your_family blown cherry It's not so much insult I feel as offense. Yes, it would be appropriate to say "I feel deeply offended". Not to mention hurt, and believe it or not, a lot more hurt than I let on. It would be one thing for them to simply ignore my existence, acknowledge the state of affairs and just let it be. But the deliberate intervention, the deliberate attempt at drawing your attention from me, I'd be happier if they threatened physical violence instead of this wretched subtle psychology. Sometimes I can't fathom it, how can they want to know nothing of such a significant part of their sons life? I guess I am likewise too offensive for them. But I'm not so horrible as that am I? I'm not such a bad person, really, I can be good, I can be nice, and intelligent, and I can do good things for their son, even make him happy occasionally, but they don't want to know about that. Could I really be so ugly a person? What have I done to warrant such disapproval and disrespect? Why do I have to believe it is just embedded in my very being? Perhpas I should just try and twist it to my own ends. Perhaps for once they see this as something serious. All those who came before were frivolous, not something to be concerned about. But now, with age, ease and longevity, I've become a threat to their ideals. My place in his life has become such that I am now a contender in this game of long term match making, despite the cultural boundaries they have faintly outlined, but seem to be trying to make ever clearer. I have earned a certain gravitas, but it has not tipped the scales in my favour. 040409 what's it to you? who go blather from