grenade tender_square “you can’t just lob a grenade like that and leave.” “i wasn’t upset, though; i was just making an observation that you didn’t offer to help me. i was fine to go and work on my own.” “but the problem is that it assumes that i should have the same values as you.” “this is not about me inventing jobs—trust me, i dislike doing this stuff—i do it because this is what being a homeowner requires. and i do them in the moment because i don’t like procrastinating.” “you can’t hold onto grudges from the past going forward now.” “it isn’t a grudge though, it’s merely a statement of fact. you have never helped me with the outdoor work before. yes, you have gotten better with helping inside, but that has been recent. just because that has improved over the past couple months does not mean that it has changed when i’ve done these things for the majority of our relationship.” 221101 what's it to you? who go blather from