power_trip jane not enough people watch out for it. i have six friends, (some who don't know each other, some who do) who are all going through major relationship issues, half being divorces. the three that are going through the divorce process know each other, but the situations are so vastly different that it's surprisingly difficult for them to relate to each other's processes. anyways, one of the women was talking about how she was afraid her now-ex was going to take the house away from her, even after she had made a hefty offer to him and his mother (who had joined the divorce). i told her, he doesn't even want the house. it's not about the house at all, and it's not about the television, or the antique coffee table, or the picture frames, or the dish set. it's about having power over you. it's an all out stuff-war. another friend has been with her boyfriend for about 2 years, and she said he has a problem with her wearing this certain dress, and that he won't leave the house with her in it. i said, it's because he wants power over you. she said, where does that come from? and i said, insecurity. you probably look damn fine in that dress and he is afraid you are going to realize what a schmuck he is when you see what you could have making googly eyes at you. so it's not about the dress. it's about power. it goes on, with the others. and surprisingly, none of them seem to get it, not even after i say it. i got it, when it was told to me, when e and i had the custody battle over the dog. it wasn't about the dog. he never wanted her in the first place, or else he would never have left her. he wanted power. over me. 100806 what's it to you? who go blather from