the_line xaeld relationships- -how much is tolerated -boundaries -pushing away Where is The Line? I don't know if this is such a thing for me, because my parents tolerated things from each other that should not be tolerated... ...or because I just over think everything ...or because I'm human But I am unsure about how to decide where the line is. I have seen and endured the extremes of "not ok." I know what that looks like, and it hasn't been in my life for years. I also know that I have been intolerant and unforgiving of things that weren't so bad. I have been critical and judgmental when I might have been more understanding. I have pushed away, and locked out, those I could have just communicated with. I have lashed out, and punished, oh blah blah blah...all the ineffective ways I have related. Point being, even though there's been a dramatic improvement in the quality of my relationships, and the way I participate in them, over the years, I still wonder. Should we break up, or am I just overemphasizing the negative and ignoring the positive? Should I try to foster a closer friendship, or should I pull back? Should we talk about it or should I just let it go? Should I be more vulnerable? Where is the line? 150104 ... daelx There's also this thing where I fantasize about jumping in deeply with someone I hardly know. I equally fantasize about abandoning those who have really made a long term effort to demonstrate their care. I know better than to listen to my whims, but it does come up. Does everyone experience this? 150104 what's it to you? who go blather from