the_wisdom_of_friends raze "life's a messtery." — josh 130504 ... raze "life's too short to waste on someone who won't acknowledge you." — someone i was wasting my time on, who wouldn't acknowledge me (see also: cruel_ironies) 130521 ... raze "old people have ear hair. old people are repositories for the world's wisdom." — alice 130522 ... raze "trust shouldn't be assumed, it should be earned." — unhinged 130606 ... no reason "when it's right, [this kind of bullshit] won't happen." 130606 ... epitome of incomprehensibility "[e_o_i], you're intelligent, but you're not very smart." [the cousin who appeared in a dream as a cross between Anne of Green Gables and Prim from The Hunger Games] 130607 ... e_o_i I mean, she didn't say that in the dream, but in real life. When she was eleven or twelve and me somewhat older. Okay, I'll have to start the_wisdom_of_children now. 130607 ... raze "women belong in the kitchen. men belong in the kitchen. everyone belongs in the kitchen. kitchen has food." — cailley 130607 ... epitome of incomprehensibility I miss J. She's going to be away for three months. I've known her since I was 4 or 5. I'm not thinking of words right now, but characteristics. The first time I met her, she was crying about a puzzle. I'm not sure if there was a piece missing or not, but she dumped it on the floor and kicked it. That was when she was 4 or 5. That was the last time I ever saw her lose her temper over something little like that. I don't think I'm exaggerating. It's very hard to get into a fight with her. Once, in the summer when we were 12, we'd gone cycling on Lakeshore road. We came back too late to get to this youth centre sports thing at 6, and I blamed her for it. She was chattering away as we went back, so I looked at her grumpily and she stopped talking. Then, after she got home, I felt bad and called her. She came over and we watched a movie. (Of course, I needed to stay on her good side if I wanted free help in math.) When we were 15, we went to the same summer camp for a week. It was kind of fun - blue hair dye, jumping out of a canoe into a murky pond, heartfelt teenage conversations about towns vs. cities and one girl's love for the blue-haired counselor. There was an annoying girl who gave us "helpful" advice: J could "do something with her hair" and I could "do something" about the acne on the "T area" (tea area?) of my face. The scary thing was, she probably meant well. I remember standing next to her in front of the tetherball pole during free time. I asked her, a little annoyed, why she kept saying "It's all good" since it wasn't, clearly, all good? (Helpful Advice Girl had been getting on my nerves.) She said it was a sort of encouragement. (As if goodness was somewhere, even if the not-goodness was more obvious. But that is my present interpretation.) I asked, "What's if I climbed to the top of that pole" (I pointed) "and started throwing scrunched-up Kleenexes at people?" Evidently that was the worst crime I could think of. "Would you tell me 'it's all good' then?" She paused and thought about it. "No, I'd say that to the people you were throwing Kleenexes at." 130926 ... raze "the upside to sitting on a plane next to paris hilton would be that you'd be in first class, and maybe she'd give you the coke. it would be a waste of a buzz, though." — jackie (and i like this J person. she does sound wise.) 131002 ... no reason "you don't light up when you talk about [said person]." 131011 ... raze "time is what turns kittens into cats." — emily 131226 ... unhinged . 'one of the things i've always liked about you is how relaxed i can feel around you. like i don't need to have my guard up' which is probably why he dumped me, tried to demote me to friend 131227 ... Teeth the demonic loan shark i said the cats/kittens quote above on a buffy episode 131227 ... raze "maybe we're all partly everyone else." — e_o_i 140114 ... raze "the ladder of success is not nearly as convenient as the escalator of success." — josh again 140206 ... raze "why does everyone go bananas? why doesn't anyone go cherries? or oranges?" — cerah 140406 ... flowerock friends can be doors, portals to opportunities you would otherwise miss. they have you in mind, you have them in mind, you share things with each other that remind you of each other. life enhancers. It takes a village to raise quality human children and protect and grow human hearts, friends are the village. 140406 ... raze "before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow internet to see who they really are." — emily again 140429 ... raze "wagner was a badass before he became a conservative and wrote a bunch of crap about how jewish people eat babies." — erin 140605 ... raze "we need something better than emoticons." — adam 140613 ... raze "i've realized that time travel does exist, but you can only go forward one second at a time." — murad 140706 ... flux the_russian's_wisdom 140726 ... raze "robot love is better than no love at all." — ben 140809 ... raze "memory is what we are. your very soul and reason to be alive is tied up in memory. those moments are when the gears of the heart really change." — matt 140822 ... raze "when i have a kid, i will not be a father. i will be a child, raising a much smaller child." — kenny 140903 ... e_o_i (paraphrased) "Sure, there are some friends that are closer than others - we have different levels of friends. But it makes more sense to concentrate on being a friend than worrying about what your friends have done for you lately." - Sybil 140915 ... e_o_i (and from a different perspective) "We should not blame love for our foolish giving of it" - Jocelyn 140915 ... raze "a true disappointment in life is looking forward to eating something and then opening the container to see mould." — sarah 141029 ... raze "i like knowing the sun is there. it doesn't mean i need to see it every day." — greg 150803 ... raze "money makes people do strange things." — nick 160409 ... raze "never post anything on facebook when you're drunk. it never ends well." — ric, while tuning my piano 160624 ... raze "truth is an elusive bitch. the struggle for it is noble." — adriane 170411 ... raze "drinking rum all day doesn't make you an alcoholic. it makes you a pirate." — sean 170805 ... raze "time flies when you're locked in the house looking at porn all day." — veronica 211001 ... tender_square ryan and i were lamenting that restaurants and shops in toronto and ann arbor are all about selling an “experience” now—there’s no authenticity anymore, there’s a dearth of humble spaces that accept anyone and everyone. Everything is constructed and curated towards the sole goal of getting one’s brand promoted on social media. “they don’t realize that the only experience they’re selling is alienation,” he said. right-o, brother. 211013 ... tender_square “if i want to relax, i’m getting a massage; i don’t want something in my butthole.” —annaliese on colonics 211019 ... kerry "filming a concert weakens the experience. put down your phone and enjoy it." -isabel 211019 ... tender_square “numerology personal year nine, letting go, is the cosmic garage sale.” —jane 211121 ... tender_square “you don’t need a thumb to smoke.” — ben 211217 ... e_o_i "I know you don't like changes, but the dog will warm its way into your scared little heart." -Lia (The expression is "worm its way," but her way is more heart-warming. Plus it avoids the confusion between the real animal and the metaphorical one: worms and dogs are different.) 220217 ... tender_square "who knows? i'm not a dog psychologist." —erin 220430 ... tender_square “a foot stomp is not a tantrum, it’s punctuation.” —laura 220614 ... tender_square i'd like to nominate nr and raze for the "best human" award in honour of their responses to "second_guessing." i appreciate you both having my back red fam. to borrow from josh groban, "you raise me up, so i can stand on mountains." 220807 ... raze "why don't you do what you dream?" — maya 220810 ... tender_square "no matter how many times you tell a man that you're unhappy, he'll still be surprised when you leave." — kristen 220827 ... tender_square "the mistakes are part of the journey." —raze 230317 ... raze "there are no small blathes; only small moments." — tender_square 230718 ... tender_square "we accept the love we think we deserve until we come to understand we're worth a lot more than we thought we were." - raze 230803 ... tender_square "times of crisis tend to show you what people are really made of. and it's...not often good." — raze 230813 ... raze "try to stop time and you only stop yourself." — daxle 230823 what's it to you? who go blather from