hardship_porn nr "[my ex] was half white but he definitely had an asian fetish. he just didn't understand that he too can fetishize asian women. asian-americans and settlers like us have a tough time belonging," she said. "and then you go back to your own culture and people think you're too white." i sympathized with her and then wondered what it was like for someone i've recently gotten to know who is half-chinese and half-egyptian. "i used to think mixed kids were so blessed to be so beautiful," she said. "now i kinda want to avoid that for my kids." "oh really? how come?" i asked. "it's hard culturally," she said. "no one looks like you." i thought about that, and a potential story idea formed in my head. "that sounds like it could make a good novel," i said. "haha, sounds like cultural hardship to me," she said. i started to type and then stopped, then started again and then stopped. she offered "i'm fun at parties!" i replied, "no, it's really interesting. i was just wondering where the line is between entertainment/relatability and, uh... porn. but i don't really feel like i can or should weigh in here." i brought up the book "a little life," which people seem to either love or hate, and it's been referred to as trauma porn. when i was about 10 years old, i had a piano book that included random soft-rock hits from the 80s and 90s, and one of the songs i played was the theme from the movie "love story." my mom liked the song, but she'd seen the movie and thought it seemed manipulative. "it's one of those movies that's just made to make you cry," she said. 221009 what's it to you? who go blather from