i_love_her leif and that's all i need to know. 140621 ... leif but what do you do if you're not in love? 150301 ... gja I've forgotten what that means. But if i am content to be all hippy about it that be construed as a good thing? I ask, perhaps for reassurance, because maybe forgetting indicates entrenchment. Which is good right? Entrenched. 150303 ... epitome of incomprehensibility "Tired of sometimes" doesn't equal not loving. Beyond that? I dunno. I've been reading your words, both of yours, and thinking and feeling them. At what degree would loving shade into not loving? I don't think love has set boundaries, but I also don't like giving up on people easily (reasons of abuse or other safety issues aside - there are times when it's best to get away, and that isn't necessarily a "giving up"). This might not be what you're worrying about, so I'm sorry for the wordiness ahead. I do think you have to know someone well to love them. In musically_confused_dreams, my character's Love at First Sight isn't something I'd ever take seriously. But then, when you know someone well, you can find out things about them that make them hard to love, and the separation part can be quicker than the getting-to-love part. Recently I was down in the dumps, not even from being dumped, but just from being not-liked-back - I didn't know the person well enough to be "in love" with her. A few years ago, I was in love with someone enough to consider moving to another country, which wouldn't have worked logically, but - and here's another "her" I'm having trouble loving, this time in a family-ish way - after that break-up, I could confide in my mother because the one loved was a him and not a her. This time I can't because... oh, what the hell. It's not fair. I understand she has different views, but I don't find what she says fair. Hey, Mom, your red hair is unnatural. Oh, you say you were born with it, so it wasn't just a result of putting henna on brown hair? Well, the majority of people don't have red hair. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Anne of Green Gables, right??? In seriousness, it makes me edgy, even though I'm not particularly horny nor romantically oriented most of the time, that if I fall in love with the "wrong" gender of person she won't like it. But I should say I_love_her: my mom, myself, and more... because there's something telling me, whatever happens, I need to be better. It gets better? She gets better? They get better? Pronouns get better. This is just the prolegomena. 150304 what's it to you? who go blather from