is_it_possible_to_be_too_nice willpate my newly-minted ex certainly must think so. my ex-girlfriend of two years ago definitely thinks so. my therapist thinks so. other girls don't think so. course, they've never dated me. what do you think? 040408 ... Me Like Too Nice More insults and putdowns are definitely on the agenda for you, with unhealthy amounts of cynicism & hostile laced tones. 040408 ... wp what kind of society breeds people who don't want to be treated well? 040408 ... Compassion Welcome to the special species we call humankind. Our society breeds everything of mental disorders. Often hidden guilt is a driving factor for wanted abuse. Other determinates are childhood abuse which starts a vicious circle of self recrimination. Keep on being nice to people, don't let others decide for you in how you should treat others. Don't slip into a complacent feeling of belonging just because others have let themselves sink to that level. "Treat people how you want to be treated." But that's just my 2.5 cents. Take it for whatever it's worth or not worth. 040408 ... Moron And that should read "every kind". 040408 ... wp i suppose one might say that my being overly nice and accommodating to the girls i'm interested in could be the effect of some desire for abuse on my part? but that seems a bit off. instead, i think i DO treat girls as i'd like to be treated. 040408 ... etc I think you should be as nice as possible at all times, as long as it doesn't stop you being honest. I don't agree with people who say being nice is being naive. 040409 ... misstree sometimes being nice leaves you open to being a doormat. there is a balance. 040409 ... wp but what does "being a doormat" mean? wouldn't I be the one to decide when i'm being walked over? 040409 ... misstree you're free to determine what happened after your heart has been stomped on. 040409 ... string nice_guys_do_finish_last 040410 ... Farool WP? I don't know if you check this anymore, but I have my own handful of problems and an extreme lack of aggression is pretty much the root of it all. 051030 ... IGG i hope that you being so nice won't be the factor i blame. in the end it's all blame anyway. 051030 ... Lemon_Soda You can blame everybody for everything or nobody for anything... Wich reaction are you comfortable representing? 051031 ... oldephebe Can you be too nice? Yes ... 051031 what's it to you? who go blather from