a_series_of_petty_annoyances tender_square 1. when i told him that my sister may be accepted to a pilot program where she can train to be an electrician, his response was “i know people in the trades and it requires a lot of patience to diagnose the problem.” 2. when i said that i it was inappropriate that my sister’s boyfriend was calling her three times in the middle of the night after she left his house during a drunken argument to get away from him and that he didn’t believe she went to our parents’ house to stay and interrogated her the following morning, my spouse’s response was “it takes two people to have an argument and i don’t think it’s fair to rush to judgment when you know how your sister can be.” 3. when i said that instances #1 and #2 had upset me because i didn’t talk about his family in such a way, his response was “i don’t like how your family pretends that everything is okay when it isn’t” and he equated what was happening with my younger sister with the way my older sister’s behave with their addictions. 4. when i said, “how does this affect you when we’re hardly ever in my hometown?” and he conceded that i had a point about that and perhaps he needed to let it go. 5. when he got back from playing poker for three hours famished and complaining that he didn’t just want to eat the slice of cake that i’d gotten him, that he needed “real food” when i had just waited with friends for a half hour for our takeout and would’ve either gotten him something or saved half of my quesadilla had i known. 6. that he didn’t go to the bathroom in our friend’s hotel suite before we exited the casino and that he left me waiting with two bags of luggage while he went to find a public restroom on the gaming floor. 7. that he got panicked when the on-ramp to the fisher freeway was closed because we didn’t how to get to the windsor-detroit tunnel from the area of detroit we were in (i managed to find it without gps, thank you very much). 8. that he wanted me to stop at the tim hortons outside of the tunnel and that they weren’t serving food at 10:45 at night because they were fifteen minutes from closing. that he insisted i press about it, “you really have *nothing* to eat?” 9. that i was having to drive him around to find something to eat on good_friday and a lot of places were closed, it was late, and dark and rainy and i was tired of playing chauffeur. 10. that the following morning, he assumed that i wasn’t going to help unload the groceries from the car, when really, i had been unlocking the house for us and putting my wallet down so that i wouldn’t have to juggle them all at once. 220416 what's it to you? who go blather from