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epitome of incomprehensibility Elizabeth Filips in "You're Not Lazy: How to Live a Chaotically Organised Life" says not to beat yourself up for wasting time. Instead, ask yourself what need/interest you were trying to fulfil, and then pursue that in a way you feel better about. 220823
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raze for all the fist-shaking and name-calling that tends to crop up in the comments, every once in a while someone says something simple and true.

like this:

"if you ever want to know what love really is, help an animal. they think. they love. they remember." 		220923
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raze "the gods are silent. curse them, and not one curses back." 230525
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raze "you can destroy the instrument, but not the music it leaves behind." 230627
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raze "for future reference, hugging is the least lethal martial art." 230730
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raze "regret is one of the strongest human emotions." 230804
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raze "we're all good at telling stories. they're built into us. they're the simplest way we've found to share information. we've been telling stories since the dawn of civilization." 230903
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raze "small kindnesses make a big difference." 230906
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raze "when you're not healthy, it's hard to be happy." 230908
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raze "the world doesn't stop for you. it doesn't reflect your prodigious and tormented inner life. if anything, it seems like it's mocking you with its glibness and the way it just plods along through it all." 230918
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raze "be happy with what you have, appreciate what you've accomplished, and stop annoying your customers." 230930
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raze "in the wild, trust equals love." 231001
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raze "over time we lose some of the vivid details, but the feeling remains and evolves into a deeper understanding." 231009
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raze "it's in the hard times that someone shows their true character." 231020
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raze "ars longa, vita brevis." 231115
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raze "i will now refer to food internally as 'possum treasure'." 231124
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raze "the deeper you go in the ocean, the more beautiful creatures you find. it takes a lot longer than fishing in a shallow pond, however." 231203
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e_o_i On avoiding misinformation and the urge to judge things right away:

"Find the context and do the research on the who and the why of the information you're consuming - find the primary sources, look into the history of the person saying it, or even just scroll through their timeline."

From https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjX3pncKF4s&t=1887s - I recommend all of this, which I just finished watching today

(started earlier, put it off because when I wasted time on YT it'd mostly be silly stuff)

although the video maker, Dead Domain, does insert some snark, so it's not all Serious and Miserable

(but it does kind of make me paranoid about AI-generated images...and then I fear THAT'S the kind of knee-jerk response I'm being warned against in the first place...but anyway.) 		231219
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raze "ghosts are very, very real. they're not real in the sense that you might expect, but if you do something terrible enough to someone innocent enough, you can bet your bottom dollar it'll haunt you for the rest of your life." 231227
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raze "lizards are so much like us. they love companionship, chilling, and one of them made facebook." 240128
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raze "small and temporary joy is joy nonetheless." 240129
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raze "at some point, we all like to imagine ourselves heroes who are going to right the wrongs of this world, but we simply can't because it's too much for any soul to take on. bad things will always happen. best any of us can do is try to make sure we do right by those closest to us." 240212
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raze "never assume someone's tolerance is a sign of weakness." 240214
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raze "do not be discouraged by failed attempts. that's what your journey is about." 240330
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raze "sometimes talented people are just more comfortable and more effective as the centerpiece of something small than as a cog in something huge." 240403
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raze "even if you don't care about yourself, remember: there are people who do." 240411
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raze "when you visualize your goals, you train your brain to believe they're possible." 240418
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raze "everything i know, i learned from my cat. when you're hungry, eat. when you're tired, nap in a sunbeam. when you go to the doctor's office, pee on your owner." 240501
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raze "asking an artist why they keep working is like asking a tree why it keeps growing." 240503
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raze "life has no guarantees or promises." 240511
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raze "grief is just love without a home. it'll always need a new home, no matter how much it hurts. and there's always something out there that needs your love." 240531
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raze "we don't have to win to be respected. we have to stay true to ourselves. we have to find the relevance in who we are and not strive to become what's popular." 240604
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raze "'was' is a really sad word sometimes." 240707
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e_o_i Comments analyzing this sketch - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/tKlo1D4TYyM - to the effect of

1) Answer questions honestly - e.g., you don't have to say you like a food when you don't. (Apparently Germans are more forthright about this kind of thing than Canadians - so said the immer_immersion teachers last year.)

2) But unsolicited negative feedback just comes across as rude.

...Also, the sketch is just funny to me because I liked pretty much everything I ate in Germany...except sauerkraut. 		240712
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e_o_i (three_slightly_disliked_vegetables) 240712
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raze "fiercely driven people give us wonderful things, but they leave plenty of carnage in their wake." 240714
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raze "the opposite of love isn't hatred. it's disinterest." 240802
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raze about joni mitchell's "both sides now":

"a 23-year-old wrote this for her 78-year-old self to sing." 		240815
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raze "they say you die three times. the first is your actual death. the second is the last time anyone actually sees you before you are buried. the third is the last time anyone utters your name." 240823
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raze "all noises mean something. some more than others." 240831
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e_o_i Actually helpful pop-psych: "Procrastination isn't a worry about starting things, it's a worry about finishing things."

At least sometimes it's that. I'm not always afraid to start a new task; sometimes it's more that I'm worried how long the new task going to take. Because it's new, and I don't have a time-frame reference. Or I'm nervous about switching from what I'm currently doing because I'm afraid I won't get back to it. 		240901
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raze "there is a huge difference between listening and hearing." 240902
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raze "for most animals, presence is a part of your existence. if you're not right there, or your presence at least (like your smell and other reminders), then the automatic assumption of an animal is that you've been eaten by something huge with lots of teeth." 241001
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