casual Spellchecker Casualties are often not casual but then they must be cruel. 011106 ... cocoon Feeling like I've been too casual. Not appreciated the beauty that is Blather. But that is in the past. Stop dwelling on the past (and go to bed.) 060912 ... cr0wl cas 100906 ... unhinged something better might come along at some undetermined point in the future, but for know you are good enough (am i the only one that sees treating/thinking of other people like this as fucked up?) 160519 ... nr i think casual only really works in terms of dating, and if everyone is honest about it from the beginning. a date with one person here, a date with another person there, to see who you connect with. but communication is important, especially if/when something starts to feel more frequent or relationship-y. i hate the dating thing though, so i'm with you. it's much better to connect with someone organically and have something real develop. 160519 ... unhinged if you connect with someone there is still that feeling that everyone wants things to stay casual so if the magical unicorn comes along they can be free to chase after it and not feel like an asshole for running out on you after you instantly gratified them for a couple weeks or months. it is really childish to me. but it is the definition of social_media and social networking. amass as many interesting things (people included) to you so your status rises; disregard any and every thing that doesnt show an immediate benefit.. i dont belong in the social media world. in a tech city that means i dont exist. i will just quietly live my boring corporate slave existence and come home to my empty bed and stop wasting my energy on any kind of relationship. it is becomingly increasingly futile. 160519 ... nr i don't like this word unless it refers to clothing. 160813 ... unhinged (i have developed a habit of abandoning me at the first mention of this word. i guess that would make the last one more of mutual ghosting situation) 160813 ... unhinged *men *sigh* how freudian of me 160813 ... nr i don't even know the word for it. it's a semi-regular thing, but you've been honest with me about the fact that you're not over things that have happened in the recent past (though apparently you're over the relationship that caused them; i'm a bit unclear on that part), and you're working on getting your life back together. and you're not capable of a relationship. but you say you enjoy spending time with me (and i know this to be true) and think that us enjoying each other's company in the present is the important thing. it took me a little while to decide if i was okay with this; ultimately i decided i am (so far) because i guess it's good that i still get to spend time with you but also keep my options open. but it makes me naturally a bit distanced and wary of getting attached. it also complicates things in certain scenarios. i went to a show of yours the other night with a few friends, and a lot of your friends were there too. there was some hanging out with you, but mostly we hung out separately or talked to each other a bit awkwardly in front of our friends. inevitable awkwardness because, who are we to each other? how are we supposed to act? we were talking a bit at the bar after your set, and when i was ordering my drink, a bunch of girls came to talk to you, so i left. not in an angry way; just went off to talk to people i knew. i noticed you looking over at me, though, and then you gave me a big hug at the end of the night and messaged me later saying you were glad i got to see the show. people. 160925 what's it to you? who go blather from