third_wheel nr twice tonight, with two sets of couples. a friend once told me to think of it as being a welcome addition rather than a third wheel. it's a good way to think of it, and i'm not so bothered by it all, usually, but it would be nice to maybe have a wheel of my own for once that i care about and that lasts awhile next to the wheel that is me. 150327 ... fishawk Tricycle I guess tricycles are good for all ages. A tandem... maybe... would be the team effort you seek. Maybe get a tandem and ride it around until someone joins you, might be a good fun way to date, but then I don't think I've ever really "dated" So I might be way off... 150327 ... nr these days it's not even always about being around couples; it's more about not being anywhere and therefore only being a blip in people's lives. and i kind of hate dating. 150327 ... nr a wheel doesn't need to be a date, necessarily, but just someone who needs to be around you as much as you need to be around them. 150327 ... fishawk I think I would hate dating too... it seems that my relationships have blossomed out of friendships at relatively appropriate times and for that I am grateful, and hope that this one is the last one ; ) When I was younger a friend and I decided basically what you just said... we all want someone to be as excited to us as we are to see them. This may be why I love dogs so much as well. If solitude suites you then that's fine... if you're lonely though, then get out somewhere that people you like and respect are doing something that you like doing. Drag preexisting friends along or just go to make new ones... Or don't mind my repetitive boring "advice" because I don't know much at all about you or your life and probably shouldn't be advising anyone really... 150328 ... nr ha, no, advice is always good. thanks for reading. in a nutshell, i don't really live anywhere right now (well, where i live isn't where i want to be living for long), so it makes commitment difficult, and it's also difficult to re-insert yourself into the lives of others and the life of a city, when you haven't been back long and you want to leave. this is at least part of what causes the lack of attachment. i don't regret my decisions, but they do make things lonely sometimes. 150328 ... nr and a relationship that develops out of a friendship is the ideal. 150328 what's it to you? who go blather from