birdmad the active form of the verb "despise,"
(as in "she despises me now")

usually mistaken for hatred but more precisely denoting avoidance and antipathy. That which you despise is that which you want no part of--you go so far as to try not to think of it. It is that which you refuse to acknowledge the existence of.

Whereas hatred on the other hand indicates a high level of emotional involvement. You are inclined to be vehemently opposed to those things that you hate, even going so far as to risk confrontation.

by definition, "despised" is the opposite of "cherished"
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