bad_boss_day epitome of incomprehensibility It happened in the summer. I should let it go, but it stings. I'd been tired and was making mistakes, N. said I had focus problems, I bristled and said she'd been treating me unfairly, which was probably an overstatement or stated badly. N's response was to say of course I could look for work elsewhere if I didn't feel happy here. Then she said that I probably couldn't get other work unless it was "about focusing on one thing at a time, like dog-walking". The fuck? And dog-walking isn't THAT simple, especially if there are multiple dogs. Clueless classist. Eh, maybe I'm also classist to take that as an insult? And she was under stress because I'd just made an easily avoidable mistake. And I'm sure I've said meaner things in my life. BUT. The whole "Yes, you can leave me, but I don't think you'll find a good X anywhere else" seems like it's taken from some cautionary tale on abusive relationships. Plus, this was in the middle of a speech about how she was accommodating. When I tried to say I accommodated her as well, such as being flexible with her coming in at different times, she bristled: I shouldn't criticize my SUPERVISOR for being late. That wasn't what I meant to do! I was trying to show that things work both ways; I was trying to reconcile while asserting myself, if such a thing is possible. And and and - if she thought the statement was condescending coming from ME, how did she think it sounded coming from HER? Nice? "Accommodating," blegh. I was about ready to join my friend H's sister in stating categorically that I hate bosses. At least this term is going better. This is me wallowing in the past. Let me go wallow in the future. The future promises to be pillowy, good for wallowing. Marshmallow-pillowy. Clouds of... wait, hurricanes? No, nevermind, I elide words, I have nothing to say. 170908 ... jane mine is terrible. every day. for example, we've had a standing weekly meeting on wednesdays at 1:30. until today, we hadn't *actually* held the meeting since august 16th. instead, he will be somewhere else, schedule other things on top of my meeting, or simply forget. additionally, he doesn't care about his employees as human beings, doesn't care about their souls, or their creativity. or even their capacity. just get the bare minimum done, keep your head down. you'll get paid. he gets paid far more than the rest of us. some glitch into which he got grandfathered in. keep your head down, indeed. 180202 ... e_o_i Yesterday. A throwback. Also the fact that I'm working there 20+ hours a week until the new admin assistant is hired (hopefully for me the person he wants to hire will agree to start next week). I hashed this out with David today, which makes me guilty of unleashing secondhand_stress on him, so I don't need to elaborate ALL the boring details. Basically I was tired on Friday and made some little email mistakes and didn't budget my time well (although there wasn't enough literal time to finish everything he wanted me to). I don't know why the tension made me feel so bad, though. Mostly I was frustrated it was back to the old dynamic: -him overexplaining things, insisting on lecturing me and making me see the big picture when it would make more sense to focus on the task at hand (it seems more about him wanting to be right then actually accomplishing anything) -me grumpy, tired, guilt driving me to try to fix mistakes but then going too quickly and making new ones At least he didn't tell me my facial expression wasn't professional. (That was a weird one.) And I didn't cry or snap out. My anger was more exasperation. We're getting better, I guess. Slowly. 230128 what's it to you? who go blather from