caring soia I wonder if it shows that I care more if I leave him alone (respecting his need for space), or if I pursue contacting him. I figure if he wanted to talk, he knows where I am. He emailed me of free will. Doesn't that indicate wanting to talk? But then he doesn't come on irc, even when I know he's around. I guess my only real choice is to stop caring so much. It's fairly challenging. 010306 ... mikey perhaps he is sitting there saying the same thing about you? in which case youll both get nowhere very fast. 010307 ... mikey say this for instance: I wonder if it shows that I care more if I leave her alone (respecting her need for space), or if I pursue contacting her. I figure if she wanted to talk, she knows where I am. she emailed me of free will. Doesn't that indicate wanting to talk? But then she doesn't come on irc, even when I know she's around. I guess my only real choice is to stop caring so much. It's fairly challenging 010307 ... soia Try this on for size: "I am the one who said I needed space (she now knows this was wise, but it was still my decision). She emailed me back because I emailed her first. Actually, she didn't respond to the email before that but it was pretty clear that I wasn't expecting a response. Besides, I talked to her after that. I'm sure she's on irc, and at home, and perfectly willing to talk. I just don't feel it's the right thing to do right now." 010307 ... mikey i could go on and on with this one. a million things pop into mind. maybe its because i know what he might be thinking at least in a simple sort of way. instead im simply going to leave off. here. not there. right here. 010307 what's it to you? who go blather from