what's it to you? who go blather from