compliment gja Something good 101104 ... n o m e e match 101104 ... nr i tried to get something from you today. i told you i'd had lots of judgments and expectations put on me, and no appreciation or compliments, and that it's been hard to deal with. you said you wouldn't be someone who would judge me and that i should just be myself. which is nice. but i wanted you to compliment me. i know it's not fair that i set you up to say something i wanted. and it's not your fault you didn't, but i was disappointed. you never really compliment me in a real sense, unless it's about my appearance, so i guess i also wanted to give you an easy in, in case it's not the kind of thing you bring up easily on your own. clearly it didn't work. i wonder sometimes what it is you like about me. 171103 ... e_o_i Alexia of immer_immersion likes the colours of my clothes. Her friend and classmate Emily offered this addition: "You look like a popsicle. In a good way." 230522 ... nr amid all his chatter and "old man yells at cloud" moments that we hadn't paid for but were for some reason getting, there was some helpful info. he told me, after hearing my short story, that i had a knack for writing people in real-life situations that seemed, well, real. and accurate. and easy to picture. 231126 ... nr a higher-up at work said i'm "very process-oriented." 240301 ... nr "you're such a uniquely kind person." 240422 ... nr the hippie "you have such a great vibe." 240626 ... e_o_i Someone came into Aunt Sarah's shop while I was working on batiks in the studio. "Are you teaching her the craft?" she asked my aunt, after peeking in to see me. "Not so much now, she's a mature artist in her own right." That felt partly nice and partly undeserved. Or maybe she just meant that I'm older than I look. (It *could* be a compliment to tell someone they look young, but to me a more potent compliment is telling someone that they're doing a good job at something. Also, young-looking doesn't mean beautiful. Case in point: me. But I think it's easier to be considered ordinary-looking than ugly OR gorgeous. Better for an introvert, maybe. You sort of blend in.) 240824 ... nr i would trust you with my life. -(quite possibly misguided) co-worker 240829 what's it to you? who go blather from