condolences cocoon My condolences on your loss -- Why are you telling me though? I dont know what to say (to you). I can only give you trite/tired responses. Platitudes. I dont know. I dont understand. Im really not the best person to be doing this. I am sorry for your loss though. 090731 ... unhinged as if words could fill the hole in my life that gets bigger every year, a hazard of living that eventually the ones we love fall to death one at a time (thanks kevin) 120123 ... epitome of incomprehensibility Should I say I give them? Should I go to the funeral home next evening after work? Because the person who died I didn't really know as a person. I knew him as a member of the artisan committee who made wooden ornaments. I'll miss the wooden ornaments, but I can't really tell people who are grieving: "I miss looking at that cool stuff he made." 150823 ... raze you know, i've always felt awkward saying, "i'm sorry for your loss." i know it's often the safest, most respectful choice. it's what you're supposed to say. it expresses empathy in a neutral, inoffensive way. but if i'm ever at another funeral, i'd kind of like to leave propriety at the door and say, "this is bullshit. dying really fucking sucks." 231025 what's it to you? who go blather from