horrible_things_people_have_said_to_me raze "if you ever cut your hair, i would break up with you. i mean, if you had cancer or something and that caused it all to fall out, i guess i would understand. but otherwise, no." 251129 ... raze "your feelings are irrational." 251130 ... ovenbird "You shouldn't be upset about your miscarriage. At least you know you can get pregnant." 251130 ... raze "your hands are as cold as a corpse's, and all my love for you was in vain." 251201 ... ovenbird "Some women just move in a way that's attractive. They have an innate sexiness. You're not one of them." 251201 ... ovenbird "If you don't want to fool around there's no point dating. I'm not that interested in you. I just wanted to gain some experience before high school." 251202 ... ovenbird "You really have to start dyeing your hair. You have a responsibility to be attractive to your husband." 251203 ... nr this thread is breaking my heart a little. people and their cruelty, sigh. i feel like i have more hurtful_things_people_have_said_behind_my_back_whe, so there's that. 251204 ... oops i guess i meant when_they_didn't_know_i_was_listening. 251204 ... ovenbird "I see that your painting is getting a lot of attention. But I just want you to know that it isn't actually very good. You haven't drawn the legs properly at all. I just didn't want it to go to your head." 251204 ... raze "you can't even read music. you're going to end up on the street, homeless, playing a broken guitar with one string, crying into your long filthy hair while you beg strangers for spare_change." 251205 ... ovenbird Upon confessing my suicidal depression to my family doctor she laughed and said, "just have another baby. Then you won't have time to be sad." 251205 ... raze "you know, when you first started growing a beard it looked really stupid. it looks a little better now, though." 251206 ... ovenbird "You have no idea what it's like to have real problems. You just live in your safe little bubble and never take any risks. Your life is boring so you couldn't possibly understand what my life is like." 251206 ... raze "you're one of the most inconvenient friends i've ever had." 251207 ... ovenbird "There's no point studying the humanities. You're wasting your potential. You should be a doctor." 251207 ... ovenbird "If you can make milk you can make enough milk." This was an outright lie told to me by the women running the prenatal group I went to when I was pregnant for the first time. I believed this lie and then got to experience insanity from the inside when I could not, in fact, produce enough milk to feed my baby. Looking back on things, this particular misleading "fact" was deeply implicated in the years long depression I suffered after my son was born. There were other contributing factors (sleep deprivation being a main one) but the seed of my demise was in this stupid and dangerous assertion. 251208 ... ovenbird "You actually have nice feet. I don't understand it. They certainly don't match the rest of you." 251211 ... raze "i showed my ex a picture of you. he said you're ugly." 251212 ... raze after being told of an abusive childhood and adolescence that almost killed me: "i think it's about time you grew up and apologized to your mother. family is family, after all." (no. the people who try to destroy you and think it's funny when you fall apart don't get to call themselves family.) 251213 ... ovenbird After someone asked me on a date for the first time in my life and I said "yes": "Ha! just kidding! I'm asking a bunch of people out to see what they'll say!" 251213 what's it to you? who go blather from