how_can_i_help nr this question should be asked more. i want to ask this question more. it hits differently than "can i help you?" or "do you need anything?" which are both kind offers, but having someone just naturally decide they'll help you and get straight to the "how" is a bit of a gut punch of kindness. so, red_family, how can i help? 220822 ... epitome of incomprehensibility That makes sense: it invites specificity (e.g. "Can you open the window, please?") while leaving room for an opt-out (e.g. "I don't need anything right now, thanks"). Sharing observations like this is a kind of helping, I think! 220822 ... past and sometimes the help offered is what is needed, which can cause all kinds of problems. not so long ago, when future was fresh, this is what we need instead of the well meaning prescriptive offers that were more trouble than help, or added more burden to our very busy and chaotic lives. 220823 ... raze i think you help immensely just by being here and being who you are. reading this felt like a hug. and i love how you phrased that. a gut punch of kindness. that's the most beautiful body blow we can throw, isn't it? sometimes knowing someone is there for you, and that they really see you, is everything you need. 220823 ... nr i think "it's the most beautiful body blow we can throw" sounds like it needs to be a song lyric 220823 what's it to you? who go blather from