flaky nr every time i think i finally meet someone who isn't like this, i get disappointed. i don't get it. is it a millennial thing? are people just more scared of commitment (to anything)? i just have no patience for it. this time, you weren't flaky at all at first, and then we talked and you asked on two separate occasions if i wanted to hang out. but then both times, you kind of backtracked and said you might be free but you weren't sure. the first time was cancelled; the second time is technically still tbd, but pretty sure it'll follow the first. i just don't get what the issue is. if someone contacts you and wants something, what happens? i wish i didn't have to come to expect this from people. it's not that hard to have an exchange like: "want to hang out on [this date at this place]?" "sure!" end conversation, meet up. or one person can cancel if they need to, with good reason. 151124 ... nr at least i won't accept it from people anymore. i guess. maybe that means i'll be alone forever though. if said person wants to hang out again, i'm just flat-out going to say "name the place and your availability and i'll make something work if i can." no more work done on my part. 151124 ... unhinged i call it like it is...flaky is too nice of a word. if you cant follow through on plans, especially plans that you intiated, then you are a rude asshole. i am also sick of this. i also dont put much time into people like this or hope for people to act better. i think it isnt just a millenial thing; it is a digital age poverty mentality thing. hate to break it to you honey, but i am waaaay better than anything else you have ever crossed paths with. go ahead, dick me around for that elusive and imaginary next best thing. i would rather be alone than spend time with rude assholes. 151125 ... unhinged (and as much as i hate being alone, that is saying a lot. at this point in my life i dont have energy to waste) 151125 ... nr i did end up seeing him last night, and when we parted ways, he was all, "let me know if there's anything cool going on downtown soon," (he lives in a suburb, sort of), and i half-joked, "what am i, a social planner?" he kind of half-laughed. 151125 ... nr yet again. we make brunch plans today. i arrive at the restaurant a few minutes late. half an hour later, he still isn't there, and is all "so sorry, running late!" (which is just great to be told about when you're already half an hour late to meet someone.) i end up walking back home, since thankfully the restaurant is just a block from me. i ask him just to meet me at my place instead when he's ready, and he asks, want to do dinner instead? i'll pay, your choice between dinner or brunch, my fault, etc. etc. so i said okay, we can do dinner. he says, maybe 5 or 6? and i say, how about 7, since 5 or 6 is kind of early for dinner (especially since it's already 2:30)? he says sure. i mention a restaurant i've been wanting to try, and he says he wants to try it too, but how about later on tonight? i say okay, but why? he says that because of the weekend plans that fell through (long story) he now has errands to run, etc. then asks if maybe we could do just drinks later and dinner another time this week (being like "i'm trying!"). i say no, because i am not available, and then i am leaving the country on thursday. so he says okay, he will do what he has to do and try to get free early enough to meet me at the restaurant near my place. i ask if he really does think it'll happen because i want to plan my day. he says yes and that he'll give me a heads-up. i still haven't heard from him, and have no idea when i will, so don't know whether to eat dinner or leave my home area or make other plans or whatever the fuck. normally i wouldn't even put up with this bullshit, but i really feel like i need to talk to him about all this in person (among other things), so i'm trying to make that happen. (this is unreasonable behaviour, right? people are so flaky these days that i'm not sure what is considered normal and forgivable and what isn't.) 160529 ... nr i mean i guess i should appreciate that he was trying to reschedule, but why suggest something and then two minutes later ask if we can change/postpone plans? 160529 ... nr my friend and i had plans to talk yesterday (she has free long-distance) but she never called 160529 ... nr we hung out the other night, and i told you i wanted to go to a music festival outside the city, but didn't really have anyone to go with and wasn't sure i wanted to go by myself. i asked offhandedly, "wanna go to [this city] on sunday?" and he said "sure!" and i said, "really?" because i wasn't being totally serious in my question and was surprised it was that easy. he said that he'd be around, and that it would be nice to rent a car and have him drive me for once (i'm the only one of the two of us who has a car, so i end up driving sometimes). and you said to send you the festival info. so, this made me happy not only because i had someone to go with, but also because you wanted to do something together that we've never really done before. and i know i'd have fun with you. so, i sent you the info the next day, and you didn't really acknowledge it; just responded to something else i said. so i gave you a couple of days before asking if he was still in for the festival. he said "potentially! i'll know soon." and then days passed and you never let me know if you could go, and i found out randomly today that you're out of town elsewhere. admittedly there was a bit of insecurity and wishy-washiness on my part in there too, but that was only after you said you were only "potentially" interested. i mean... is it me, or shouldn't "sure" actually be taken to mean yes? 160820 ... nr ...okay, i mixed up the hims and yous. but you and him are all the same. 160820 what's it to you? who go blather from