advice mikey isnt it amazing how we all can give the most amazing advice...yet cant take our own? when we give advice then is it not a possibility we are giving advice to ourselves? 010307 ... soia "oh I give myself such good advice but very seldom follow it" Alice in Wonderland 010307 ... mikey i love alice in wonderland. in fact theres an alice in wonderland game i wanna buy i hear its a great game. 010307 ... soia I seen it and attempted to play it. I'm not too praticed so it was hard for me, but visually it's really cool. 010307 ... silentbob all i get is bad advice 010308 ... mikey bad advice is good if you dont listen to it. if you know the negative then the positive should be obvious. of course i wish this was always so easy. 010308 ... mikey so take my advice and dont listen to a word im saying! 010308 ... silentbob i always eat the bad kind 010311 ... unhinged why did he ask me? why did he get me involved if he was just going to do what he wanted anyways? nice to see my words mean so little to him.... 010315 ... soia "Bootstraps" by H2O 010315 ... jem i love alice in wonderland i find it funny how the author (the name escapes me) wrote it while on drugs my favourite quote is from that story: "drink me" 010315 ... silentbob Lewis Carrol. 010422 ... pralines&cream advice for men on how to get women to respect you (at least somewhat) (mostly applicable to immature guys): If you do something stupid, either on purpose or by accident, in the presence of a woman/a group of women, take the time to right it. e.g.: If you are walking with your friend and you walk into a trash can and it falls over, you will look better in a woman's eyes if you pick it up than if you laugh (trying to cover up your embarrassment) and keep walking (as if it's no big deal). e.g.: If you knock over the water jug at a girls' soccer game, you will gain more respect if you refill the jug than if you take a few steps backwards saying "fuck that" when they ask you to fill it back up. There you go, men (and boys, who especially need this advice). 020206 ... opinionated i think the key thing about blather_red is realizing that it's the same system, but it's different than blather_blue. i mean, outright, it's a different color, a different age. there's some different people. but apart from that, you might have to sit around and ask yourself, "how else is it different?" or "how would i want it to be different?" and then proceed from there. if you've been at blather_blue for long you know that blather changes it's face over time. here at blather red, the distinction is obvious, and there's no need to just copy the current ways of blue into red. be spOntaneOus as you please, however. 020327 ... pilgim One should always strive to leave a place better than you find it. Pack out your own trash, but also anything else you find that doesn't belong there. If someone is struggling with a load, Pitch in and help. This should be done as your dues to the Brotherhood of Man. Sure women may be impressed (any worth impressing ) but that is only a small reward for right thinking. Correct thinking, like stupidity is contagious. What kind of world do you want to pass on? 020328 ... uow my best advice is don't listen to me 040925 ... filing cabinet hemispheres All I can say is: 1) Sometimes you just have to Blather to make it better 2) Don't look at the rain 060531 ... no reason "don't change so people will like you. be yourself and the right people will love the real you." it's a nice thought, but what if the wrong people love the real you? and what if the people you want to love you don't? 130328 ... unhinged then you stumble and curse and kick and scream and cry about the unfairness and stupidity. i've tried so hard my whole life to get other people to like me, love me, appreciate me. now i know, when that doesn't happen, it doesn't have anything to do with me. over the years i've cultivated my own greatness. if they can't see that, that's their fault. i will keep on loving, breathing, walking, and 'discriminate with awareness what to accept and what to reject' and leave a little sadness in my heart for those people so caught up in their own suffering they don't see the beauty right in front of them 130328 ... raze i've always been better at giving thoughtful advice than i have been at taking it. i'm working on that, though. 130329 ... past don't trust the bald barber 130401 ... no reason it is not up to you to meet the expectations of everyone else. you are allowed to say no. if people will think less of you for doing so, it is their own issue. do not let anyone take advantage of you. don't be afraid to tell others how you feel or to ask for help in return. you deserve support too. 130607 ... no reason i suppose this is more of a mantra. 130607 ... epitome of incomprehensibility The publisher who taught a class of mine and whose name makes me think of a plant said no, he doesn't have any jobs available, but I should email someone in a publishing association who might be able to advertise that I'm looking for work, or something. I mentioned this to my parents at the table yesterday. (We were all eating supper at the same time.) I said I was thinking of what to write, for example, "I have X degree from C where I took A class, and Y degree from B, and I worked for Z publishing company, but it was having financial troubles." At which M and D pounced on my words and demolished them. "No, no: you can't mention that. You'll only guarantee you WON'T get a job." They looked at me as if I were crazy. "It's a matter of common sense." Maybe so, but the reaction took me aback. "Why shouldn't I mention experience at a publishing company if I'm trying to get a job at another publishing company?" They insisted I shouldn't even mention it. "Why should I be ashamed of something that's not my fault?" more heatedly. (I was supposed to have a three-month training period, it was at least in the verbal contract, but the manager fired me when he decided he couldn't afford to keep my job.) "He's the one that should be ashamed. I don't want to live in a country where that's considered shameful." "Yes, you do," said my father, which didn't really make sense, but he was getting frustrated. (Of course a country where everyone does what I think is fair can only exist in my imagination.) It's what keeps arguments going: when someone opposes you, you generally want to oppose them back. I wasn't being dramatic only because I believed in what I was saying; it was at least partly for the sake of contradiction. (Oh yes, and my brother interjected his opinion that my old boss was a "social Darwinist" and that he probably believed in Kipling's poem "White Man's Burden." We shouldn't have ignored him like we did. He was using my usual argument-diffusing technique, distraction by humour and/or randomness. Well, Mom and Dad, if you don't have sensible children you at least have interesting conversationalists.) Later that night I went to my LinkedIn profile and deleted the mention of that company. I suspected they were right, at least in that it wouldn't do anything for me: I had no "connections" from that company, I'd worked a pathetically short time there, and I needed to edit the wording of my profile anyway. But look, I did learn things last March - in the short time I worked there, I translated a whole storybook from French to English, something I'd never done before. It hadn't even been in my job description, and I did a credible job of it. Surely that should count for something? Why do I have to erase the slate, pretend I'm starting from scratch? They say they have common sense on their side, but is there any on mine? Dad softened, tried to be psychological, said not to take this personally, but I seemed determined to make the best of a bad thing. Of course, I said. What's wrong with looking at the good side? and I mentioned the above. ...Anyway, to return to the present, I took their advice, but I still haven't emailed the publisher yet because I'm afraid I'll say something wrong, as apparently I was so close to doing so before. But I am a coward. How do I balance being careful and forthgoing, and how much should I compromise my honesty/stubbornness for public convention? It's not a yes or no, either-or question. 140326 ... epitome of incomprehensibility I emailed her. Not that it will likely do much good. But I think I should err more on the side of taking risks than on the side of doing nothing. 140327 ... tender_square you deserve a love that looks at you and kisses you like gomez does morticia. 221031 ... tender_square “look at me. look at the bags under my eyes; it’s hard on your own. sometimes i miss the security of having someone else.” 221124 ... tender_square "don't treat your spouse like a 'nag.' if she is 'nagging,' you are probably lagging." —pamela clark 221129 ... tender_square don’t use your chest as a table for a mug full of coffee and then cry. 221209 ... e_o_i The classmate said it in prose, but my memory rendered it in rhyme: Vitamin D deficiency can cause skin sensitivity (I don't think it's just that, but starting Vit D again won't hurt.) 221210 ... tender_square "couples with erotic intelligence know that foreplay is not something that happens five minutes before the act; foreplay is continuous and begins at the end of the last orgasm." —ester perel 230122 ... tender_square amanda noticed a sticker on the table we were seated at in kings bakery, a wise nugget of wisdom for us both: "growth requires rest" 230129 ... tender_square "we should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow anything beautiful from them." –alain de botton 230131 ... tender_square wisdom from a yogi tea bag: "the purpose of life is to know yourself, love yourself, trust yourself, and be yourself." 230311 ... tender_square don't trust experts; trust yourself. 230402 ... tender_square don't let other people's urgency dictate your own when it comes to decision making. 230403 what's it to you? who go blather from